Marriage & Divorce - 28 October 2007

I left my husband 4 years ago. He has now remarried and I've seen that he still beat's his current wife. I allow him to see the kids ( if i'm there). Because he was busy with business and travelling abroad, he didn't mined this arrangement- because he hardly had the time. Yesterday he served me papers that he wants full custody over my 5yr old and 7 yr old. I don't want them to be in an abusive enviroment.

I fought him for custody when we first got divorced and the judge still insisted on joint custody even after clear evidence of abuse( 20 emergency visits, 7 days in comma, i thought that this would be sufficient). Because of his high profile in politics in the states and his money, he seems to get away with and cover up his wrongdoing's.

I'd like to find a solution to tackcle this.

2007-10-28 22:42:23 · 9 answers · asked by Jane L 1

I recently broke my husband's favorite lamp, not on purpose. He is out of town on a business trip and will be back tomorrow. I'm scared of what he might do if he finds out that i broke it. Last time i broke something of his, be burned all my clothes and I had NOTHING to wear except the clothes i had on. Should i tell him the truth and risk my wardrobe? or does anybody else have any ideas?

2007-10-28 22:39:10 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Mrs. Timberlake♥ 4

Hi, we have been having fights over a lot of things with my husband recently (stupid things, but they are important for us), there was even some pushing and throat holding (his bad) and door breaking and slapping (my bad). (Which by the way I still dont know if it was crossing the line of no return). We have talked about divorcing so many times... But we both love each and have very different ways of expressing it. Talking just doesnt do it - I have tried too many times. We end up at the same place. We did fight like that when we were going out (obviously), but the question is what to do? He has suggested taking a break - which I dont understand what it means. To me taking a break it means breaking up to fool around. He says that it is not like that - just not see each other for a week or so... Also, I dont see how that is going to solve anything.
As you can guess romantic dinner just wont do it. Any suggestions?

2007-10-28 22:30:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for almost 8 months now, though we just moved in together 2 months ago (he's in the military and I just relocated to be with him). We only have sex once a week now, and I feel like every night he is pressuring me for it. Honestly, the pressure makes me not want to have it even more. We have talked about it and I've told him how I feel and listened to what he's said. Sometimes he is rude to me, and makes nasty comments to me like, "I'm in a bad mood because I need to get laid!" even though we just had sex 2 nights before. What is going on? I love my husband more than anything, and I know he loves me but he acts to angry with me and it all seems to come down to sex. I don't want to just roll over and do it just to do it - that just makes me feel used and like all I'm good for is sex. What should we do?

2007-10-28 22:11:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband of 23 yrs are getting a divorce. He has been having an affair for over 6 months and chose her we have 2 girls 19,21 and i told them what happened. Now he says i polluted the kids they will not talk to him. I have tried to make this happen but the big issue is he demands respect for being there father and has never said sorry for the affair ,just that its his life and business not ours. I say trust and respect have to be earned and he has lost both with the girls pretty much told them he doesn't care if he never sees them again. This is not the man i married for sure.Should i just leave it alone?

2007-10-28 21:50:48 · 9 answers · asked by pa 1

2007-10-28 21:39:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Give reasons briefly for your answer.

2007-10-28 21:33:35 · 14 answers · asked by sambasivan s 3

honest answers only please. Don't be judgemental if you don't agree with the life style move on to another question please.

2007-10-28 20:41:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Was he on his way to being abusive to me?We broke up three weeks ago. Why am I sad that he's gone?Am I paranoi
I met a man online in June 20 of this year. Everything was very pleasant in the begining.Then these things happened:
1:He made fun of a past relationship of mine that was abusive. He said "All Robert had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him!"
2:He got angry because I wanted to go home and punched his wall.He yelled at me and said"Look at what you made me do!"
3:After two months he wanted me to move away from my aunts house and move to the city he's in. We only live 30 min apart.He said that he would rent a car and help me move my things.He started looking at apartments in his city for me.
3:We were arguing and he told me that I was acting like a" f***ing c**t."
4:He came over and when he seen my aunts home he said" Gosh!How cold you live here?This place is depressing!" "Gosh! Look at your room! How depressing."
5:Another time I wanted to go home.He yelled at me all the way to the bus stop.Once we got there he started shoving my shoulder saying DONT LEAVE!!

2007-10-28 20:33:54 · 7 answers · asked by KISS ME♥*´`*•.¸★ 2

I love my husband very much. He is a very sweet, loving, loyal man. I have known about him having Asperger's since shortly after we began dating over eight years ago. While I will admit that it can be frustrating at times (due to him not always being able to read my emotions and also his lack of ambition sometimes),overall he is a terrific guy and I love being with him. A while ago, I searched online for a support group for people whose spouses had Asperger's. What I found was a group of very bitter, angry people (mainly women) who complained about how they had married "idiots" but felt trapped in their marriages because of kids and other reasons. They encouraged me to leave my husband as soon as possible before I realized what a terrible person he was. Of course I was extremely offended by this. Is there anyone in a similar situation as mine who does NOT despise their Asperger's spouse or the fact that they are affected by this disorder?

2007-10-28 20:25:30 · 3 answers · asked by sandrea91483 1

2007-10-28 20:20:47 · 13 answers · asked by Outside~Lookin'~In 1

he is in good MNC company working as a s/w engg. at good package...i m in finl year of engg....after completing my BE we wnt 2 mary as soon as posible....could u plz recomend me what would be the better option????
is it necessary for me to change the religion?

2007-10-28 20:11:40 · 7 answers · asked by swini 1

because you are my wife & will always be.we should give it another shot b/cuz i love you & regret all my wrongdoings."

We are never married but lived together for 4 years & the house is mind. The relationship is over long time & i have been living in another country for a year now. He hasn't given up on me but too bad cuz i've made up my mind. He did me wrong too many times before & it took me years to finally get over him so starting a-new with him is no longer my best bet.

I have the option to be home early next year & this statement makes me think to go elsewhere instead but i hate it b/c its my house.

Thank you all.

Note: Not sure if this is the right section.

2007-10-28 20:00:29 · 19 answers · asked by jables 4

My 5 year old sister found out today that her parents (my parents too) are getting a divorce.

She's devastated and I want to make her feel better.

What should I do?
Is there any books explaining divorce for kids?

2007-10-28 19:49:03 · 7 answers · asked by mish_mosh_posh 2

or do you feel as though you get back as much as you give?

2007-10-28 19:46:53 · 12 answers · asked by Global gipsey. 2

Three years back when I was in college I dated this girl. She was very nice to me and besides many other things she gave me her password using which I could acess school library's online journals for my research paper. We then broke up, one day out of curiousity I used that password on her personal e-mail id and sure enough it worked. I started secretly reading her e-mails, her boyfriends, mother, sister i almost know everything thats going on. I even know lot more than I need to. Initial it was this feeling of missing her that made me do this and then now since I am over this I feel its moral not correct for me to do this. How can stop this habit. Please keep in mind I dont want to communicate with her anymore after we broke up for various personal reasons. I just want to get over this habit.

2007-10-28 19:28:12 · 17 answers · asked by The Orion 1

I need to think of ways to propose to my girlfriend. I asked her to move in with me at the end of April, she said yes. Now I'm thinking that we should be engaged before moving in. How and where should i ask her to marry me. I already got the ring i just have to get the round diamonds in it replaced with princess cut diamonds but other than that I'm ready. give me some ideas on how to do it.

2007-10-28 19:26:19 · 13 answers · asked by martin g 1

2007-10-28 19:21:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for 8 years and I love hiim, but, I believe the age difference is starting to rear it's ugly head. Any advice would be very appreciative!

2007-10-28 19:15:14 · 14 answers · asked by babynag 1

Not an active drinker, but one in recovery who carries the "mentality" as they did when they were active?
How do you handle it?

2007-10-28 19:14:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

you need to do to insure you keep you child, i am the mother.

2007-10-28 19:08:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for four and a half years and been married this November 3 for one year. He just got layed off from his job last week and I live on disability. I plan to go to my Fathers in another town. Almost everything in this house is mine and he is very violent so I just don't know how to get my stuff? I get paid on the third and he expects me to pay the rent that is now late! I will need that money to move and live on for the month. I am so scared! He has broke my nose and blacked my eyes two years ago and done many other things to me. My kids now live with thier father because of all this. I just had a stroke 6 months ago and I suffer from schizoaffective disorder. He has been acting very nice today but it is so I will stay. I just don't know how to leave and I really don't want to leave my stuff. I am scared of him and the unknown of living with my father at the age of 36. I really need some advice on how to do this without getting hurt and I also need to be strong! HELP

2007-10-28 19:03:53 · 14 answers · asked by ladyaprille 1

Saving relationship of Husband & Wife because she feels frustrated due to premature ejection by her husband (He is 48 & She is 45). They meat once a week. Last six meetings were not enjoyed by the wife. She says he might be involved in cheating or has gone weak physically and mentally. The family has two daughters age 7yrs & 4 yrs. The man is employed as Assistant in an office where interaction with other female is not possible.

2007-10-28 19:02:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is part question, part just...open if anyone wants to share their thoughts....

I haven't lived with my parents for a couple years, and it's been fine, I've done pretty well on my own and haven't lived at home for more than a couple weeks at a time since I graduated high school. This summer, my parents began the process of getting a divorce, and recently my mom got her own house 20 or so miles away.

The thought of being home for the holidays makes me want to stay in my dorm for all of the holiday season.

Has anyone been in this situation? How did you choose which parent to be with? and just any thoughts on the first time going home to a family that's not together any longer?

2007-10-28 18:55:20 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah 5

Every time I respond to a question and I express the pleasure I find in having sex WITH MY HUSBAND -and no one else- there are people who immediately take away points...I couldn't care less about the s.t.u.p.i.d. points, but I tend to be brutally honest (or blunt) in my answers. I won't say I'm a saint or pretend to be a prude just so that people "like" me. I'm loyal, faithful to my husband, but I don't feel I have to hide the fact that I enjoy sex VERY MUCH. Is it wrong of me, being a grown, married woman and all, to be so open about my sexuality? I've never used foul language or have shown any disrespect by using an inappropriate vocabulary...

2007-10-28 18:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by MiaMonique 6

My husband and i have been having trouble and he is living away at the moment to sort himself out and see if we still have a marriage. He just told me today that on Friday he had sex with his friend (girl) and that all it was, was just that. What do i do give him another chance or leave it? Should he get points for being honest with me. He said he wanted to let everything out in the open before he came back home

2007-10-28 18:36:38 · 41 answers · asked by girly girl 2

to make a very long story short..

I ignored a text from a co worker which I felt that this person had called me a liar. My husband read the text and replied with stop sending stupid messages.
Well this co worker didn't like that and decided to call my mother who lives with us and told her what was going on and to ask her what my problem was..

I have notified the propper people but I think I need to say Harrasment or am I over reacting?

2007-10-28 18:21:34 · 4 answers · asked by aeiou 2

I am 20 and my husband is 22 and we just got married this month. My husband has no sex drive at all, and I want it at least 3-4 times a week. I am very pretty, not fat, and I am very fun to be with. I don't understand what is going on?!?! I try to talk about it to him and he says that it will get better....but its been this way for the past 5 months or so. Can anyone help? I feel so ugly and unwanted, its killing me!

2007-10-28 18:14:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

a year ago i had asked a q abt my my wife's suspected affair. Sat nite she told me she did hv one. But all she did was talk to this friend of mine. Regularly of course, but only in general. Nothing discussed ever was private or personal She was going thru a very diff emotional phase where she felt let down by every1 she knew incl me. Hence she tried to find refuge in this guy, who tried to help in some other matter & later it became regular small talks. But she says she put an end to it a year back after he tried to get physical.

Shes been crying since, feeling guilt and pain, & vows to never do that again. i love her immensely and i believe that she does too. I told her i forgave her and we shall change the dynamics of our relationship, which we both intend to do.

i cant get this entire episode out of my mind. My wife talking to some1 w/o me knowing & then this guy getting physical & she hiding this entirely 4m me.

how do i overcome this feeling ??? only genuine answ plz

2007-10-28 18:12:41 · 6 answers · asked by sleazy70 1

My children were at their dad house for visitation and him and his new wife got into a physical fight?
My daughter has never seen anything like that from me and my husband but she was defending her dad and saying he hit her step mom cause she wouldnt listen I am very worried the impression this is leaving with her my daughter is 9 my son is 11 what should I do? He was abusive to me and we have been divorced since 4/1/2000. He is very good to the kids but they argue alot when the kids come over this is the first physical fight they have had in front of the kids.How should I aproach it in a non confrontal way so he dont get defensive?

2007-10-28 17:57:09 · 7 answers · asked by sashaaspen 4