We have been together for 8 years and I love hiim, but, I believe the age difference is starting to rear it's ugly head. Any advice would be very appreciative!
2007-10-28 19:15:14 · 14 answers · asked by babynag 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mom has been with her boyfriend for 22 years and is 12 years older than he is.They have lived together 21 of the 22 years. She just turned 67 and he is 55. They have interests that they share , and interests apart from each other. And work at being tolerant of their differences.
Stop with the "been there, done that" mentality and look at situations that come up with a fresh perspective. You both need to be committed to keeping your marriage alive and vital if it is going to survive. And respect each others positives as well as any kinks that age throws into the mix! Age is a number, marriage is a commitment. And how you feel about both is the glue that will bind you or the hammer that will tear you apart.
Good luck to you both! You can get through this- but only if you are together in what your goals are.
2007-10-28 19:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it can survive. Don't let your age keep you from doing the things you wanna do. Live life with your husband. I have a friend he is 39 and she is 50 and he always complains that she never does anything with him. He just wants to spend time with her and she just wants to sit at home all the time so that is what I am referring to. Support your husband in the things that he wants to do and be there for him. When you are good to someone unless they are heartless they will be good to you.
2007-10-29 03:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by rene1695 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The thing is, my boyfriend dated someone 20 yrs. his senior and said it was a nightmare. They were on different planes and she was severely insecure. I'm not saying it can't work, but it's going to be alot of effort on your part. What are the differences that are starting to develop? I mean, he was basically a KID when you met. You were a grown woman. What did you have in common then? It can't have gotten any worse. You are going to be insecure, smarter, more experienced and this will both emasculate and irritate him. My advice is that you work very, very hard in this marriage and I wish you the very best.
2007-10-29 02:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doubt it. the poor guy was 21 when you married him so you were dating him before he had the chance to really live his life....now he is a young man and you are nearly middle aged.
I doubt it will work...let him go while YOU can make the decision...it will be much more painful when you are 50 and he dumps you because all is coworkers think you are his grandma
2007-10-29 02:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am older than my husband. the age difference is not as great as your but I think if two people love eachother truley then I think that they can over come anything, Age is just a number it is usually the person(s) that make it a big deal
2007-10-29 02:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by racheldeos 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take good care of yourself, good care of him, and stop thinking about those few years.
My aunt married a guy 25 years younger and they've been together for 30 years now. Happy as always.
2007-10-29 02:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why worry over something that has not happened, or something in your mind?
Please get the care and feeding of husbands by Dr. Laura. This will help you, assuming that he is a good man
2007-10-29 02:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by tlindsey3417@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can survive, but is unlikely to be successful if you already see issues.
2007-10-29 02:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be a dad then it cannot survive but otherwise there is no reason why it cant survive
2007-10-29 02:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by captainpantsbc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are u or he loaded? if the answer is yes - plastic procedures. and lots of it. look at madonna - nobody ever would say she ia 50 year old grandma (or whatever year old is she). stay young and beautiful
2007-10-29 02:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋