OK, so my husband is in the army and we are stationed at Fort Irwin, CA. This is the national training center so they are constantly in and out of the field. This week and next he is spending in the field and he is not supposed to have his cell phone, so I never get to talk to him. I guess it could be a lot worse, like him being deployed, but the biggest thing isn't him not being here, it's the fact that we are from NY and I have absolutely no friends or family here. So I am completely alone. To top it all off, I am 5 months pregnant and hormonal and moody, my needy dog drives me crazy 24/7 and I'm new to post and have NO hobbies. lol... it's a mess.
2007-10-14 18:20:48 · 11 answers · asked by Brittney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off - my thanks to you and your husband for choosing to serve our country they way you do. And congratulations on expecting your baby...
What you are feeling is 100% understandable and reasonable... I only had two suggestions:
1. Simplify - perhaps you can ship your needy doggie to a friend or family member who could watch him until things are more settled for you... right now, you need to focus on how to make your life as pleasant and stress-free as possible, so yu can be in a great mental, emotional and physical state of mind to welcome your child...
2. perhaps you can meet other ladies who are preggers at your local Md. or when you go to birthing classes? Go out and try to meet women who share your situation... it will make this time and when your babies are here so much easier.
Good luck and thank you again for all you and your husband sacrifice to serve our country!!
2007-10-14 18:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got here a month ago and totally understand! Fort Irwin is so isolated, I think i'm going crazy here. My husband is in the field right now too and i'm home alone all day with my 2yr old son. He's cute but sometimes it's nice to talk to grown ups! I decided to wait to get a job until after Christmas leave so I am SO bored!! And my husband just got his dream dog (american bulldog) a week ago and this morning she broke through the crappy wood fence and is missing. Not to mention the freaky giant spiders I keep finding in my house. I wish I could give you some helpful advice...Good luck with the baby.
2007-10-14 19:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Brittney, I'm here:-) If you are on the base, I'm sure there are some social groups there. Are there any notice boards, or recreation centres, or parks, community halls, etc? Maybe bake something nice and visit your neighbours. Or volunteer for something. Maybe there is a pregnant women's group. Join a yoga class. Learn a new hobby. You can find how-to-sites for heaps of things, such as crochet, knitting, quilting, embroidery, scrapbooking, etc. Or just hang out here answering other needy people's questions to get your mind off things for a while.
2007-10-14 19:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead of just coming here, reading and writing depressing posts all day (believe me it's hell)...find some other things online to do.. I mean anything. Get your friends and family e-mail addresses, or call them if you can...believe me just a conversation with a family member or close friend does wonders for your mood. Just, play games on the computer, visit parenting sites (i'm pregnant too so I know what you mean about being moody), just go to google and start looking for stuff. And while you're online find stuff you can do when you're offline. There's so many things for you you just have to look and about the dog....I don't know what to say.
2007-10-14 18:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tnisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be other wives going through the same or similar feelings on the base. Walk the dog, say hello to whoever you see, strike up a conversation- how long have you been here, how are you doing, where is the closest_____.
Seek out some other women before you go stark raving mad! Your hormones alone will make you nuts- I know, I've had 4! Congratulations on the baby, and please try to find a few female buddies to share the time with.
2007-10-14 18:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting involved with support groups for women that have husbands in the military or with other pregnant women. You could also take a part time job that dosnt require alot of lifting or being on your feet. That will give you time to meet new people, take your mind off of things and make yourself a lil extra money for the baby. Go to the library and volenteer reading to kids or helping out in the library with putting books away or working behind the desk. I know they are always looking for people to help out in their free time. Take your dog on long walks thats another good way to meet people.. Go to the local school and ask to volunteer your time there with the teachers. I know here in my sons school they are always looking for people to help out with classroom projects or talking to students or helping them with schoolwork. Take weekly pictures of yourself as your stomach gets a lil bigger each week and keep a scrapbook of that so when your husband gets home he can see what he has missed while he was gone, and also you can continue that scrapbook after the baby is born, something that you will always cherish and when he or she is born somthing you can give to them about their life.. good luck and congradulations on the baby! And if your really at your wits end with nothing to do.. you can always write to me.. the1behindu2 at hotmail.com
2007-10-14 19:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hunnie things could be alot worse mine is going to be stationed in Germany and were from Texas but since were not offically married yet I cant be with him until he comes home.
what I have planned is to make friends with the other army wives asap they know what youre going through because most of them have been there.
Just thank your lucky stars yall are still in the states I have to learn a whole new language and buy new appliances lol
Good luck doll!
♥
2007-10-14 18:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any hobbies that you like to do? See about joining some support groups. There has to be something for family members who are new arrivals. Good luck, and congratulations on the baby!!!
2007-10-14 18:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tbone64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a neighbor to show you where you can go to buy cute baby clothes. (Who can resist the newborn baby clothes department? No one, that's who). This is bound to lead to a lot of fun-filled days with a new friend and the time will fly. And hey gf, this is a great time to work on finally getting that tan!
2007-10-14 18:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite and no. In my on a regular basis life i'm spiritually travelling on my own. yet luckily I actually have a chum that I met right here, who shares my direction with me from afar. And we help eachother alongside the way. :)
2016-10-06 23:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by richberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋