Does Cheating Still Have Its Consequences?

Question

Arguably, especially in todays society. I think cheating has no consequences. People can afford to have affairs now, more then in the past. AND I HATE SAYING THAT! HONESTLY! We live in a expendable/instant-gratification kind of society. Even if there's children or whatever involved. It doesn't really matter anymore. People just feel so entitled. Its all a toss in the air now. . .

So do think cheating still has it consequences? Or is it officially open season?

And if so, what does that say about relationships now?

IT'S JUST THAT IT SEEMS SO COMMON NOW! IT SEEMS LIKE PEOPLE DO IT NOW WITHOUT A SECOND THOUGHT.

WE HAVE WEBSITES FOR CHEATING.

TO ME IT JUST FEELS LIKE CHEATING HAS LOST ITS TABOO. EVEN A LOT OF THE STUDIES I'VE READ SAY SO. IT JUST SEEMS NOW NOT TO BE SUCH A BIG DEAL. . .

BUT I COULD BE WRONG.

LET ME BE CLARE HERE. . .

I AM NOT HERE TO PROMOTE CHEATING IN ANYWAY!!!

I AM VERY MUCH AGAINST IT!!!!!

Answer 1

I couldn't agree more with you. There's a growing number of "cheaters" nowadays.

Consider the scenario: You met someone and you fell in love. It felt so good, and you wish it'll never end. Then in a snap, you suddenly remember - you have someone waiting for you at home. You couldn't give up the feeling you just had, and at the same time you dont want to have to cause troubles (headaches and heartaches) in your legit relationship. And so you play with fire and keep secrets.

I think what 'cause cheating is being selfish. All of a sudden, a person becomes engrossed in the "high" and exciting feeling of meeting someone new who makes them feel important, cared for, and loved that they abandon their existing relationship (even neglect responsibilities).

Cheating, like anything else have its corresponding consequences (ever heard of karma? It might not backfire now, but it'll surely backfire). I'm thinking that people should put in more effort in nurturing and rekindling their mariage/relationships, instead of quickly jumping in a way to escape only to end up making things worst, especially with kids involved.

Answer 2

Even if the consequences are ones that a person expects, cheating always affects someone one way or another. Most times, cheating drives a serious wedge between spouses. Sometimes it leads to divorce - an apperant consequence - but even when couples stay together, many never get to a point of trust and friendship again. The bond that was once there had alot to do with loyalty, so when that is broken, a part of the relationship suffers. Even for "open" couples, if there are kids or people they are connected to involved, it sets a bad example for them. Cheating always affects somebody.

In addition, if a couple divorces, the judge is often biased against the person that cheats in settlement rulings.

Answer 3

Cheating most definitely has consequences. The severity of the consequences is defined by what the relationship is.

If you cheat when you are married, the consequence is breaking your spouse's heart. You also will probably get divorced. You break up your family and your kids now no longer have an intact family unit.

You have to deal with the guilt of this, that is a consequence. There is still a social stigma for adultery. It isn't acceptable.

Another consequence of cheating can be unwanted pregnancy or STDs.

All in all, infidelity seems like a pretty stupid choice.

Answer 4

Genital Warts. Genital Herpes. Clap. HIV/Aids. Consequences? I can't think of one other activity that is so much like Russion Roulette! Roll the dice.......safe sex is NOT safe, unless the person you are with is clean! And if a cheater is lying to their spouse, that must be the ONLY person they would lie to.....surely they wouldn't lie to you about whether or not they are diseased! After all, they love you...

Cheat at work, get slapped with sexual harrassment, or fired. Cheat with friends, soon you have none. Humiliation, Isolation, Rejection, Judgement, Guilt-they are all real consequences, with real suffering attached. Not to mention that in some states, you can still be sued for alienation of affection-and pay up!

I have said it before and I'll say it again....broken hearts heal, but some things are with you forever! Like warts or alimony....

Just because the fool involved thinks its all worth it doesn't mean that there are no consequences. It just means that the fool is a fool.

Answer 5

Well I had an affair and since then I have had nothing but bad luck and that was 6 yrs. ago. Plus the man I fell in love with and still am I have also lost him. So yes I am lonely, sad but plugging along. But I also had an mentally abusive husband who also started getting violent. So in a lot of ways I really don't feel I cheated on him because I probably would have ended up dead. But I am also turning my life around so I am not so sad and just waiting for the right guy to come along.

Answer 6

Everything still has its own consequences..I kinda get what you are really talking about but it really depends in a person whether those consequences would matter to him or not..Sometimes people just stand up for their pride so they try to ignore some of the consequences or maybe some just accept those consequences because its already there..If you are thinking of cheating though, i would advise you not to pursue with it..you don't really have to go with what is "In"..what im trying to say is you don't have to do something that most people does even if it isn't really good..

Answer 7

It definitely has consequences, a man who claims to love me deeply apparently has a psychiatric disorder that drives him to have affairs "for the thrill of it" (seriously). I have been deeply, deeply hurt, I have been exposed to STDs, and our marriage is over, costing us both heartache and money. Cheating will always have consequences. People with strong support systems and who are financially better off will probably have an easier time "bouncing" back, but don't fool yourself into thinking it doesn't matter. It does. Very much.

Answer 8

Consequences to cheating? The papers and newscasts are full of cheating spouses found missing, then found murdered and dumped in a ditch. Women run cheating husbands down with the car. They poison them. They shoot them while they're asleep because they know they can't overpower them while they're awake. Yes, there are still consequences like this as well as those who get off easier with STDs, black eyes, broken bones and divorce papers.

Answer 9

Oh yeah, you can still go to jail for it. Some states still have life in prison as a possible punishment. On the other hand, I can see that it may be quite likely the offended parter will flip out and lose their mind. Theres a much higher probability of getting yourself dead by cheating than by most other things i can think of except robbing a bank.

Answer 10

Cheating in the past:
could cost you your relationship.
really wracked up some bad karma.

Cheating in the present:
can cost you your relationship.
really wracks up some bad karma.

Not sure what kind of past (other) consequences you may be referring to. Apparently people who cheat aren't TOO concerned about losing their relationship or that would be somewhat of a deterrent...I think those that give it any thought but cheat anyway go with the concept of "easier to ask forgiveness than permission"