Marriage & Divorce - 18 October 2007

this just came up b/c of a discussion with a g/f about her marriage. Her and her hubsand were fighting over porn and she was like well don't you get mad when your husband looks.
I was like honestly no. I don't mind him looking at porn, b/c to me that is different than him going to strip bar or looking at real women (i know these are real as well but its not like he is going to hook up with Belladonna or who ever) and plus it saves me from having sex when I really don't want to.
She seemed shocked. I did mention that their is a certain point that (some of you all might remember my questions last week) to me shouldn't be crossed though, getting pics from women that we know (real women) sexual chatting ect. But watching a porn or looking at some nude shots on line, doesn't bother me.

Does that make me weird?

I did tell her though that I thought if she really didn't like it then out of respect her husband shouldn't look. That caused a whole other conversation with my husband lol.

2007-10-18 23:44:47 · 34 answers · asked by his wife 4

The number of househusbands is increasing everywhere and they are being recognised.

Should they dress different like an housewife or only male attire with apron? Give your Wildest Thoughts.

2007-10-18 23:30:00 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I will have been married 3 years in April. We are young, both 22, and have a son who will be 2 in January. (for all of you who are figuring it up we were married but just like to say the honeymoon worked LOL) Anyways, I work (3rd shift) and she stays at home with him. Money is tight but we pay our bills and splurge every so often. What I am getting at is we cant get past bickering. Either we are fantastic and could be role models for other young couples or we are fighting (bad). But heres my problem its over absolutely nothing!!! i.e. i didnt do the dishes in the right order(remember baby items, cups, silverware, plates and bowls and then pots and pans) or i get mad at her for waking me up to say shes leaving instead of her just leaving and letting me sleep. Our fights arent fights they are miniscule problems (bickering) compared to others real problems but we turn them into a 3-4 HOUR ordeal. How do we stop them at what they are (just differences) and not into a war?

2007-10-18 22:10:15 · 10 answers · asked by yay 1

i have a friend that is staying with me because her and her husband separated for now but make a long story short he caught her cheating with an ex he didn't walk in on them he just saw some e-mails they had been sending to each other so he was mad as hell he told her to leave they have 3kids together 1 she had before they met and her and hubby has two together now he wants to take his two kids from her and try and prove her an unfit mom she does't work she is stay home mom has been for the 9yrs they have been married i want to help but i don't know anything about legal matters should has this i told her maybe she should get a job or even go to school then when he does try to take them maybe a judge will see that she is working and trying and he can't get them he works all the time so he doesn't have time to take care of them thats why she doesn't work thanks to anyone that can help

2007-10-18 22:03:32 · 8 answers · asked by mygirlfriends_now 1

What are wives expecting from their husbands? Do husbands need to treat them with respect apart from love and care? How to know her dreams and make them come true. How to win her heart? What makes an ideal husband.

2007-10-18 21:55:10 · 17 answers · asked by turfyguy 2

OK, I'll try to make this as short and understandable as possible.

I met a guy back in 2002 and we dated shortly. It didn't work out, but we became best friends. We know everything about each other, we share secrets and talk about the people we date. Well, he dated this female 3 years ago who dogged him out really bad. Since then, he has had a very hard time being in relationships. Well, I told him a year ago that I wanted more from him and I thought that we would be good together. He said that he had been thinking about it too and he loved me, but he didn't want to ruin our friendship... especially since he and the girl that dogged him out used to be friends first. Well, a couple of weeks ago, he informed me that he is thinking about getting back with her.

I must admit that it sort of hurt my feelings, but at the same time, if that's what he wants...then by all means do it, but only blame yourself if it goes sour AGAIN! What would you do in this situation?

2007-10-18 20:55:50 · 8 answers · asked by Fireanddesir 2

I'm leaving my husband of 6.5 yrs and well he asked if we could "make love" one more time before I go. Isn't that just a bit too much or is it just me?

2007-10-18 20:54:49 · 20 answers · asked by emotionalyhurtmom 4

I was trying to reconcile with my spouse, after a three year seperation in which we have been together several times. Each time I found out he was with other woman at the same time, his excuse, "if he had a wife he wouldn't be with any other woman" " I put him in this spot" recently I have been seeing him, spending the night and I found out he is seeing someone else, I went the house they were in bed together. A mistake, I ended up forgiving him, spent time with him, I went up to the house last week and he wouldn't let me in, he was going to take a shower, other excuses. I knew he had that woman in there.last weekend I went to the bar where she worked, had a talk with her, I told he was lying to both of us. She admitted being there that day, & on several others, he comes & picks her up, she recieved a dozen roses on her birthday, a card, dinner with my husband. She came to the house 10/16 & we both faced him. he yelled for us to get out of his house. He called me ugly names.

2007-10-18 20:37:30 · 23 answers · asked by Nanna D 1

My boyfriend is a older man (he's 39), he's a teacher at a post-secondary school. He gets angry and offended when I disagree with him on issues. I saw a student say to him that he got a fact wrong about something and he got a little offended. I haven't seen him get into disagreements with people older. Does he get upset because I'm a younger person challenging him or because he feels disrespected? I'm a graduate student in philosophy and my professors and the students in my classes get excited to get into debates and arguments (while showing respect for persons of others). Is it rude, disrespectful or socially different when you do this outside of the classroom?

2007-10-18 20:29:07 · 13 answers · asked by greenwich 4

i love him its just that he is really rude to our daugter and when im at work he makes her cook and clean for him
iwant a divorce but he dosnt and my dsughter was crying when i came home from work casue he treated her like a maid
should i divorce him or what
whatas ur opoimion

2007-10-18 20:22:44 · 8 answers · asked by Ava Notorious 2

My girlfriend of 2 years and I would like to get married next year. She is from Canada and I am from the US. The only problem is.. I want to have enough money saved up before I marry her because I don't want to make any mistake, especially when it comes to our future finances. Anyways, I'm thinking that I should have at least a new car + $30,000 saved up.. I am still a couple of years from graduating from college, so I want to make sure that we're stable enough. She doesn't want me to wait another year to save that money up.. so, what should I do?? am I selfish to want soo much money and how much did you have (savings) when you first got married? Please help to ease my stress because it's pretty bad!!!

2007-10-18 19:58:57 · 17 answers · asked by gododjgjodjod 1

and i'm thinking it needs to end soon. We fight a lot and never seem to have too much in common anymore. we do not love each other, but stay together for the kids. I met a fellow who I really get along well with and he seems very interested in getting into a relationship with me but he always says that I will "never leave cause of the kids", even tho thats only half the truth. I feel very attracted to him and even tho my husband seems to have his own life these days (going out with buddies, playing the role of being single etc.) I dont want this new guy to disappear. I dont know if i should leave +get into something with this new fellow. Counselling is not an option and my controlling husband seems to like to have his cake and eat it too. I am ready to get into a new relationship with someone but when i' tell my husband to leave, he wont. I really feel like emotionally i am already gone and i am not attracted to him sexually. I dont want to miss this opportunity with this guy.

2007-10-18 19:47:39 · 19 answers · asked by Azul 2

my wifes leaving and divorcing me . over my past it wasnt my fault over this married woman doing what she did . with me i was just married to my wife and had to go out of town .we had been married for a couple of years before i left in my state you can marry with concent by both families here . i had to go out to this state and this married woman kept on comming on to me like a tramp which she was one with.4. children and a husband at that time he divorced her later on after he found out what she had did. it wasnt my fault as what this hick did with me she was alway.s comming on to me . that.s no reason why my wife ought to leave and divorce me over this trailer park trash . she was older than me my wife.s only.20. . now she needs to look at this woman.s age in her.40.s she.s older than my mom why would she ever thing . of going to do this after all that. w.va tramp was always comming on to me .

2007-10-18 19:42:01 · 5 answers · asked by matthew v 3

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years. During these years he's never held down a job for more than 6 months. I knew he had some charges that he didn't take care of from years ago and at the time was ok with It. Now he's in jail and has been for over a month now. His mom nor his brother has went to visit him only I have. I send him money and clothing also. Today he had a hearing and I was late as hell getting there because the bus driver was driving Miss Daisy and chit. I caught the last part of what the judge was saying and spoke with his lawyer. I just got a job a month ago and am attending school studying medical billing. He wants me to not go to class on the 22 which I have a test and work, which I have to be at 1 pm. I just got the job and am on probationary period. My classes start at 8 am. He wants me to be there but I have work and school. Will he understand If I'm not there? I told him before I couldn't make It, but he was adamant that I be there. What can I do?

2007-10-18 19:30:33 · 16 answers · asked by Nina S 1

I use to be on child support, but i'm affraid i might be put back on. i'm not a dead beat and i am always there for my kid. what do i do?

2007-10-18 19:26:50 · 16 answers · asked by Quiet Storm 2

How long did you date prior to marriage?
How long have you been married?
Are you happily married?

Please share a story. Please be descriptive. I got the time to listen.

Please do not answer, "nope we were always so in love", because as you can see that would not be an answer to my question. The question clearly indicates that having been in love was not what brought you two to the altar. Maybe security or the fear of being alone brought you two together, but it was not being in love per se. I am doing research on love.

thank you. thank you. thank you.

2007-10-18 19:25:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

You can only name ONE person.

Share a story. Please use details in your description. I got the time to listen.

Seriously, I do not want one word or one sentence answers like, "my husband is my inspiration" because I want to hear WHY your husband is your inspiration as well. Please write a paragraph greater than 5 sentences. I am doing research on human psyche on love.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-18 18:33:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've known the man 15 years- we've always been close but never done ANYTHING. We know we care about each other & he has stayed for the children, he's not leaving. She's had a boyfriend for 6 months. It's not something she puts in his face- but he knows about it. Several friends do as well. I've cared about him this way for years, he cares about me also- but considering he's not leaving- for the children's sake- they're 6 and 11- is this a good or bad idea? The lines of right and wrong seem very fuzzy to me.

2007-10-18 18:33:17 · 18 answers · asked by k girl 1

2007-10-18 18:20:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

before sometimetime i didnot love him but his love forced me to change my views . i cannot leave my parents but he has also my need.and the next problem is this he is muslim and i am hindu.

2007-10-18 18:14:50 · 8 answers · asked by apoorva k 1

In my marriage I had to struggle and work hard and so has my husband. There was a time were were working all together 3 jobs just to make ends meet. We followed God we waited until we were married and followed Gods principles yet for a long time life was hard.

Yet I have known couples who were very cavalier about marraige and casually living together and treating God as an option not as a priority yet they materially and fiancially propser.

My question is growing up I was fairytaled to death that if I waited to have relations until I was married I would be blessed.
I have had a lot of hardhsips in the last 7 years? What to make sense of what I feel and how can I go forward and stop leaning on my own understanding? Have you ever felt that the wicked prosper and have you felt this was unfair?

2007-10-18 18:03:17 · 23 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

2007-10-18 17:59:31 · 6 answers · asked by ☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻☻ 1

my wife keeps nagging and abusing me in front of the girl child (9 yrs old). my wife has lose temprament and just too expecting and demanding. she has all the facilities but just make a fuss out of nothing. i have been avoiding her abuse and i m under psychatric care with dosage of sedatives and tranquillisers , as i feel i my self esteem and ego is eradicated in pulling on with such a fussy and abusive spouse but i love my child a lot and i don't want her to deprive of her childhood with a single parent and financial constraints.my child is also being pampered by my spouse as she is very interested in junk food stuff and roaming around. This is getting worrisome for me. i m just hapless and hopeless about the situation. i tried to convince my spouse about this but she is too aggressive and all my efforts are in vain.

2007-10-18 17:39:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-18 17:38:10 · 11 answers · asked by MARCO B 1

My friend has been together with her boyfriend for over twenty years. Last summer, they finally decided to get married. Now, they are getting a divorce.

My friend says her husband is trying to divorce her. She was served with the divorce papers and she refused to sign them.

Her soon to be ex-husband says that if she refuses to sign them it will result in a legal divorce with or with out her consent.

Can this actually happen? Or is he just bluffing?

2007-10-18 17:37:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is never ever allowed to go anywhere with/o her children it's a rule.We are in outside sales,during the work week a few of us go to lunch if she goes she has to lie. He calls her several times during the day if she doesn't answer right away it causes a bad fight.We had a work seminar he interupted, to yell at he cause she didn't answer the phone,after she explained what was going on the night before. She can't talk on the phone after work if he's there. If the girls go shopping on a Sat. afternoon she can't go ever! She sneaks in phone calls when she is running errands for him for beer or chew,he works on base but calls her to go on base to buy it.No work related functions after 5:00.We took her for lunch on her B'day he took her cell phone left the house want's a divorce.She gets up @ 4am sets his clothes,coffee every a.m. does all the women chores,groceries etc.drives kids everywhere,age 12, 14&4.& they have30 farm animals for fun not profit she takes care of the bills as well.

2007-10-18 17:34:14 · 14 answers · asked by smiley 1

2007-10-18 17:27:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Americans objectify their women. Make them believe their worth is based on looks, playboy covers but not on character or personality.
Americans downgrade women so much, they are afraid to have a female president.
Even Muslim countries have had a female Prime Minister. Whats wrong with this picture?

2007-10-18 17:16:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-18 17:12:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok. I think my husband is plenty romantic. But a lot of my relatives don't, and they think it's because he's not in love with me yet or something...otherwise he'd show more outward affection. But see, I think he's VERY romantic. He bought me a salwar kameez for no reason. When we talk, we do tell each other how we feel. His hugs and kisses(when we were together), were very sweet. Even w/o him telling me everytime we speak, I know how he feels about me. One time we were eating out, and he split his plate with me. We talk about "romantic actions" all the time! ONe time, he made sure I took my cold medicine(I'm forgetful in those matters at times). He held my hand everytime we went somewhere. We even cuddled and watched a movie, and I fell asleep in his arms! These are all the public displays of affection(except the hugs and kisses).

I feel they're romantic. I know it's ok to give hugs and kisses in public now we're wed, but we don't want to! He ignores all the well wishers, but I can't.

2007-10-18 17:05:15 · 22 answers · asked by Uncertain Soul 6