Marriage & Divorce - 31 October 2007

2007-10-31 06:13:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has custody and I pay child support but I have our child quite a bit more during the year than she does.

2007-10-31 06:09:10 · 16 answers · asked by d_eic 2

have 3 kids for him

2007-10-31 06:06:24 · 28 answers · asked by faith 1

So my boyfriend and I have lived together for quite some time, and been together for several years. Yesterday he called me and said he no longer wanted to be together that one of us needed to pack our things and when I decided who it would be to let him know. This is the man of my life and I care about him deeply, in fact we were planning on getting married, and were trying to have a child. I don't quite understand. We've had our share of fights don't get me wrong, but what couple doesn't right? I just can't stand the thought of him leaving....help!

2007-10-31 05:57:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it legal for me too?Change the locks so that my husband cant get into our home again.My hubby and i have been married almost 3.5 years now and its been very rocky.We met while we were both sill in college i was a freshman and he was going for his masters.He was nothing like he is today.We got married after i graduaed and thats when trouble started.My hubby is a workacholic and thats his obsession.While we were dating though he made time for me but when we got married i got pushed aside.Unbeknownst to me he was also becoming an alcoholic and becoming addicted to prescription drugs .After 8-9months of marriage he just up and left after a melt down because he was fiered.For 6 months i had no clue where he was so i filed for divorce and started seeing an ex.bf.Hubby came back begging me to try again and i caved.I found out i was pregnant, he was made aware of the paternity(unsure) situation and said it did not matter he never wanted to know .Well now my hubby has started up with his old ways again

2007-10-31 05:56:32 · 34 answers · asked by Jenna F 1

Its been over a month since I found out that my significant other had a one night stand with one of MY acquaintances he had just met at a function he attended with me. This mutual acquaintance came with a reputation of being easy. Anyway, Im still seething and angry. He has apologized and tried calling several times. I just cant seem to let it go, and the more I think about it the angrier I get. Am i taking this way too hard or personal? Should I just get over it or do I have a right to hold a grudge?

2007-10-31 05:47:25 · 40 answers · asked by lookinfortruth 1

I am basically from an upper middle class family. I am average and wheatish guy. I am working in a reputed MNC with a huge pay packet. My father is a reputed government officer and my mom is a doc. Recently they have started looking out a bride for me. I would love to marry a beautiful girl but my parents are interested to get me engaged to a rich girl. Now after a satisfying search done....i have got two kinds of girls the average looking rich girl and the beautiful poor girl. whom should i decide? I am quite confused. Its an arranged marriage so i would love to get advice from you guyz too. trust me i will count on you too...And oh yeh! the beautiful rich havent made in to my list at all..call it fate!!

2007-10-31 05:26:21 · 25 answers · asked by vijayakumar83 1

so wonderful, aren't they the love of your life, and doesn't it feel wonderful to look in their eyes and see all the love, and doesn't it feel good to have those little arms around your neck? Isn't is such pure love?

2007-10-31 05:18:29 · 12 answers · asked by Sweet Judy 7

I was in a relationship 8 years ago with a man whom I loved dearly.He become controlling and refused to come to therapy with me.I chose to continue my life without him,met a very nice man a year later and we have a child.Things have been good in my life,although honestly I wish we could have worked things out,I cried many times to grieve that relationship.Anyway now my ex is friends with some one in family and he says things like "we shoudl have stayed together""that child should be mine" things like that.I wouldnt give up my life now,it just makes it harder and now I am starting to have some "what if thoughts"I wont act on them but I keep fantasy thoughts to myself.Any time I think about how controlling he was it is easy to get him out of my head,then I see him again and my heart really skips a beat.I have respect for my child and the man I am with now- but it isnt that "intense love" I had for him,more of a mature companionship love.Any ideas anyone?

2007-10-31 05:11:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, I need some advice on this. We got married a few months ago after a year long courtship, much of it long distance. I am wondering how close married couples should be in terms of sharing email passwords and accounts. My belief is that there should be no secrets in a marriage, at least as far as possible, and my husband knows my email passwords (I programmed them into the computer we shared to encourage him to be honest).
He is not so open though.....and I still dont know his, he keeps them secret and is quite clear he doesnt want to share them.
Dont know if this should bother me, I trust him implicitly, and he seems quite devoted to me. Is it just a question of space? Maybe he is just not used to being so competely open, and the idea of being totally transparent scares him...?

Opinions?

2007-10-31 05:08:45 · 27 answers · asked by ls2c 1

My question is more about care for the family, duties around the house, and respect and or submissiveness towards a husband.

2007-10-31 05:00:40 · 17 answers · asked by jb2003hf 1

Arguably, especially in todays society. I think cheating has no consequences. People can afford to have affairs now, more then in the past. AND I HATE SAYING THAT! HONESTLY! We live in a expendable/instant-gratification kind of society. Even if there's children or whatever involved. It doesn't really matter anymore. People just feel so entitled. Its all a toss in the air now. . .

So do think cheating still has it consequences? Or is it officially open season?

And if so, what does that say about relationships now?

2007-10-31 04:58:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My marriage failed because my husband accused me of having an affair with my colleague.B4 this,our marriage have been on the rock.We both did mistakes and being busy with our own work,we tend to neglect each other.We slowly moved on with our life.I only get to see my kid 3 times a week.It hurts me when I can't get to be with my kid everyday.So i decide to give a 2nd chance to our marriage.But my ex husband is too ego.He keeps saying I was the one to mess up the marriage.Just Imagine,he abuses me,I paid for his hp bills and the mthly car instalment,he ever had an affair behind me.But when I ask him to give some tots for our kid's future and give our marriage a 2nd chance,he refused.what can I do when I am so prepared to compromise things with him but he is too ego?

2007-10-31 04:56:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

So much has been said between my boyfriend and I. We have been together for seven years and there was ALWAYS a trust issue. He treats me like I am this horrible person who goes out and cheats all the time. We've been fighting for almost a year now and I can't take it anymore! We have three kids together and I don't want them to suffer but " I'm sorry "can no longer mask the scars that I have. (mental and emotional of course) People who knew me before him tell me that I am a different person now.. that I almost seem like a shell of who I was. I don't know what to do. Is it worth leaving and trying to find someone out there who will trust me around my guy friends or do I stick it out for the kids and just hope that he will change.

2007-10-31 04:42:22 · 26 answers · asked by lissa034715 2

2007-10-31 04:40:43 · 23 answers · asked by Khairul A R 2

2007-10-31 04:39:50 · 2 answers · asked by youill 1

I live in Texas right now but am contemplating moving back to my home town in California. We have a one year old son. How would the laws work in order for me to move comfortably to California without it being considered "kidnapping" if my ex decides to DISAGREE on me moving and taking our son???

2007-10-31 04:37:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just dont get it. They want to ''move on with thier life'' and yet they keep expecting you to be there. What gives? Anyone else dealt with this? What did you do?

2007-10-31 04:32:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are "taking a break"; since my son and I left, he's been letting himself fall for someone else. I saw our phone bill - 1200 text messages and 70 phone calls between them in 16 days. My neighbors also told me she's been going over there consistently. My husband says nothing "sexual" has happened, but has admitted to feeling more than friendly towards her and kissing her. I wanted to try to fix our marriage; he seems to have given up. Do I fight for my family, or has this gone too far to be saved? I don't think I can forgive him for getting involved with someone else while he's still married to me, and before I found all this out, he said he was willing to try marriage counseling; now because she's in the picture, I dont think he wants to try to fix the damage he's caused. What should I do?

2007-10-31 04:29:50 · 24 answers · asked by Nikki 1

I've only been married for a month and I'm starting to feel like my husband is already not appreciating me. I run a business from my home and I have to bring in 60% of the money. I don't do things like buy clothes or get my nails done because I want to save money. I'm starting to resent this only because I don't see him making the same sacrifices. He wanted something the other day and I said it was expensive and his response was "It's ok, you'll make up the extra money"... I'm tired of "making up" I want to save so we can get ahead. I even gave up my costume this year so he could have the one he wanted. On top of working 10 hours a day, I do ALL the housework. He doesn't acknowledge when it's done but he complains when it's not. And little things like he will take the pillow from under my head or leave his dishes for me to clean up, leaves his clothes everywhere... I'm exhausted, I work ALL the time and it's only two of us! What can I do to make him appreciate what I do and help out???

2007-10-31 04:25:44 · 17 answers · asked by . 2

2007-10-31 04:13:03 · 6 answers · asked by stealth 1

Brief history: Moved in together after a 2 month trip where we had travelled together, and 1st met. 2 years later, had a child, unplanned. Went home for a family reunion and was highly pressured into getting married, so we did. Married 7.5 yrs and have 2 children. He is from a less well off family and therefore our views on $ are different. He is also not into going out much. I've been begging for dates for 7 yrs. Simple, nothing fancy. He often uses $ as the reason we do not go out. But a picnic or hike costs nothing. (We do make 100k a year) Over the yrs, I have outletted to several men - all flirty friendships, but close to "the line." At this point, I feel that I need more. I feel guilty for my flirtations and know that they may continue in the future. I do not want to hurt anyone, especially our children. But, I do not want to continue to feel this way "on the fence" for another 5 yrs. We are on our 3rd round of therapy and he is asking me do make my choice NOW.

2007-10-31 04:11:05 · 18 answers · asked by Love 2

2007-10-31 04:01:21 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

she was in a 10 year relationship with a guy who didnt express love and affection so she told me she doesnt know how too express herself n feels uncomfortable kissin n huggin but confuses me is that everytime we see e/o she say oh no kiss and i give her a kiss
so i told her this " i dont like to play games and i like to be upfront with people, like u i have been hurt before and i m seeing the warning signs, im going to take a step and see how things play out rather then continuing to put my self out there" her responds was "u know this wont turn out well if both people dont put themselve out there" so we had a talk and she tells me that she didnt see anything with us just friends so lets be friends but what confuses me is that she said she like me, she kisses and invites me everywhere n when i was distance she called me so many times
i dont get this situation
please help

2007-10-31 03:58:42 · 11 answers · asked by simple J 4

How many of u make ur hubby's lunch? Well I do but last night I just forgot I was to tired and its not the 1st time I have 4gotten and he never blew up at me b4,so my hubby just text me right now and said"mmmm lunch is gonna be great today" I said whats that suppose to mean he said "oh cuz its NOTHING", I said the hamburgers were in the fridge he then said "ya and I eat them reheated right" So basically I told him u know what I aint ur f**king mommy so f*ck off...And then tells me "I see ur in a chipper mood"...WTF is that?... We have 3 kids and I do everything around the house and I'm not complaining about that but wtf LUNCH get real...Whos wrong me or him in ur opinion...does he have a right to be pissed about it?Its a fricken lunch for gods sake!

Sry had to vent every1 I know is workin...lol

2007-10-31 03:58:15 · 31 answers · asked by NONAME 4

What is the bottom line in a marriage? Is it that you have the same goals in life? Is it that you enjoy each other s company more than the company of anyone else?

For me it is the glory of finding a true partner - someone that you support AND supports you in everything... 2 people that are perfect alone, but better together...2 people that may not share the same goals, but can support each others goals and work together to build a better life...2 people that can look to each other for support and encouragement when traveling down life's sometimes bumpy paths...I could go on, but I'll run outta room... so, what is the bottom line?

2007-10-31 03:57:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello. I have been reading these boards for some time and have never had a reason to post a question until now...

My bf and I have been together for 5 months. Everthing was pretty darn good until recently. He has a woman friend that he work with and they are very good friends, which is fine, actually I've met and hung out with her and her husband several times. I couldn't shake this uneasy feeling I would have around them. I asked a few imes if anything had ever gone on and my bf's reply was "No, I care about her, she and her husband are really good friends of mine". I listened but quite honestly didn't buy it because my gut was telling me otherwise. So after a few months I hear again that someone thought that he and this married woman WERE messing around at one point (someone that works with them and had a feeling as well). So ow I have m gut telling me something AND a person telling me they thought the same thing. So I did something kind of shady and sat him down and said "I know eveything that happened with you and her. You need to tell me the truth now or I am out the door." So he started by saying "Okay, well about a year ago..." and I stopped him. I didn't want to hear the datails, I just wanted him to admit it. So I broke down bawling and asked "how could you to this to her husband, how could you do something with a MARRIED woman, what if your wife did that, if you don't respect marriage vows how can you respect OUR commitment??" I could tell he felt horrible and remorseful and he told me how awful he's been feeling and how he knows it was a huge mistake. I never thought he did anything while with me, he has never acted weird or lied as far as I know. This other person said that she was suspicious last year and that she hasn't heard anything since last year.

I know this is long...so it KILLS me that she was being all friendly and we were hanging out with her and her HUSBAND! How could they both act like everything was okay knowing what they did??? Needless-to-say, they are both scared *hitless now because if I found out so could her husband. My question is, is everyone entitled to a mistake (and he's 27, she's 25)? Should I chalk this up to the past and try to move on? I just don't know if I can look at him the same anymore...we've decided to "get through this" but I am nervous to see him face to face, I'm afraid I will feel disgusted instead of hopeful. What would you all do?

2007-10-31 03:51:56 · 41 answers · asked by laura1977 5

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2007-10-31 03:51:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just have to say that i am not all about presents but he could have atleast had our 8 yr and our 4 yr old make me a card while i was working or something.

2007-10-31 03:36:57 · 30 answers · asked by Tessie 2

I have been married for 5 years and have two young children together at first in my marriage everything was fine then now i have changed i gained 40 pounds and dont look like i did before and my husband has noticed my change and niceley has told me the thing is that because i my weight gain i am moody all the time because I am not happy with myself and i am taking it out on my family nowi tend to nag him ALOT and i just feel that i am pushing him away what do you think?

2007-10-31 03:33:57 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous