she was in a 10 year relationship with a guy who didnt express love and affection so she told me she doesnt know how too express herself n feels uncomfortable kissin n huggin but confuses me is that everytime we see e/o she say oh no kiss and i give her a kiss
so i told her this " i dont like to play games and i like to be upfront with people, like u i have been hurt before and i m seeing the warning signs, im going to take a step and see how things play out rather then continuing to put my self out there" her responds was "u know this wont turn out well if both people dont put themselve out there" so we had a talk and she tells me that she didnt see anything with us just friends so lets be friends but what confuses me is that she said she like me, she kisses and invites me everywhere n when i was distance she called me so many times
i dont get this situation
please help
2007-10-31 03:58:42 · 11 answers · asked by simple J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been dating for over 2 months
2007-10-31 03:58:55 · update #1
she is playing with you because she (thinks she) can...don't let yourself be so convenient and available for her...
2007-10-31 04:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to commit. An unhappy relationship that lasts that long is like a prison sentence. She would associate bad things with relationships for a while after breaking up like that. Don't be the rebound guy. It never works out. Give her time to move on. It will take quite a while after that. I wouldn't pursue it if I were you. Fair warning. Not that she isn't a good person and all that, but if she means something to you let it go for a while.
2007-10-31 11:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what she is saying, she likes you BUT AS A FRIEND. Don't expect anything else. She's apparently keeping distant from you because she doesn't want to be commited. Give her time. 10 years is a long time and the harder you push, the faster she'll pull back. Give her space but don't become too available. Don't seem desperate. "Putting yourself out there" is not a solution. If she feels that one of you needs to be "out there", let HER be the one. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-10-31 11:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably did not get over her past relationship yet. She needs time to breaking slowly into the new relationship. If you truly like her very much you must give her time to adjust.
2007-10-31 11:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want to be lonely she likes you but she does not want to get my husband is like her he does not express huis feelings but that does not mean that he does not like you open uop to her that is the only thing you can do show her love id you like her show where what love is like I got used to it. My husband does not say that he loves me but I know my actions and I have come to learn that actions mean more then words.
2007-10-31 11:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one messed up chick, who needs to get her sh*t together before she can move on and have a "Successful" relationship.
2007-10-31 11:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not prepared emotionally for another long-term relationship right now, obviously.
she needs time to readjust to life, grieve her losses and get herself together.
give her time.... don't push her or try to force her into a relationship with you right now... because it won't work.
2007-10-31 11:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get her story straight as you don't have the time or patience to play these bullshit games.
2007-10-31 11:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is playing the fields get out or you will be heart broken
2007-10-31 11:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to be getting married, and you're not even dating anymore, so this is in the wrong section.
2007-10-31 11:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋