If a married woman is in love with me and i am in love with her what should i do?

Question

She's married and i'm not........

Answer 1

Then she needs to leave her husband and be with you . This means accepting everything about her ...children if any and sticking by her side through the bad and the good. Realize that if she chooses to be with you that she will bring some baggage and be prepared to deal with that. Even though she is in love with you she will still go through an emotional process from ending the relationship with her husband. If children are involved to this may not come easy....but if you love her you will have to bear with it and not abandon it for any reason. I would let her know straight up what your plans are such as telling her you want her to live with you and that you will support her in every way that you possibly can. She may be afraid of the unknown and stays in the relationship with her husband because she knows what to expect? She may be afraid of what everybody would think of her. If she truly wants out then you may have to help her....the first thing she has to do is file for a divorce as soon as she leaves and you may have to put money out to get the divorce started? You honestly need to sit down with her and work out a plan because you both cannot go on living this way and tormenting yourselves. Be sure that you are ready to handle anything that comes your way because if you both love each other you have to commit for keeps. It won't be easy at the beginning let me warn you......but love is love if it is there and if it is real it can get you through anything. Just because things did not work out for her and the husband does not mean that it cannot work out for you......a cheater is not always a cheater sometimes we are just with the wrong person in life. This happened to me 20 years ago and although some will see me on here as bad ...they do not know my situation.....I am with this man married, could never cheat on him, came with children and he was and still is the best thing that ever came into all our lives. We are the best of friends worked through our own problems and we love each other and always will.

Answer 2

NOTHING.

If you love her, and you have already made that known to her, then the ball is now in her court. If she has professed her love for you, then she will follow up with ACTION-meaning she will initiate the steps necessary to divorce.

There are three things that are certain and true for all 'married' people-man or woman-that somehow wind up in extramarital affairs or relationships:
1) If they truly do not love their spouse, and want their marriage to end, they will end it-with or without a lover in the background. They will leave, period. When its over, its over.
2) If they say "its complicated" or "I can't leave because of the kids, money, etc." then they are making excuses and have no intention of ending their marriage - ever. There is no "right time" to end a marriage (see #1)
3) Purposely ruining a marriage by contacting your lover's spouse may cause the divorce, but in the end, if that's the only way to get the person to "be yours" you haven't won anything, because if they can't end it on their own, they don't really want to (see #2)

Do nothing. Don't see her, leave it alone. She needs to make a choice in her own life. Don't put your life on hold waiting to see what she does. Cultivate new experiences and diversions for yourself. Meet new people. Explore another friendship or relationship. The fact of the matter is this:
The woman is married. She is NOT free for you to love, you have no right to love her. It is not your place. Show yourself some respect and step back.

I have watched so many people over the years end up shattered due to adultery, and participated in it myself, and lives are never the same. There are good endings and not so good endings, but the truth is still the same: This woman is off limits to you, she cannot give you what you deserve in a real relationship. She needs to decide if she wants to end her marriage.

That is her choice, not yours.

Answer 3

Hard to tell. You need to explain your situation a little better. Is she happy with her spouse? Does she plan on getting a divorce? There's too many unknown factors to make a decision based off of your question. All i can tell you from what you asked is - leave her marriage alone. She got married for a reason, don't be a reason for her divorce. Good Luck.

Answer 4

She will do the same thing to you she is doing to her husband. If she has a bad marriage tell her to divorce him and then you can marry her (there are probably children on both sides so think about them and what that does to them - also your child support payments and "blending" of families) Lots to think about going forward - and the sex will become routine later - it won't be like it sounds like you already have. Will you have more children?

Answer 5

If you are single you can chase after her all you want. It's an open playing field for you.

However, she is behaving badly and you have to ask yourself if you would want to be with a woman who is being unfaithful to someone she has made marriage vows with.

You need to be sure you are doing the right thing - in these cases love isn't enough, think about her family, maybe her children(?),a nd how tohers will perceive you as a homewrecker.

Answer 6

Leave it alone. It's asking for trouble to mess around with a married woman. It's up to her whether or not she wants out of the relationship with her husband; technically there's nothing you can do.

Answer 7

Seriously think about what you just wrote!

She is 'married', ... in love with you?
Does that not in its self tell you what type of true person she is despite what she tells you!

I have a favorite quote: " I will believe what you do, not what you say!"

If you have no morals, scruples, then leave your self open to the same thing she is doing to her husband.

Answer 8

You should end the relationship immediately... she is not ready to have a relationship with you because she is in a relationship with her husband and still attached to him... if and when she is done with her current relationship with her husband... meaning she is divorced... then if you want to try for a relationship with her... then and only then would be okay.

If she is cheating with you on her husband... what makes you think she will be faithful to you if you get with her later... she will cheat on you too... believe me... you need to forget this women...

Answer 9

what are you doing messing around with a married woman? find someone else!

Answer 10

First of all, she needs to end her marriage, it isn't fair to her husband. Would she want him to do this to her? I would say that you guys can still talk but I would not let it lead to anything else.....she has to think of her husband's feelings. After she divorces him, then she needs to decide who she wants to be with. Give her some time...