well im in college away from my girlfriend shes pretty good i but it doesnt seem like shes someone i could spend the rest of my life with.
but its odd that i have gone out with someone that seems like what im looking for but i just dont get the same feeling as i do with the girlfriend im with now.
do people really find what their looking for or do they just marry who ever is the best alternative?
for those of you that are married is your spouse what your looking for?
I'm in college now and i know this is where people usually find whom ever their looking for but im not the cheating type even though im far away should i look for someone else and lose this girl or is marriage about the next best thing?
2007-10-31 19:06:55 · 9 answers · asked by Tim H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guys i am not thinking about cheating if that is ambiguous
i wount cheat of anyone
2007-11-01 16:14:47 · update #1
Not perfect at all but well suited for me!
2007-10-31 19:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you really like this girl and have a soul connection, but being with the right one for the rest of your life involves you criteria of what you are looking for in a women,and if you have found dating another one and only thinking about your gf, than you probalby have some love for this girl, so go for it anf see if goes beyond the puppy love stage.IIf you are a cheater than you are not ready to have a gf, you just have the right one now,so be clear and do not hurt anyone with your actions.But, if she is the right one and you can handle the good and the bad with her and than your answer is there because , friends can fight make up and still love one another and acc[et each other for who they are, and that is also in a marriage, find out now so when you do get married you will uderstadn the basics in a relationship. because sex is not everything.
2007-10-31 20:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by PATTY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first sentence answered your own question. if you feel like you can't spend the rest of your life with her now, what will happen 5 or 10 years into it?
i got married at 30, had a great decade in my 20's. problem today is that we are growing in different ways.
i will admit i am no where near perfect but i sure do try to get there. my wife thinks she is already perfect, so she doesn't even try to grow our marraige.
i have come to realize that you have to really like and feel very comfortable with your spouse. then fall in love. might make a big difference down the road.
2007-10-31 19:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not settle. Never settle, you will be miserable before long. You do not say why you think that you could not spend the rest of your life with her. My spouse is everything that I was looking for. None of us are perfect but he comes pretty close. I would not cheat on her but if you really feel like you are wasting your time do both of you a favor and break it off.
2007-10-31 20:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's perfect, and no relationship is perfect. Ideally, people would fall in love with the person who IS their best alternative for the bonds of marriage, but unfortunately, they often make poor choices. Then they believe they can change what they do not like about their spouse, which can't be done.
2007-10-31 19:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by enlightened 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time I got married, it felt like it was the right time. I was 23. Got divorced at 26. I waited for over 12 years and got married again. This is the marriage that will last till death do us part. Honestly you just never know. I thought the first one was it, boy was I wrong. You are still young and in college. Enjoy these years and you just never know who you may marry someday, but don't stress over it now.
2007-10-31 19:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how perfect is my spouse? let me count the ways! We have now been together for 33 years. I am much older than her.
On a scale of 100 our relationship is about 150.
There is nothing that this woman can't or won't do to make me happy and vice versa. Believe me, we've tried it all.
2007-11-01 01:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by cyrusbblackthorne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perfect match for me. my advice to you is that don obsess looking for the perfect one, she will come around when its time, the important thing is that both feel the same way about each other, both want to spend eternity together, that's when you realize that person is perfect.
marriage isn't one its 2 people remember that, both have to feel same way about each other.
2007-10-31 19:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your compability and chemistry before you involve yourself in relationship and marriage.
2007-10-31 21:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋