What is a good way to bring up that you are interested in swinging with your husband if you are marrried??

Question

honest answers only please. Don't be judgemental if you don't agree with the life style move on to another question please.

Hey Colleen, maybe you should learn to read. Obviously, you are not only ignorant but illiterate as well.

Answer 1

Well how about an answer from someone who was in this life style for 7 years ? will that be better then someone being judgemental and rude?

Dont do it , seriously unless you and your husband have been 100% honest with each other on every level there is in marriage , unless your doing it to enhance your sexual desire for your husband and open him up to new exciting experiences , dont do it , if your doing it just so you get variety , dont do it.

There are rule's to swinging , you never ever swing with the same person/couple more then once that way you dont form an emotional connection with anyone your not married to. You never have shower's with the people your swinging with and you never have intercourse with them in the same bed you and your husband sleep in. There are more rules and you have to set boundaries otherwise your just setting yourself up for divorce.

Swinging isnt a game , its real human's with real emotion's.

So if your not rock solid find other way's to enhance your sex life if it's become boring.

Answer 2

I think, in every married couples, you and your husband should be honest and open to each other. There are many factors to consider in discussing the idea to keep your family together after the swinging because nobody will sure wither it will lead you more stronger relationship or ruin it instead. Remember that the purpose is for a limited and temporary time the non-married couples to enjoy an intimate sex that they can not have with their own mate will be done for given period. There are also limited boundaries how far the relationship will go to enjoy it. The health and emotional consideration shall be discussed also on how to avoid future problems relating to STDs and unwanted pregancies.

If these factors have been considered and remidies are anticipated including their compromises, then the swinging is recommended to the couples specially for those couples whose married relationship are longer and their sexual lusts was fading. It really spice up the sex urges for these couples.

Swinging in some couples do problem instead of having exploring more experiences outside your bed that your spouse failed to give you and enjoy the sexual needs you want. This is because either or both of spouses have failed to continue committing themselves of their own responsibilities and respect due to their personal desires they can not control after all. Some husband or wife's emotional feel the attachment to another guy when you had successfully having tried swinging, other mate still to look for deeper emotional feelings with their personal desires to continue the sexual activity they had started.

To avoid complication and ruin the family, both couples must be open to each other and no room of secrecy between them. Constant communication between the couples also must be neccessary to avoid suspecion on cheatings.

Find the right time when your husband is in good mood to open up the idea and discuss it during the ultimate pleasure of lovemaking with your husband that you have strong acceptance to the "lefestyles" this idea having sex with another guy. You will know what his reactions if he accepts the idea then continue discussing with him until both of you decided how to make it real. But if he refuses then forget it and better luck next time to open the idea next time until he accepted. Do not surrender to brought up your idea until you succeeded.
Good luck.....

Answer 3

Just bring it up, wait until you are both relaxed (maybe open a bottle of wine and just chat.) then sound him out slowly on how he feels about things.

be careful though as it is possible he will be against the idea as he may feel you are trying to trap him into saying something he shouldn't.

most of all be sure to tell him you love him and if he says no it is ok as it was just a thought, it's not worth pushing someone too far away over something you don't even know will be what you want.

Answer 4

Depends on your husband. You know what he is open to more than anyone here. This is usually a man's dream, as long as it is with 2 girls. But be careful, look at some of the other answers here on the same topic. Many times these situations don't turn out as innocent and uncomplicated as you thought they would.

Trying not to be judgemental, but you better talk to alot of current and ex swingers before you make up your mind. Weigh the pros and the cons.

Answer 5

My sister got HIV from swinging!
Both her and her husband at the time thought it would be fun!
We she said they played a game called "BULL DOGGING", and she pretty sure that's how she contracted the disease!

Her husband left her and now has the kids because her viral load is over 2600!
I would never even try it if it were me so better you then me!

Her concern in life now is to prevent getting sick because phenomena is so problematic that it could and will kill her!

this happen in 2003, and she has nothing but bills in her life!

Answer 6

good question- he may just slap you in the face, or tell you that your sick in the head, but then again he may say - damn honey - I thought you would never agree to such,and he may already have some couple in mind!-- but you should think about saying this to him - before you really do- How are you gonna feel if he aggrees with you , and absolutely Loves the idea? - for real- you may think you would be okay with it now, but also how you will feel if he says No way! If he does not like the idea, he will forever have your idea in his mind, and throw it up to you in the future. Or may not trust you as he does now. But then again - you know him I hope = so if you think he would be cool with this new news- then go for it- but remember - you make this bed - so you will have to lay in it forever- I personally think that if any man wanted an open relationship, he would either let it be known , or he would never get married- well good luck , and let me know what happens if you would please!! : ) thanks

Answer 7

There is no good way, when I mentioned it to my hubby we were at the bar and I jokingly said it to him he looked at me and laughed and said hahaha ya right...I played along and laughed, little he knows I was actually serious. But really I want more of an open marriage then swinging, but I want it opened 4 me and closed 4 him :)... Ya he said no to that too.
So basically I'm S.O.L

Hope it works better 4 u!!

Answer 8

Tell him exactly this..."Honey how would you like to have sex with other people? If we were swingers you could do that!"

If he says "yes" or "maybe" then your in.

If he says no then laugh and say "Just kidding you perv!"

btw swinglifestyle.com is good site if he agrees, I'm more than sure you'll all find local swingers in there that would suit your alls taste. Good Luck!

Answer 9

The question is could he handle seeing you with another man?

Depends on trust between you as well, jealousy issues if any. Has he ever joked about it?

Find out how he feels about it first. They discuss this on the Playboy radio channel if you have a Sirrius radio or XM

Answer 10

has your husband ever expressed any interest in being a swinger? well, best advice i can give is dont just come out and ask it, he might take it the wrong way.. becuz i dont know how open minded ur husband is on that kind of thing.. hmm interesting ill give this one a star


thought id add WOW someone's been bombarding these answers with thumbs downs... prejudice much?