Marriage & Divorce - 14 October 2007

All my life, I've dreamed of becoming a father. At age 37, it hasn't happened yet. I've been with a couple of women who also wanted kids, but the time was never right. You know, finances or whatever. I've had a couple of potential mates who broke it off with me because they didn't want kids, even though I expressed flexibility in the matter. Anyway, do you suppose this ship has sailed for me? It'd still be wonderful, but I don't want to lose any more well-qualified partners because I'm chasing rainbows.

2007-10-14 23:58:27 · 13 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3

How do you get back the sparkle in your relationship? After he’s done everything his done. From lying to spending money we don’t have (On another girl who’s his ex girlfriend). I tried a candle light dinner but I don’t thank that worked for me. I mean I can’t tell when he’s telling me the truth. I don’t even know if he does love me anymore and I see people splitting up everyday that’s been married before I was born My aunt and uncle been Married for 19years the just split they told us the fell out of love. And my best friend’s parents just split they been married for 30years. Her mother told us that the fell out of love. How do you stay with someone that long and just relies you don’t love that person anymore or your not INLOVE anymore. I am 25years old I don’t want to wait
30 years from now and him come to me and tells me he’s not in love with me anymore.
What can I do? I made a vow to god so I am going to keep that.

2007-10-14 23:42:50 · 7 answers · asked by Melinda B 2

this guy is 13 yrs younger than me,has been a friend for about 10 yrs. I recently went through a divorce after been married for 20 yrs. started to enjoy my life as a single person and really do prefer the life i have now.Out of the blue at weekend this friend told me he had feelings for me and had done for a few years.He would like to have a relationship with me and is not worried about the age gap.He is everything my ex husband wasn't loving, careing,kind the list is endless.I really do like this person.I would like to give it a go but deep down i'm worried that if it doesn't work out i could also loose a very good friend also in time could the age difference become a problem.He is every womens dream so why would he be interested in a 44 yr old friend he has never been short of girlfriends has been in a few long term relationships , he's the one what got hurt. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. would love to give it a go,bothered about the age gap

2007-10-14 23:03:17 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went out with this guy several years ago and we haven't spoken since we broke up and we will never speak again. I'm curious about why someone would do this though. He was a constant cheater. The last woman he cheated with was a married woman who left her husband to be with him. He was physically abusive to me throughout our relationship. Anyway, I knew he was cheating, but of course he denied it.

One night he tried to force me to go with him to a party she was having at her house, where her husband was going to be (this is before they were a couple). I knew what was going on, and I told him I wouldn't go so that he could rub the affair in my face. My question is, why would he want to do that to me, and also her husband?

2007-10-14 21:24:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just wanna have a stable income.I got a job in a massage parlour that has a big crowd of regulars.I just started the job last week.My boss said I require all of my employees to be single and I lied.I am married,although my husband moved out and we are gonna divorce.And now this friend of mine who knows everything about me because I trusted her needs money and says she's gonna tell my employer and she's gonna inform my husband and my divorce is gonna be hell and Im gonna lose my son.
by the way,I'm not doing anything radically wrong,but I know people are prejudiced.Love it there.good dayly money.plus 3 days after being hired ,I called in sick and there was no problem.
Should I give in to blackmail?is it worth taking risks?and hell if i know what exactly I'm risking.my life is a mess anyway

2007-10-14 20:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by adasnameismalika 1

I nearly married an Evengelical American sometime ago but pressures from home affected our relationship and we broke up.

My mom wants me to marry a native of my country (asian), and from my religion (non-christian). am ok with that now.

She is putting height restrictions now (as I am only 5 feet tall). Plsu education background and societal background.

And am running out of time as she has given me only 8 months before she looks for a guy for me (ASIAN traditions suck!)

What should I do?

I also like this guy who is 6'2" in height and 1 year younger. Such a no no for my Mom. (She does not know of it)

2007-10-14 20:30:05 · 5 answers · asked by Tashamster 2

Or would it just be too wierd for you?

2007-10-14 20:11:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm new to this church and some women were nice to me at first. I talked to everyone when the service is over or when there are church activities. Some of the husbands and other women would come up to me to talk and to welcome me to the church. But lately....Some of the wives give me mean looks when their husband do. Lately some men that use to say hi just ignore me now. I'm a really nice person. I mean...I don't go up to them...they came up to me and talk. Was I suppose to me rude and not talk?? Did I do anything wrong? I mean I know my boundries and know they are married men and I don't even flirt or anything! Now I don't feel like attending church but I do anyway...for me. I like friends :(

2007-10-14 20:10:48 · 20 answers · asked by Miss H 3

Husband and I were married only for a year.

A few months back, our marriage went through something EXTREMELY major.

An argument at home resulted in him slapping me. He was charged for assault by the police. They took him to court. If found guilty, he would have had a criminal record for the rest of his life.

But he was found not guilty – thanks to his lawyer. And the case was dismissed.

His family have advised him to file for a divorce. My family have advised me to do the same.

But we are still very close….and regularly see each other and spend all our time together.

Sometimes, when alone, I often think – what’s going on? Why does he still love me? And why do I feel the same?

Ps: We have been living apart since he was charged.

2007-10-14 19:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by Sarah 2

they always tell me that they will marry.

2007-10-14 19:54:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked a couple questions last week about these pictures, so no comments on the other questions please. If you want to see these pictures go to my yahoo 360 then go to the far right side about 1/2 way down where it says "photo stream" & look at the first 2 pix. They were taken 25 min apart. They were taken in Sturgis during biker rally & to me one looks like it's taken at work w/ all the boxes in background, but the other one looks like it's after work. What do you think? My husband says she's just a girl that was handing out beef jerky & then had her picture taken w/ people. Remember they are 25 minutes apart & look at them closely & tell me what you think? If I'm just being paranoid, you can tell me so, but he said the guy he works with that took the pictures didn't think the 1st one took so HE thought he should take another one. Something just sounds funny about that to me???

2007-10-14 19:34:09 · 23 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

Any songs about cheating...

2007-10-14 19:33:51 · 7 answers · asked by CiL 1

Do you believe that money is happiness? If you were to marry someone who was poor because you loved them do you think that financial rought times would chase that love out the window?
Are poor people happier than wealthy people or is it the other way around? What do yall think?

2007-10-14 19:33:14 · 7 answers · asked by :) 2

There was once a woman and a man, married. They lived in a middle of nowhere, kilometres and kilometres of woods and wilderness around, and the man drove to his work for an hour every day. He married a woman for love, and she didn't like to stay in all the time, and searched for job, or something else to do, but there was nothing to do, and if there was a job advertised many kilometres away, they wanted a man (and they had only one car, and could not afford any other). They lived so so, not too bad, but not extremely good either. Then the man lost his job, and however hard both of them search, nothing came up, and they lived on baked potatoes and tap water. Then a woman went to the nearest little town to apply for yet another job, where they wanted everybody on paper, but were looking for a male in fact, and meet a well to do man.

2007-10-14 19:30:33 · 10 answers · asked by 17 3

I am 20 years old, but due to some personal problems I want to marry with my girlfriend at this age is there any legal provision.

2007-10-14 19:23:03 · 6 answers · asked by sanjay_verma1818 1

Hi im 25.My mom has cancer.Everyones depressed at home.Dads also depressed.But im beginning to note a change in him.He has talked to my mom's sis about his personal life.He has told his personal life was bad and he din have sex for almost 10yrs.I don knw y he talked like that.He is very good and nice.But in his irritation he shouts at home.My aunt got depressed on hearing this.Shes also married and has a kid.Because of this suddenly a black cloud has fallen on our family.Is it because hes depressed that my mom's life is gona end? is he doin it out of his frustration?He doesn realise what hes saying sometimes.Im very confused.I myself have been betrayed by my lover who thinks only sex and money is life.So im beginning to hate marriage,and for that guys as a whole.Im beginning to hate sex and male affection.Can anyone tell me what the purpose of marriage?afterall is it only for sex?so if sex is not possible will men change?

2007-10-14 19:20:53 · 3 answers · asked by strong 3

i found out my wife.s cheating on me now it. aint right where she found out i was going with this married woman back in.2001. and she.s cheating with this woman.s husband well her.ex. husband i aint right for her to do me like that with him he.s.53. and she.s 20. it just aint right no way she found out and she said she loves him at his age of .53. she.s 20. she.started e_mailing him i would never thought she found out about me and that thing even if we was married we lived .5. states apart and she told me se loved him no way i am losing her over my past help me please she as well was calling him afterwards when she found out it.s not right help she was even calling him it.s not right on her doing me like that with him

2007-10-14 19:18:46 · 15 answers · asked by matthew v 3

The way I grew up I learned to always prove points or point out when someone does something wrong so they can correct their mistakes. It's some sort of defense/survival mechanism that has been permanantly installed as a way of my life. . . I've been with my g/f goin on 2 years now and love her sooo much. But about 25 percent of the time spent together I end up starting a fight or "heated arguement" or "discussion" as we like to say. As with most men. . . I'm pretty much ignorant when I do things like this. (because it's how I am) but I don't want it to get to the point that it will negatively affect our relationship . . . Ladies . . . any suggestions???

2007-10-14 19:17:45 · 9 answers · asked by Iceman 3

2007-10-14 18:50:59 · 17 answers · asked by cuteness 4

2007-10-14 18:50:52 · 13 answers · asked by Pramod R 4

Does marriage between same-sex individuals bother you? Why? I am not passing any judgements...just curious.

2007-10-14 18:22:10 · 23 answers · asked by mccael01 1

OK, so my husband is in the army and we are stationed at Fort Irwin, CA. This is the national training center so they are constantly in and out of the field. This week and next he is spending in the field and he is not supposed to have his cell phone, so I never get to talk to him. I guess it could be a lot worse, like him being deployed, but the biggest thing isn't him not being here, it's the fact that we are from NY and I have absolutely no friends or family here. So I am completely alone. To top it all off, I am 5 months pregnant and hormonal and moody, my needy dog drives me crazy 24/7 and I'm new to post and have NO hobbies. lol... it's a mess.

2007-10-14 18:20:48 · 11 answers · asked by Brittney 2

need help what to do ...

im married and my husband don't know that it not his baby since i was sepeated with him for while and we been together thought my preg and he went to hopital with me and he notice that my baby is " dark " skin we are light skin and he didn't say anything but he love my daug very much ...

the thing is that i want to get my ex guy to pay child support and my baby got my last name not my ex last name and i don't know if i should get that guy to pay child support and if i do my husband will leave me for lieing to him that is not his baby .....

what should i do ????

i love my hudband so much and we do have 4 month baby .

2007-10-14 18:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-14 18:11:04 · 10 answers · asked by David G 1

I am being called the names and told to leave eventhough I did not do anything wrong!

2007-10-14 17:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by Hurt in Texas 1

My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and the whole time it has been a constant battle with him and porn. He prefers porn over me and it is completely tearing me apart emotionally. I don't know what to do anymore I feel so betrayed and worthless. We had a HUGE fight the other day and I almost left him and once again he promised he would quit and the next morning he was up masturbating to it again. He thinks I don't know half the time but I do, so I guess he thinks it's ok. I try coming on to him all the time and 99 times out of 100 he flat out turns me down. He has said once before that he is "ashamed of himself" because he doesn't last very long but I think that is just a good excuse. I have tried telling him how I feel a million times and he doesn't seem to get it. I have mentioned marriage counseling and he makes up a zillion excuses why he cant. I just don't see how any man could treat the woman they supposedly love this way. I am so torn up inside.

2007-10-14 17:50:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, specifically, he won't touch my vagina! When we have sex, he occasionally gropes my breasts, but he doesn't go anywhere else and he doesn't even kiss me! I try to spice things up in our sex life (toys, porn, new moves) but he always says "I'm not interested". It's been this way for about 7 of the 9 years we've been together and it really makes me feel like crap. I never said anything to him because first I thought it was a lazy phase, then I didn't want to pressure him. Finally, 8 months ago I had enough so I asked him why and he got extremely angry and defensive, said he "didn't know" why he won't touch it, he "just doesn't feel like it"! We didn't talk for 3 weeks after that. I told him he has 6 months to work it out or I'm leaving due to my self esteem is down the toilet. Well that 6 months has come and gone and he didn't even try to touch me once. But I am 7 months pregnant with our 4th child so I can't leave. And I'm certain he's not cheating or gay. Sorry this is so long!!!

2007-10-14 17:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by blubaby77 2

Folks don't trip, my husband is no longer with me, he's with another woman across the country, no intentions on getting back at all, we've moved forward, financially we have been in a bind to finalize the divorce, with him, him and his wife have been apart for several years, however recently she feel on hard times and he said he could help her out but only for a month, she will be moving out soon, however when we are together we can be in the middle of a hot moment and he's gets distracted, he says he has alot going on at home, and that he needs to get that in order, and I believe him, he says there is no physical contact whatsoever with his ex, he says he has no desire for her at all, on top of it she smokes which is a big turn off for him, but I just wonder if some men are easy to loose an erection when something is mentally bothering them? we are a perfect match, and there is no doubt that God put us together, our chemistry is on fire, and we share a deep spritual connection, howe

2007-10-14 17:28:43 · 5 answers · asked by Jus2Sexy 1

since she got to us she change she wasnt sweet anymore she hit me ,pick on me for no reason.now she lives with her cousin n she trying to sue me for all i got even though i did everything for her.people say i cant win because she a women is that true. it hurt me but i think she was using me to get to this country

2007-10-14 17:18:52 · 10 answers · asked by dadagaga 1

I promised her that i will leave the girl but she is worried & doubtful.I felt she doesn't believe me. I'm sincere & true.pls help and advise.

2007-10-14 17:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by FMR 1