Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2007

How does it make you feel, and how do you cope with it?

2007-10-25 23:46:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

what kind of charecteristics should you look for in your in laws to know if they wont trouble you after marriage ?

assuming you have a neutral mind with no fixed opinions and are flexible on all things like money, status, education, etc etc. ?

2007-10-25 23:43:11 · 6 answers · asked by Pramod R 4

We have a male friend of the family who carries a torch for my wife; she knows this, has told me, and has said it's under control, she's told him she can't go there, she loves me and doesn't fancy him. I've no reason to doubt this, and am pretty certain nothing untoward has gone on, but would like any married women's opinions on two little incidents; the first is the fact that when she emailed him three pics of a group day at the beach one of them was just of her, in a bikini. the other is when I happened to walk in on them working on a computer project; something had just gone wrong on screen, causing him to sigh in exasperation, at which she lent over and put her forehead on his shoulder in a kind of empathy thing I guess. A little bit of me wonders if these two incidents are really a good idea with a guy you wish to clearly put off any hope of romatic ideas? Or am I just getting paranoid?

2007-10-25 23:31:34 · 14 answers · asked by SITSC 1

my husband and i always get into arguements, bad ones. i love him but i dont know if i can stand him much longer. in january i turn 18 & i want to make my desicion by then, i have 2 months. our latest, biggest problem is money. my mom has been saving up my child support money so i can go to college but i might not need it for college if i can get a grant or something where i dont pay a cent to go to the college of my choice. if that happens i can use the money on what i want, but until i find out, my husband wont allow me to see my mom because he thinks she'll use the money for herself (only my mom doesnt steal money from her kids like his mom ). this annoys me because shes done so much for me and my husband already and he expects more. he wants to use the money to pay off his loans from before we got married. his mom never did anything for us and she complains when she buys diapers for her grand daughter. my mom has done so much for us, she gave us a fridge, car, $3000,...

2007-10-25 23:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by Diana Ngo 2

although i pay no maintenance i signed the house over to him and it was agreed this was a lump sum for my daughters upkeep he now tells me im getting off lightly and have no rights and if i want to see my daughter it has to suit him and i must supply transport even though he knows this isnt always possible and i must drop her off at his girlfriends house which is further away and says the deal is she gets picked up and droped off to suit him this cant be right

2007-10-25 23:13:42 · 12 answers · asked by Kristy S 1

Why do we make it so complicated?
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2007-10-25 23:13:19 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4

i am from Malaysia.On a sunday morning, she got up early and told me that she is going to the grocery store with my son.That was the last time i saw her.I rang her mobile but she never pick it up. She sends me a sms message 3 hours later saying she is leaving me and taking my son.And she wants to go for custody of my son and also divorce. She told she has made a police report that she is having my son with her.Me and my wife have been having our difference but we have resolve and moving in life.I have never cheated on her.We had plans for our future of what to do next.I tried searching everywhere for her but i could not find her.I made a police report but they told me that they cant do anything as she is legally the mother and she is doing it on her own will.I tried going to mobile company to trace her, but they can only trace if this is a criminal case.I cant afford a lawyer right now.I need some advise on what to do in this situation.PLEASE HELP..

2007-10-25 21:08:57 · 9 answers · asked by Ram 1

My wife and I have been married now for 6 years. To say that we have trust issues would be an understatement. We seperated once at which time she immediatly moved another man in with her, in front of our children. Unfortunatly we have once again serperated, this time I have evidence that it was planned long before she left. She has been talking to several men on the internet both before and after she left. Now, after letting her use my computer, I have found that she has been sending nude photos of herself to at least 6 men. One minute she wants to work things out, the next she can't stand to look at me. She refuses counseling. I want to save my marriage for the kids and our vows to one another. Is it possible to save it now? I have no idea what she is capable of anymore. Should I just let her go and try to get the kids so that they have some stability in their lives? I know I have my flaws but this is getting out of hand.

2007-10-25 20:13:41 · 12 answers · asked by Mike 1

My husband and I have just lost our home in foreclosure and are in serious debt. To help us out his dad gave us a car. We decided to sell it to earn some extra money. His cousin was looking for an economical car in order to commute to work so he bought it from us or so my husband told me. Months later I asked him about it and he admitted he gave it away. I was so mad. As it was, I really didn't like his cousin because their friendship has put a strain into our relationship so this even made it worse. Before this when I gave birth to our first son I had told my husband that I didn't want anyone to stay over our house the first week because I wanted to enjoy our son. Well, he didn't listen and invited his cousin and he spent the weekend over. I had just given birth and I asked him something so simple but he refused to listen. He refuses to apologize and says that he wont jeopardize his friendship? Help? How do I communicate how I feel?

2007-10-25 19:35:13 · 10 answers · asked by nancy f 3

jerk. preferably alternative/punk, something like that... NIN, throw me a bone. a song that describes such a person. thank you for your help :)

2007-10-25 19:33:57 · 8 answers · asked by I am the truth 1

OR should be "we're going to do what's necessary to have a good and happy marriage".

2007-10-25 19:30:35 · 20 answers · asked by Is that all there is? 4

I saw a question that was addressed to cougars. I don't understand. What's a cougar?

2007-10-25 19:16:08 · 10 answers · asked by cytyzynquartz 1

Say, has anyone out there had an emotional investment in a relationship in which they thought the other person was The One... By this I mean never (or seldom) an arguement and you are seemingly PERFECT in every aspect... Then you find out that this person is either on a completely different page than they are regarding marriage, they are dating you but seem to be still looking for the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal) or they do something that just screams, "I'm not as serious as you are?" It might be that they pulled a fu*k azz stunt or you caught them in a lie or anything at all. Then you realize you made a grave mistake. Your opinion of relationships in general is shattered. Stories?

2007-10-25 19:13:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I allowed to marry a person that is related through me as such, My dad Larry has an older brother named Harry(blood related) Harry is married to Mary, Barry is Mary's brother (blood) Barry's daughter is A, so am i allowed to marry A.

2007-10-25 19:06:54 · 10 answers · asked by V 1

From my brother-in-law:

My wife has had some mental health issues arise recently due to the onset of severe depression, and she tried twice to take her own life with pills. My wife is now on medication to battle her depression and attends several counseling sessions with various professionals each week.

My mother in law is convinced that my wife's condition is all my fault. She has never approved of me or the way I chose to do things regarding my family. She has tried many times to convince my wife to leave me over any small arguement but my wife always makes the choice to stay.

On my wife's latest visit with her counselor, we were told that her mother had called the counselor and voiced concerns about our relationship, in what I am certain is another attempt to go through others to interfere in my marriage.

Has she overstepped her bounds in not asking at least my wife's permission to speak with her councelor? I don't think my wife needs this. How should I handle this?

2007-10-25 18:47:10 · 11 answers · asked by Timberwolf 3

Suppose your spouse belittled your child, spent the family money in bars and stip clubs, blamed his actions on you and basically ran your life into the ditch with repeated acts of selfishness and irresponsibility for ten years (with periods of stability in-between the crisis episodes).

Suppose he then woke up one day and felt great remorse, realizing all the damage he had caused and time he had wasted. Suppose he moved out and and was determined to change his behavior, but only after almost physicallly injuring your child while in a rage.

If he went to counseling while you were separated...and seemed to have learned effective ways of handling life, would you take the risk of rejoining the family? How would you know he had changed for real? If you decided to leave him even after all the work he had done to turn things around, would that be immoral?

2007-10-25 18:33:20 · 12 answers · asked by whereRyou? 6

2007-10-25 18:32:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i got married a year ago. i really dont know how to say things without making it sound really bad. we get along well but there are a few things that really bugs me — in march i caught him texting his ex to tell him he loves her. we havent had sex for 5 months. im pretty good at my job but he tells everyone its not a serious career. im confused bec the day to day is fine then he pulls these stunts that are really hurtful. i am a really loving person but lately, i dont even care if he doesnt sleep in the same bed as me. how do i pull myself out of this rut? is there any advice to give me aside from that i should leave him? :'(

2007-10-25 18:27:55 · 14 answers · asked by trying to be strong 1

what does it mean if my mom wants me to hit this bully where it hurts?

2007-10-25 18:19:05 · 18 answers · asked by Aaron 1

how long have you been married and is she still the one?

2007-10-25 17:55:54 · 13 answers · asked by Bettie_T 2

1. Go door to door trying to get a little something in the sack
2. Check out my neighbor's nice pumpkins from my balcony
3. Have Candy spread on my bedroom floor

2007-10-25 17:47:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not talking about being ok..

I'm talking about being content, focussed, happy.

Were you happIER with your ex-lover?

Have you ever felt true love? If yes, then are you serious about being happy (or happier) now that they're gone?

2007-10-25 17:43:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

A couple of weeks ago, my sister in law was told by some guy that he caught his girlfriend and my brother having sex. This guy has a beef with my brother from something else that went sour, according to my brother. This guy even went as far to have his current girlfriend call my sister in law and say that she saw this girl get in my brother's car. Then about a week later, this guy hits on my sister in law. Between all this time, he had been texting her constantly and calling her giving her even more ellaborate info. He basically lost a lot of credibility when he hit on her (he current;y has a gf) and then when he would ellaborate to the point of being non-believable. Then a few days after that a chick (she won't say who) came into my sil's work and told her that she saw my brother cheat 2 months before they got married. My sil says she considers this person reliable and that she's known this "friend" person for 10 years. She can't talk to my brother she says because he just denies it.

2007-10-25 17:40:43 · 5 answers · asked by ANONN 1

I'm gonna sound like a bit of a whinner sorry, but sometimes you just need to get it out. My husband works on the giant windmills. He has been gone for two months. Thankfully he'll be home in five short days. But that is the problem. Life is so stressing right now, that I feel like this last two weeks has been an eternity. And the next five days don't even seem manageble. AHHHHHHHHHHHH! I just miss him so much, I'm sick of sleeping in this bed by my self, and I miss having dinner with another human! lol, we don't have children yet. *pout*. Sorry guys. Don't bash me

2007-10-25 17:30:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

When your wife calls you "hubby"?

I hate that word. Whenever I hear a woman refer to her husband that way, I cringe. It sounds boring and tired. It makes your man sound like a hubcap or something. Maybe it's just me...

2007-10-25 17:28:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-25 17:26:20 · 23 answers · asked by Johnnyo 2

he cheated with someone that he let became my friend afterwards. then when i filed he would not pay the court cost and it has not been final yet. he says he loves me and wants me back. that it was a one time thing. i do love him still with all my heart. but i am not sure of what to do. i need some advice on what other people think. help me.

2007-10-25 17:22:27 · 32 answers · asked by ermykatie 1

2007-10-25 17:19:42 · 23 answers · asked by whereRyou? 6

2007-10-25 17:13:28 · 12 answers · asked by glorivee 1

when someone says they love you but aren't "in love" with you doesn't " in love " really mean - the new relationship feeling ,the can't get enough of each other, enjoying getting to know each other feeling is gone. so the question is do you call it quites ? i mean if you get into another relationship eventualy its gonna happen agian in a few years or so , and so on
do you stay and deal with it or get into a new relationship every 5-10 years or so?

2007-10-25 17:13:28 · 9 answers · asked by just me 4