What is considered to truly be a womans role in a marriage?

Question

My question is more about care for the family, duties around the house, and respect and or submissiveness towards a husband.

Answer 1

Respect, always. Submissiveness went out with the freeing of the slaves. Beyond that, whatever she does with love and whatever they agree to as far as who will do what. Love, keeping agreements, and respect for husband, his boundaries, and his property is a woman's role in a marriage. Obviously, if they are also parents, each carries the responsibilities of parenting, and need to come to agreement as to what parenting roles each will fulfill. The role of wife is all about lessons in loving, the role of parent is about lessons in loving, and taking full responsibility for another life until the child is an adult.

Answer 2

Be his friend, be his lover, but do not be his slave. I don't know that there are any specific duties that a woman has in a marriage. I think that both partners have a duty to share household work equally and that they should compromise on who is going to do what. For instance you REALLY hate to wash floors then the hubbycan pick that up, in exchange for you doing something that he truly detests but isn't despised by you. It's all a give and take situation, with 100% effort being put forward by both of you at all times. Respect is something that is earned, not automatically given so the golden rule definitely applies to both parties. Two people in a marriage should feel secure, trusted, and respected and it does take work on both ends and sometimes a little time to achieve this. As for family, both people create the children, so both people should have an equal role in rearing them. Of course if you're a stay at home mom, you are the one who will be spending most of your time with them, however dad's day doesn't end just because he comes home from work. All of these details should be discussed and worked out until you find something that works for BOTH of you. Submissive is a word that should NEVER come into play for either party.

Answer 3

marriage is not, or shouldn't be 50/50 all the time, and having an attitude like that is only going to cause more problems.

Each person has their own strength and weaknesses, everybody will have good days and bad days, good weeks and bad weeks for that matter. Some people are more capable than others.

Think about it should someone stop doing something that needs to be done because at the end of that particular day they would have put in 90%. or resent the other person because they did.

In my home my husband and I both know what needs to get done, except for the obvious must do things like go to work. We both do as much as we can, sometimes I do it all, sometimes I dont do any, and he does the same. Sometimes it just don't get done by either of us, and oh well, we tried, no ones fault. Thats when things like ordering a pizza come in handy.

Answer 4

In marriage, you're now "2" and not "1" anymore. Both the husband and wife should care for the family, do duties around the house and respect each other. Submissiveness is not only for the wife. It's also for the husband when he thinks he was wrong especially in an argument or a fight ...I guess, there's nothing wrong with that...Marriage is a "tag team" and you should help each other to be able to build a strong and solid foundation. (",)

Answer 5

Submissiveness towards a husband? WTF? It's all about RESPECT, I should say, not about submissiveness. The role of a wife depends on what the two people in the relationship agree upon. What my husband and I consider perfect, might not work at all, for someone else. My husband is the sole provider -bread winner- of the household (by choice) but that doesn't mean that he makes all the decisions, we both do. He earns the money and I'm the administrator. He takes excellent care of me and I take excellent care of him. We reciprocate; everything goes both ways.

Answer 6

i believe in old fashioned roles, i am ok with doing the house work , and i wouldnt call myself submissive but my husband it the man of the house and thats the way i like it.. he respects me and asks my opinion. but he also can be somewhat father like at times, especially with my spending habits, he has to put his foot down.. we share duties with our children, i think that is the best way- it benefits the child most when both parents are equally involved. but i do the cooking, cleaning, washing, planning, appointment making. etc... he does home projects and works 60 hours a week, so it balances out.

Answer 7

well im from a Mexican culture, and we are taught that we have to obey our hubby(which i thank God that times have changed), respect him, and cherish him. Also, they make it really clear that the man is the head of the household and the bread maker, therefore we are the ones that stay home and raise our kids, clean the home, and make sure dinner is ready when our hubby comes.

well at least what thats my grama, was raised to do......i in the ohter hand, i feel that marriage is and should always be 50/50 but of course our hubby have a hard time keeping up. i also work and pretty soon im going to start going to school again, so i will expect more from my hubby.

this was a really good q?

Answer 8

There needs to be equal respect on both sides. The whole "be submissive to your husband" thing is just retarded, that's out. If the wife doesn't work, she needs to keep the house, take care of the kids and cook. If both the husband and wife work, duties should be split evenly. If the husband doesn't work, he should take care of the house, the kids and cooking. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.

Answer 9

there shouldn't be submissiveness on anyone's part. Chores should be divided equally since both people live in the home. Child rearing should also be equal. It should be a 50/50 partnership with both partners giving 1000%.

Answer 10

There can be no absolute answers here for you.

The answer will vary so greatly, all depending on the cultures, the individual couples, their past, the belief system, etc.

You need to find what BOTH of you agree on, which should have been done BEFORE marraige. Only you two can have a marrital belief system that works only for the both of you. That system may not work in any other couple. Find what works for both, and make it work!