How many of u make ur hubby's lunch? Well I do but last night I just forgot I was to tired and its not the 1st time I have 4gotten and he never blew up at me b4,so my hubby just text me right now and said"mmmm lunch is gonna be great today" I said whats that suppose to mean he said "oh cuz its NOTHING", I said the hamburgers were in the fridge he then said "ya and I eat them reheated right" So basically I told him u know what I aint ur f**king mommy so f*ck off...And then tells me "I see ur in a chipper mood"...WTF is that?... We have 3 kids and I do everything around the house and I'm not complaining about that but wtf LUNCH get real...Whos wrong me or him in ur opinion...does he have a right to be pissed about it?Its a fricken lunch for gods sake!
Sry had to vent every1 I know is workin...lol
2007-10-31 03:58:15 · 31 answers · asked by NONAME 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh he was mad alright...beyond mad I can just tell...he calls me every morning and today he didn't!
2007-10-31 04:05:35 · update #1
he has never done this b4 when I have 4gotten... In 13yrs this is the 1st time he got mad.
2007-10-31 04:09:23 · update #2
Yes I do work I work nights not full time but I do work!!
2007-10-31 04:10:59 · update #3
Thank u ...u all have valid points and I know I did flip out, I appreciate u pointing it out to me and I did text him back apologizing and told him I have been stressed out and I shouldn't have blown up at him and then apologized for not making his lunch...Thanks for letting me know I was being the evil witch on Halloween...lol
2007-10-31 04:22:52 · update #4
okay you are the lady around the house, threee kids thats alot to handle. Then on top of that tell your husband this "everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect.": Tell him your sorry and that you have just been tired latly no reason to get in a augument.
2007-10-31 04:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he might have been just playing with you? Is that possible?
It doesn't sound like he got mad. OK maybe a little. He has come to depend on it. Did you tell him you didn't make his lunch, or let him just figure it out when he went hungry? If you would have told him the night before then he could have done something about it, rather than surprise him in the morning.
I count on my husband to put gas in my car. It's not that I can't, it's that it just works that way. So I don't pay attention to it. If he doesn't do it, I hope he tells me, because I might not notice.
EDIT OK well think of it this way - if he ALWAYS drove the kids to school and today you came downstairs to find them still there and him gone, having said nothing, wouldn't you be mad? Whether you need to make his lunch or not, it's part of the routine - he will expect it and if you deviate from that you gotta tell him.
EDIT so, for the first time in 13 years he gets mad, and you rip his head off for it? Not that it's OK for him to get real mad, but I would think that if a man had always been polite and cordial and once, ONCE, gets pissed off more than they should be you could cut him some slack.
Also you took his overreaction, and GROSSLY overreacted to it. You could have said "I'm sorry I was too tired. You could have made it yourself".
You had an opportunity to be the better person and you blew it.
2007-10-31 11:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Everyone gets into there moods. Maybe he was just craving lunch really bad and then he saw there was nothing ti eat. That would probably make me a little angry too. You have to just let him know that he cannot depend on you all the time. I mean you put yourself in this position by making him lunch everyday, so now he just expects it. I dont think that it is a big deal. He is probably more upset that you flipped out on him.
2007-10-31 11:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by ashie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apologize and make up for it with the best fellatio he has ever had. My wife doesn't make lunch for me, but if she doesn't make my coffee in the morning it throws my whole day out of kilter. I think hubby might have over-reacted just a little, but we men need stability and when we look forward to something like a lovingly made lunch from our dear sweet doting wives and suddenly it's not there it confuses us. Yes we are childish sometimes. And you love that part of us. So do what I told you to do and after he has calmed down talk to him about it.
2007-10-31 12:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
i've noticed in my 50 years here on this earth, that many men want a "mommy" and don't take care of their own responsibilities. YOU have made it so he doesn't have to think about his lunch, and you have been kind enough to prepare it when you remember. I'm sure with three kids, you can't remember everything, all of the time.
Adults need to be responsible for their own lunch, if you ask me... husband or not. If you remember, then let him know his lunch is fixed, otherwise, it's HIS lunch, let him get it himself.
Why do things for other people all of the time, when they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves.
2007-10-31 11:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't have been THAT big of a deal...him getting pissy with you, then you cursing him back was BOTH wrong and just caused unneeded stress and drama over something that should've been minor (no big deal).
If he can't manage to get some lunch at lunch time or couldn't have grabbed something on his way to work, then sounds like his problem. Having someone prepare your lunch is nice and convenient, but in no way should it be something that initiates a fight if it doesn't occur.
Y'all have bigger issues than a missing lunch...better get to the bottom of it before it's something that can't be fixed.
2007-10-31 11:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think he should have been mad at all. He knows that you have the majority of the responsibilities with the house and the children. It is not like you forget to prepare his lunch all the time and didn't you say there was food in the fridge? He could have heated it himself. Sounds like you husband woke up in a bad mood this morning. Don't fret we all have bad days..
2007-10-31 11:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by deilashae 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ehh its typical. Before I was a housewife, nothing was expected me to do, and then when it started at first it was like dont worry if its not done, and he would help out. Then I told him nope, you work all day let me do it... then you know what they take it for granted. And expect it to happen.
I think he was in a bad mood, and you like you said were tired. I would tell him that your sorry you flipped out, but he cant take you for granted and he could help out a little more by making his own lunch when your obviously pre occupied.
2007-10-31 11:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Him bringing up the lunch thing at all was a slap in the face. I am happy for you that you chose to make his lunch for him. So if you don't you BETTER let him know, he has come to expect it. But he has no right to treat you that way. He should be thankful.
2007-10-31 11:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the golden rule in life is this.....
do not start what you do not intend to carry out... as others will expect it of you.
sounds like he was just picking at you about not having his lunch ready... you may be having a little extra stress on you and that is why you got upset... let it go...
i don't think anyone is wrong or right... sounds like the two of you are just on different pages this morning...
2007-10-31 11:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋