Marriage & Divorce - 31 October 2007

my marriage life is a failure, husband does not want to go for work, me working earning well, two kids, husband always suspicious and now i have a good friend with whom i go out and spend time together, i am very much attached to him, he makes me happy in every way, i was attached to him more because of my husbands suspicious talk, i am happy when he is around even though my husband hates me he want to sleep with me daily which i dont allow, because i dont love him at all, i dont have any guilty feeling that i am having an affair, how to tell this to my husband, can any one guide me

2007-10-31 23:45:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 25 year old daughter has been going out with her boyfriend for about 4 months. It's really been bothering me ever since she started dating this man. When she'd visit us, she'd have bruises on her face sometimes, but she'd never tell us where they came from. I did some background research on this boyfriend, and discovered that he's been charged with domestic violence in the past. But when I showed my daughter these things, she seemed more annoyed that I was probing into her personal life and told me to mind my own business. I tried to convince her to break up with him, but to no avail.

Now I find out that he proposed and she accepted, and now I don't know what to do. She's an adult now, so I can't tell her what to do anymore, but I fear for her safety. I don't want her to be in a house with a violent man that will beat her. But when I try to tell her this, she goes into denial, and starts defending him, so it appears that she won't listen.

Is there ANYTHING I can do?!

2007-10-31 23:18:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married 18 yrs. It is school break here and my husband has taken holidays. Everyday so far he has played or taken one of the kids to tennis both morning and afternoon and gone out one evening to play tennis. i have gone out myself with one of the kids. I feel like a maid just there to clean up and cook meals. I moved to his country for this!
are your marriages the same?

2007-10-31 22:24:40 · 19 answers · asked by tp 1

go without sex if your on bad terms with your partner.. how long is too long..?? i think we've gone for too long but i'm not sure..1 and a half weeks..:(

2007-10-31 22:13:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-31 22:00:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

it's been 14 long years since i heard any news , and what i don't understand is why do i still have this thing for her ? although i knew that shes happy and having all the time of her life right now and i have a relationship for more than 13 years. but still theres a piece of me that saying to 'tell her about this feeling i still have '.

2007-10-31 21:48:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-31 21:34:03 · 18 answers · asked by Ibukonola 1

It's very strange for her to be acting this way but she at the moment seems to be a little too clingy.
She is always brushing the lint of my clothes, baking me things you know and i love her for it.
But recently when we went out to a dinner party and one of our mutual female friends made a "pass" at me she got extremely mad.
I can understand this but honestly it was just a bit of harmless fun.
She always asks me if i love her (which of course i do) but she also repeatedly asks me if i have ever cheated on her.
I NEED SOME SPACE.
She always comes in and talks to me while i'm in the shower etc etc.

It's driving me crazy.

2007-10-31 21:31:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister in law is a very, VERY sexy women... She always wears mini skirt and when ever she bends over i get nice view of her underwear\thong(she does it on purpose, just so i can see)... Lately ive been peaking on her (while shes in the shower..) And let me just tell you Her body is Grade A..!! I love my wife , but i just cant get over my sister in-law... What should i do? My wife is going to be gone tomorrow for work and im thinking i might go into my sister in law 's room and try seducing her in to a fun little bit of sex... I think tomorow will be very interesting day for me.. Should i go thru with it? Your opinion..?

2007-10-31 21:17:31 · 36 answers · asked by Joe 1

i feel like my baby dad and i dont have anything in common anymore we are always figthing for no reason what could i do to make our relationship better

2007-10-31 21:01:17 · 13 answers · asked by sporty_girl96 1

are you old fashion when it comes to courting? if youre not an american..how about sharing your views.I asked to compare how people in the west think about..compared to asians. Thanks.

2007-10-31 20:51:19 · 3 answers · asked by kookakoolagoo 2

For a person who is very happy with his living. He eats a lot. Plays a lot. Loves chatting. Enters in Marriage beuro. Spend lots of time in watching TV.

2007-10-31 20:18:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, I am asking this question for my friend.

Both he and his wife are working in the IT sector in India. She is earning about Rs 25000 per month. They have been married for about 8 months now. Due to severe differences of opinion and her stupidity about everything if they decide to get divorced now:
1. Will he have to pay his wife any money? How much? How can he avoid it? 2. Can he request her sign some agreement so that he avoids paying that money?

Please let me know as per Indian Marriage laws.

2007-10-31 20:13:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been arguing more than ever. Ok ill start from the begining so you understand better.
He has a group of friends, hes known some of them since before we started dating. Anyway a couple of his friends girlfriends always cut my husband down, say hes lazy , unmotivated ect... they talk about him like hes stupid, to his face and behind his back. (ok he is very unmotivated) not stupid though. they even cut down their own bfs. well I love my husband very much (dispite his falts) and it really hurts my feelings to hear someone talk badly about him. Its almost like they are saying it about me too. Well made comments befor that I dont appriciate it. but they kept doing it, anyway in july I mentioned to a mutual friend that it was pissing me off and that i was avoiding these 2 girls because of it. so needless to say, it got back to them. They called me and started yelling at me and sending me nasty e-mails (very grown up) I havent talked to them since. more---->

2007-10-31 20:10:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

when a guy and girl get engaged am i suppose to buy him a ring as well??

2007-10-31 19:33:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were both down when we met. Got her pregnant, she admitted that she did not love me then. Though she's saying that she loves me more now, I am still in doubt. by the way am making 6 digits bucks now per month and starting to noticed that she's a spender.

2007-10-31 19:16:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

well im in college away from my girlfriend shes pretty good i but it doesnt seem like shes someone i could spend the rest of my life with.
but its odd that i have gone out with someone that seems like what im looking for but i just dont get the same feeling as i do with the girlfriend im with now.
do people really find what their looking for or do they just marry who ever is the best alternative?
for those of you that are married is your spouse what your looking for?
I'm in college now and i know this is where people usually find whom ever their looking for but im not the cheating type even though im far away should i look for someone else and lose this girl or is marriage about the next best thing?

2007-10-31 19:06:55 · 9 answers · asked by Tim H 2

Some background:

2 out of the 7 years you've been married (year 2 & 3 specifically) were 'pure hell' for your mate.

Though you loved him/her; had good intentions; shared many good times; great bond; & laughed a lot - you also treated your mate badly. You were easily upset at them, assumed the worst of them at every turn & were violent (threw stuff around, e.t.c.).

Fast forward to 7 years down the road (today) and everything is great. You two couldn't be more happy - it's almost pure bliss.

You have changed tremendously - you are considerate, loving, kind and feel guilty about the 'bad' times. You have set out to 'fix' as much of the harm done and appreciate their 'hanging in there'. Your hubby couldn't ask for a better relationship.

Today your hubby is asked if he/she went back in time with the knowledge of how things are and were, would they choose you again and they respond with: "No. I wouldn't go through year 2&3 again for anything!"

How would you feel and respond?

2007-10-31 19:01:38 · 13 answers · asked by jeristhin 3

We both inlove with each other in fact he introduced me already to his family except for his wife.he got problem with his wife attitude even his parents are not favor on his wife because of her very bad attitude.really he wants to divorced his wife but for the right time as what he said since he has 3 kids and his wife has some psychiatic problem which leads him to worry since we are both working abroad. he cannot divorce his wife this time since we are both outside and he is afraid what would be the action taken by his wife to his kids...what shall i do please advise me....really i don't know what to do..her wife used to hurt his kids even the kids are afraid to their motther esp the eldest one...in short he is really not happy for his married life and there is no divorce in philippines..please try to advice me i really don't know what to do, we are more than one year in our relationship now.

2007-10-31 18:48:10 · 14 answers · asked by chell 1

ill explain, I dated a girl from 16-21, we were truly in love & it ended pretty much cause of time & age, we just became different people & I needed to move on cause I didnt lover her anymore. It was true love, not the kind in the beginning where your really emotional & sex is great, etc.. the relationship went past that point at about the 2yr mark, started to dull & then I made a mental commitement to her cause I loved her & a different & deeper kind of emotion returned. Heres the thing, if we are all constantly changing throughout our lives, wouldnt this just repeat itself & the 2 people get tired of eachother or the relationship runs its course. Im not affraid of commitment, but it is a sad & scary reality if this is true. My question is this, I would like to hear from people who have been with theyre spouse or bf for a long time (5yrs plus), how does it work when you both keep changing & growing? Dont you find yourself wanting out of the relationship or no, please explain, thx.

2007-10-31 18:38:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

deployed???

Ok. So, I want to know 1-what would your reaction be if obviously your wife got an expensive piece of exercise equip?(That I do use by the way and have lost 60lbs so far thanks to it)
2-Since I do use it regularly and have made a complete overhaul of my diet and physical routine shouldnt it be a good thing?
3-We arent hurting financially...what is eating away at my conscience is that I actually bought it without consulting him first. How could I apologize or should I apologize though if it has and is motivation enough to use the darn thing??

We are happy and love each other very much, he is so level headed and a really great man and I feel like the luckiest woman to be with him. So its not that i am worried he would go ballistic, I just have issues with guilt.

ok, so what would you do if your wife did this???

2007-10-31 18:37:57 · 15 answers · asked by Jessy 5

When me and my fiance have an argument that makes me cry i get, "Oh god, Here we go!" I have had a boyfriend a long time ago that did that. Why is that? Are they scared by the crying or what?

2007-10-31 18:30:02 · 13 answers · asked by Magik 5

When they quarrel who do u side most? Why?

2007-10-31 18:21:14 · 15 answers · asked by da da 1

hi i m 24 years married female totally disturbed. my life has become full of sorrow. i was in lov or u can say that was my mistake what i told to my husband n now he doesn' talk to me n tell all this to my parents-in-law, only he was tha last hope of my life now there is nothing for me, no one os responsing from his side tell me what to do i don't want to live in this world

2007-10-31 18:19:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just came home from visiting with my family for the day. My husband said he was going out to a friends house to visit for a while. I called about an hour before I left my mom's house to see if he was home yet and he told me that yes he was home, him and his friends came to our house instead. Now, it's not that I have a problem with his friends coming to our house, but we live in a 1 bedroom apartment and we have no living room furniture yet bcuz we just moved in. So, the tv is in our bedroom. So, he had his friends over hanging out in our bedroom, drinking, smoking, etc. Plus he knows I hate when he smokes drugs and I came in and the house wreaks of drugs (a smell I can't stand). I'm upset because I feel like it's an invasion of privacy for guys to be hanging out in my bedroom my bras and what not are laying around because I had no idea anyone was going to be here. I want to know, do you think I'm over reacting or is it reasonable for me to be upset?

2007-10-31 18:19:43 · 16 answers · asked by Babycakes 3

Do we do this for companionship or it is actually love or other reasons?

2007-10-31 18:18:14 · 21 answers · asked by Bobby 2

My husband and I are both 19, been married for 7 months. He started acting weird a couple months ago. He was coming home around 3 every morning which pissed me off, because that is unacceptable for a married man. Anyway, he left me a week ago, and he came back last night. Today is Halloween and we were suppose to go out together but he ditched me for his friends... which include other girls. Since he came back he doesn't act like he loves me anymore, he seems distant. Now I'm drinking, very upset, and I feel like killing myself. What do I do?

2007-10-31 18:17:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

No matter how miserable we are, we make our own decisions, even if we have to pay for them later in life.
Sucks doesn't it??????????????

2007-10-31 18:09:13 · 15 answers · asked by ♥♥♥ lover from ozz 4

2007-10-31 18:01:30 · 7 answers · asked by chrisdoss125 2

Infidelity has existed for as long a man. It is a known fact that man is not perfect. So, if a man/woman cheated on his/her spouse, can you really conclude that as grounds for a divorce? Of course if he/she continues to cheat, but what if he/she only cheated once? Even after a 3, 4, 5, 15 year marriage? It’s not only about discipline, but I think it’s more about the nature of man. (Women included!) You mean to tell me, that you are going to just throw away years of happiness? What about all your memories, and experiences together? What about your love for each other? Plus, then you’d have to rebuild what you had all over again, investing valuable time and trying to replace what isn’t replaceable. Why can’t we accept that fact that we aren’t perfect? Plus, although marriage is sacred, it’s not like you get married JUST for sex! No pun intended, if your marriage only revolves around sex, then perhaps you should strongly question the ethics and moral of your union. I know some liberals would suggest that we all get married for different reasons. But how can you just come along and redefine marriage? A union according to societies and the traditions our nation was built on, would surely defy a marriage based solely on sex. What do you think?

2007-10-31 17:58:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous