have 3 kids for him
2007-10-31 06:06:24 · 28 answers · asked by faith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should never marry somebody that you don't really love, sadly you are now paying the price of that decision. You need to make a decision, stay with him and be unhappy forever or leave him and live with the stigma for the time it takes to find someone you truly love and who will make the rest of your life happy.
2007-10-31 23:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious where you come from that divorce is a stigma. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 80% if one person was under age25 at time of marriage. (this appies to you i'm sure). In the USA.
Here is what you do. You give him the divorce and don't take one dime in alamoney. Give him the house and his car and you take your **** and move to the closest apartment so you can be as big of part of the kids life as you are today.
Don't you dare waste the rest of his life(or yours) living a lie and deny him a chance at love and happiness.
After all this is all your fault.
Don't think staying together being miserable and teaching the kids the wrong way to be a loving relationship.
2007-10-31 06:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by brooklyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place you should have never taken that step!
Love has to happen to be felt, and if you can't feel any
love for your partner, marriage is not the answer. You
have nothing to work with! when there is no mutual feeling
bringing the relationship to end in divorce! stigma! or not!
gone are the days when people hang on for everything
else but love. Give yourself a chance in life! and a shot at
love! if not you will live and die not knowing what it's like to
enjoy either, plus you're only punishing youself.
2007-10-31 06:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Joan Sandverysmart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you waited for so long and made a 3 hearts that are about to be broken,divorce isn't the answer to all of this,why don't 2 of you go to counselling 1st,i do pray that this can help,i know that the foundation of this family is to weak cause their is no love but think 1st of the kids they will suffer more than you,but if you tried to hard already and you cant give more and if you think that this can give peace to everyone in the family,who am i are to hold you.
2007-10-31 06:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't just grow with someone overnight. You need to be upfront with him and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't want to work with you over the issues you feel are necessary, then you guys need to seperate, no matter how many kids you have together. Fighting in front of the kids will only make thigs worse for them and for you. I'm sure the kids would rather see both of you happy.
2007-10-31 06:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That wasn't wise was it?
Get divorced. Never mind the stigma, whatever oppressed nation you live in (presumably the unliberated USA). You don't deserve a miserable marriage, and the kids don't deserve to be around this bad relationship. Put it right.
Come on folks, lots of people are in miserable marriages. We all make mistakes.
2007-10-31 06:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Phil McCracken 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably shouldnt have married him in the first place. If divorce is a stigma and not an option, then just ride it out, for your kids sakes at least.
Or you could hire a hitman.
2007-10-31 06:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Whoa Lisa! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get a divorce and move! Your happiness should matter more than what your neighbors will think of you. With more than 50% of marriages ending in divorce, you can easily find a place to move where it is not stigmatized.
Also, studies have proven that children fare better with two happy, divorced parents as opposed to two unhappy, arguing, married parents.
2007-10-31 06:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Janie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are mistaking bordem for not love. Couples always think they are NOT in love because they don't have their own life, the wife isn't working or their is no "us" time anymore. Its not that your NOT inlove..its that you don't take the time to love each other because life gets too busy!
Get a baby sitter..and go love your husband.
2007-10-31 06:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have come a long way both of you!
I mean 3 kids, come on.
Stick to it and make it work!
2007-10-31 07:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋