Marriage & Divorce - 21 October 2007

am married for more than 10 years, now when I'am sleeping with my wife I did not enjoy much. on the same time other girls are more attractive even if other girls is not beautiful.
I found this result with other couples in my community .
please advise how I can re-enjoy with my wife

2007-10-21 23:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by Sadiq Siddiq 1

I don't know what to think of it. My husband and I have been married for 11 years. The first half of the marriage he wanted me intimately all the time. the second half he hardly ever wants me intimately. We hardly ever see each other as we work opposite shifts. He works with lots of women at his job which I have felt kind of insecure about that. We both have been off work together for the last 5 days, and not once has he wanted or tried to be intimate with me. I even tried to initiate it and he pushed me away and would not get an erection. Every time we do have time together which is rare,he never wants to touch me. What do you think is going on?

2007-10-21 21:58:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 21:46:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

today my husband decided that he dosent want to be with me anymore and everything but our home is in his name and i was a stay at home mom for the past 2 years but i dont want him to take our baby

2007-10-21 21:39:24 · 9 answers · asked by Amber 1

2007-10-21 21:27:00 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

weve been having a lot of problems lately,hes become very distant .he becomes so cruel at times i cant understand y,(well i can, generally over somthing small that will blow up and drag on for days) it hurts so much, and i wonder how can u be so cruel to someone ure supposed to love which makes me question all the time does he even love me?as i dont hear it anymore.
he does this a lot when we are around other ppl,and its so obvious to those around us we r not happy.i find it so embarresing.i wonder y is he with me if he hates me so much.
i know men become stressed and i should be the sounding board for him, but when i have things i want to talk about they can only be discuused for a while or else it means am always depressed.i just feel i have to be happy always even wen am not.
other times hes such a sweeetty i couldnt ask for anything more and at them times i am so happy.but i think its because there is no one else there so he has to talk to me.
help plz

2007-10-21 21:24:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just don't understand why people want to get married..I'm a spiritual person and believe in God.. I'm scared as hell to get married.. Almost everybody I know has been divorced and now the guys suffer financially and can only see their kids every other weekend.. So, who says you HAVE to get married?? I think it's pointless really..Any thoughts or opinions?

2007-10-21 21:13:17 · 22 answers · asked by fontaine 2

I've been in a relationship for just under a year now and I am worried that things are going wrong.

I moved in with this girl a few months ago after I had to moved out of my own home (due to a flood). Things have been ok and we have been getting on really well.

Now, we've also been looking at buying a house together. She owns her house and I was renting. I have been really nervous about it all and we have had a few arguments where I have been saying that I am nervous and worried about it all.

We had a big argument yesterday because I was still worried. She suggested that we could take her house off the market and I said that was an idea we could consider. At that point she said that if we had to do that she would have to consider our relationship.

Now that really worried me. Things got better through the day and we're fine now. I'm just worried that having these sort of worries and problems could really push us apart.

What do you think?

2007-10-21 20:45:44 · 23 answers · asked by nickyboyzuk 1

I have depended on him for two years. I was a house wife and everything was in his name. I am staying with family right now but not sure what I can do in the mean time while I file for divorce. Anyone out there with some advice, because I feel so lost right now.

2007-10-21 20:21:17 · 16 answers · asked by milfof209011979 1

I know they say that the sense of smell is the most invocative, but this one's just made me feel really akward.

My wife's found an old bottle of perfume she used to use a lot and have just started using it again. The problem is that it's the very same one that my ex used when we were going out years ago, and that it's bringing back fond memories...

Anyone else find this akward?

2007-10-21 20:17:13 · 16 answers · asked by k² 6

2007-10-21 20:07:26 · 9 answers · asked by sfun42 1

2007-10-21 19:36:12 · 14 answers · asked by Ferrari F430 1

She slept with an old boyfriend 3 times in a month and a half period. Maybe it would have gone on if I hadn't found out. How do I know it hasn't happend before? We have 3 kids and own our own home and I am finding it hard to just walk away from it all. She shows a lot of remorse for what happend and says she hates herself for tearing our family apart. Will she cheat again? HELP!

2007-10-21 19:14:43 · 36 answers · asked by Pathfinder 2

When I was I young fell in love, we were together for 2 years then he left for the military and I stayed behind. I never stopped loving him and have thought about him every day for 14 yrs. In the mean time I met a wonderful man and we are now married. I found out that the man who I let go has moved back. I thought I could seperate myself from these feelings so I went to see him, I felt like I had to. I couldn't think straight. When I saw him and looked into his eyes my heart ached and felt the connection that obviously had never gone away. Now I am torn between my vows, my husband , who hasn't done anything wrong except not be this man, and my 1st love. I don't condone infedelity but now I am living it. I haven't physically cheated, but emotionally I have. When I am with him the world goes away and when I return to my life I am sick,guilty& sad. Do I stay in my marriage & think about this man until the day I die or do I break my husbands heart and miss him. I love them both. Help!

2007-10-21 19:08:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I like to go to the movies with a friend of mine every two weeks or so. My mom mentioned that it might not be appropriate for me to hang out with Jeff when I get married. She said "If you marry Margaret, will you still be going to the movies with Jeff?", and gave me that 'No' look. I thought that this was crazy, because married people have always had friends of the same gender. It's not like Jeff and I go out drinking, or to stripper clubs or anything. Now if my friend was female, then I'd understand. Seriously, would most spouses have a problem with their husband or wife going to the movies with an old friend every other weekend? Heck, even my mom goes out to eat with friends from work, and my dad has his golf league.

I asked her about it again, and she brushed it off (as if she changed her mind). I sure wouldn't want to get married if I can't even go to the movies with my best friend once every couple weeks or so.

2007-10-21 19:05:00 · 9 answers · asked by Michael F 3

what site on the computer can a person post on married women who cheat on there spouces for free and all can see it for free on the computer thank you a lot/

2007-10-21 18:53:31 · 10 answers · asked by matthew v 3

My bf and I have been together almost 10 yrs. We both cheated on each other in the beginning of our relationship. He was ready for marriage at first but I wasn't. That's why I cheated and he cheated on me after giving up on me. But we stayed together. He found out about me after 2 yrs & he forgave me. I found out about him after 4 yrs! He should've told me the truth before I moved 3,000 miles away from my family. So here we are still together. Sometimes he brings up my past but when I bring up what he did, he says he did it because of me. We used to fight alot, but now we are just getting along. I always seem to be the one to say I love him first and then he responds. It seems the tables have been turned. When I want to talk to him about the future he'll say he wants to talk about it later. I know he loves me but I'm getting to the point where I don't want to celebrate our 10yr anniv. I want to get married & have children. We've been through thick & thin. What should I do?

2007-10-21 18:49:45 · 8 answers · asked by lvnj16 1

my wife wants new car, wants to raom around and travel, wants to eat always outside, watch movies in theathres, wants to always shop. she keeps nagging me for nothing, she is abusive. i have a 9 yrold daughter from her. she is not taking any responsibilty of daughter and keep pampering her too. i get my child ready for school and keep slogging for all my child's requirements. my wife is not interested in any household stuff. if i tell her she turns voilent. i have asked her to leave but she says, she will not leave, she tells me that she will acusse me of emotional abuse and call the police. she is uncorrigible and is not willing to mend her ways. child is also suffering in this tussle. i m under psychatric care and dumped with tranqiullisers. how to tackle this kind of deadly dangerous and criominal woman as my child loves both of us. i m very much confused. pl help

2007-10-21 18:44:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hate the fact that my husband is joining several websites and gaining several female friends that are showing their bodies. He even comments on his page he is married but loves looking at other womens physiques....what do you think? Should I be on the verge of packing my bags and leaving???

2007-10-21 18:36:59 · 39 answers · asked by Jayse'sMommy 2

2007-10-21 18:20:43 · 16 answers · asked by Southern Belle 2

I am 30 yrs old, have been married for 8 yrs and have 2 children. I love my wife so much, I started my marriage off the wrong way. I worked 12 to 14 hrs a day and when I would get home I would complain all the time because the house was always a mess. I went into my marriage thinking that the man worked and the woman stayed home and took care of the child. About 5 yrs ago I changed the way I thought, and I started cleaning, doing laundry, all house chores plus outside chores after I would get home from work. I wasn't complaining anymore, but she still held it against me for complaining 4 that 3 yrs. Our sex life has always been great, but I think our love went down hill. I cheated on her about 6 mo ago, 1 night stand(I was drunk) she found out and then cheated on me last week. She is so mad for cheating and keeping it from her for 6 mo. until I she found out. Now she said that she would like some time apart. I love her so much,and cannot bear the thought of losing her, please help!

2007-10-21 18:18:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

But are scared to end up that wierd Aunty, Sister, Daughter who never married and had children.

2007-10-21 18:01:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seems that guys have a stronger instinct or just KNOW when the girl is 'the one" ALOT more than girls...most girls i know didn't know the their husbands were "the one" right away but eventually they knew...their husbands "knew" off the bat...

has this happened to you too? and why?

2007-10-21 17:46:10 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've known one of my cousins friends for 14 years, I was really young the first time we met. He was the only who would take time out to talk to me unlike the rest of my cousins friends who were all at least 7 years older than me. Recently my aunt passed away and me and him are both married and we each have a son. We've been leaning on each other for support and he actually comes over and we talk about everything. I still after all these years have a crush on him. Am I getting into something wrong or can we just be friends that help each other out? By the way he was the one who wanted to come over to my house to see my son who's 7 weeks old. Yes, my husband knows about it. I don't know how his marriage is except I've heard she's a mean mother to their child.

2007-10-21 17:44:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have read a lot on here lately and my story is a little different. I have been married 27 years! We had 2 children. I had always been extremely close to my kids. My daughter is married with her own kids. My son passed away 4 years ago at 18 y.o. It has cause a lot of depression for me and more so than her. I have been and she has been to counseling.
My counselors have learned that I have never been in love with my wife and had been married to my kids for this long. I gave her a friendship ring in college and she took it as an engagement ring. I never wanted to hurt her so I went with it. Now that I am 50, I just cannot feel comfortable to her. She also knows that I love her but never have been in love with her. I have tried all kinds of things to bring us closer but nothing works. She is in one room and I am in the other. Any advice? Thanks.

2007-10-21 17:42:37 · 8 answers · asked by bergrund 2

I've been divorced for almost 5 years and have been going out with a great guy for almost 1 and a half years. Everything is very good with him. We're compatible, have the same values, our kids get along, we're both in our 40s and had a similar failed marriage situation. Somehow, even though I know he's the one (and he's told me the same), I feel worried about marrying again. I'm not normally a pessimistic person but I find myself feeling very cynical towards marriage. I am from a family of happy married siblings and parents and have seen many healthy examples of marriage. I have also seen my share of failed marriages in couples that I thought would never get to that point.

Can anyone help me to see the idea of marriage in a more positive manner? I saw a counsellor for a short time who listened and only justified my feelings are totally reasonable.
I see myself as a positive person with a lot of friends but would like some advice.

2007-10-21 17:36:51 · 11 answers · asked by happywhereIam 2

I am having a big problem with being permiscuious and initiating sex with my husband. I love him and we have no other problems in the bedroom or talking or communicating. We are best friends and have a good marriage. I'm just so uncomfortable starting with him or acting on any kind of thought. I can not bring myself to be the one to start anything and he is so tired of having to be the one to allways initiate it. I think about things I could and want to do with, for or to him to start it, but how do I get comfortable about doing anything about it and get out of this shell. I only started feeling this way for the past couple years. What's wierd is I use to be the opposite when I was younger. I am 38. I feel imberrest to open up to him like wearing a sexy teddy or sexy bed clothes or anything like that also and I should'nt. I am thin and he loves my long hair and says he is happy with me and how I look. If you went through this and were able to change, how did you? I need to fix this.

2007-10-21 17:30:59 · 7 answers · asked by Dana B 2

2007-10-21 16:36:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend was married 2 weeks before her bridal shower on short notice....she recieved gifts at her bridal shower only.....they were only married for a total of 38 days.....does she return the gifts from the shower which were only kept for a couple of weeks or do they keep them and split them between themselves???? can anyone tell me the proper etiquette here????

2007-10-21 16:31:12 · 6 answers · asked by Amy N 4

my boyfriend just asked me to marry him. i can't wait! we want a quick court house wedding.

problem is my dad told me awhile ago he really wanted to be there if/when we get married. he lives in arkansas we live in michigan. we don't want to make a big deal outta it.

plus if we tell dad and he's the only one there we have other family that would be offended.

should we just do it and tell dad later?

2007-10-21 16:19:49 · 19 answers · asked by .. 2