Marriage & Divorce - 10 October 2007

i was deported from japan last 2004 and was banned to enter japan for the next 5 years. my fiance is a us navy based in japan and willing to marry me. if we get married and change my last name, is it possible for me to come back to japan again even if dont finished the 5 years banned for me?

2007-10-10 23:23:04 · 4 answers · asked by miatot20 1

I am married (8yrs)with 2 kids under 2 1/2 yrs. I am a stay @ home mom and responsible for everything in the house (cooking, cleaning, etc). My husband is a great provider and very successful. My prob is when I worked before I always had some me time (I'm an introvert too) even if it was just my lunch break. Now I'm 24/7. I even sleep in a sep part of the house so he isn't disturbed if a child wakes up. He has never helped at night even when a child has a stomach virus. I can't stress enough we work separetly (he certainly perfers it that way). I have decided I need 2 hours a week to get out. His mom comes for a visit every Sat.and I decided that was the best time b/c he doesn't want to be left alone with the kids. He doesn't really like his mom so he is mad not only b/c football games are on but he has to be w/ his mom without a buffer (me). No other times are good for him either. I'm resentful of him now and it is just getting worse. He still goes to lunch, gym, etc.

2007-10-10 23:03:54 · 20 answers · asked by ADC 2

Do you think you should stay in a marriage if your husband is a good provider, father and gives you the security you need? If your feeling unhappy, feelings have changed, and you feel trapped.

What would you do?

2007-10-10 23:01:21 · 27 answers · asked by Vixx 2

2007-10-10 22:47:23 · 13 answers · asked by sally 1

I was recently married. i have been with the same man for the past 7 years. He is sexy as hell, sweet, and treats me like a queen. The only problem is he doesn't satisfy me in bed. I have been faking it so long that I am afraid to tell him the truth. I love my husband and i want to spend the rest of my life with him but somethign has got to give.
PLS help!!!!!!

2007-10-10 22:05:46 · 40 answers · asked by shay22 2

I truly loved my husband when we got married (a year ago) ,but Im unsure now...
We fight a lot and he doesnt seem to care about me at all...
I told him we should get divorced and he said he doesnt want to,but now Im just thinking it could be better for me and my daughter...
Im not happy anymore!I feel unloved, unappreciated and insecure.
I also think he might be cheating on me.

2007-10-10 20:59:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im so dipressed, ive filed for Divorce and asked my husband to leave, so he`s staying at his parents, He gave people inpression of me having an affair while he was so obsessed and insecure of me and abused me verbally and immotionally for the past 8 years but still supporting our family as he is not working, for the way its been said i feel like i did it for real, We have 2 sons, 8 yrs and 18 months, he even went to our friends and told them that he`s not sure if our second born is his, it broke my heart and made me draw a line of our marriage, only people who are close to us knows what exactly is happening, but the rest esp at church sees me as a cheater to my husband who is even left the home. i cant face anybody and i cant even talk to anyone, i never shared my problems with anybody even my family untill i decided to file for divorce, and everybody sees him as this good "elder" or christian at church which makes him this perfect someone. Please help how do i cope,

2007-10-10 20:31:04 · 4 answers · asked by Tumlala 1

The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them

2007-10-10 20:22:34 · 5 answers · asked by ~electra~ 4

my wife some times crys for no reason it pisses me f and i yell i ask her why r u crying she says because i feel like it and because im a women why would she cry for no reason and do all women cry for no reason also what im i spose to do to make her stop crying yell at her ?

2007-10-10 20:18:13 · 12 answers · asked by mommy 2

why would.a. married woman commit adultry knowing there going to lose self respect once it is known on them by family.friends. and there husbands. with a younger man in his teen.s and there in there.40.s do they think we would want them no. way. why risk it and lose your self respect over being used by a teen isnt it sicking . or what would you say they lack moral.s in there marrage when they have a good man . and children to so why loose .something you want but can never have but being looked down on by other,s . there age. once caught doing this with a teen. when there in there.40.s why?

2007-10-10 20:00:40 · 10 answers · asked by matthew v 3

I let her go, she has moved back in, clothes everywhere. I trip over then everywhere

2007-10-10 19:57:48 · 11 answers · asked by crackers 2

He will have TWO degrees before the year is over and I have none, I have been a stay at home mum for 2 years and I do want to be because I want to raise my kids myself but at the same time it would be nice to get out and use my brain more and be in different surroundings with other kinds of people to talk to (my friends are mostly mothers too) I kind of resent him sometimes even though he is a great guy but I feel annoyed and don't want to do housework unless he is at home helping me with it. It annoys me when people say often "you aren't out there earning money so you should do all the housework and let your husband relax" I earn money too! I made my own darn business to get extra money because last year he decided to take time off work without telling me, I am STILL making money and raising our daughter full time, why should I be responsible for majority of domestic duties and be so grateful to him when he is out there working having a good time

2007-10-10 19:36:36 · 10 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6

My husband has behaved extremely badly towards me over the past year (affair, lies, cheating, and now telling me to have an abortion I don't want).
I see all that as my problem, as it's my marriage.

Our friend who was actually his friend first is really angry at me. She is having a birthday party and we haven't seen her for 2 years [she's lived overseas - coming back for the party].

My husband was going by himself - I'm fine with that. She says because of our problems she doesn't want him to go without me. She is basically ditching him as a friend because of what he has done to me.

I tried to make her see that I am fine with them staying friends. God knows he needs at least ONE friend who is sensible and can give good advice, i was happy for it to be her. i still want her friendship too.

She is angry at me for sugesting she has no reason [of her own] to dump him as a friend. I appreciate her support, but i think her attitude is a bit strong.

how to handle her?

2007-10-10 19:35:12 · 11 answers · asked by sass24 2

and she kept on telling me "what if i find someone new? what will you do?"....

2007-10-10 19:30:51 · 10 answers · asked by jj 1

I dont think my husband realizes how selfish he is. I know he loves. We just got married and I moved to Colorado to be with him. I havent been able to get a job we only have 1 car and he needs it all times for his job. (Army) I left my whole world behind for him. He spends all the money before we have a chance to pay bills or buy food. He bought an Xbox360 with his last check then promised me that he wouldnt play D&D anymore (he plays sat. nights) but now he has land partys where he goes to his friends house and plays xbox. He is gone all night on the weekends and I am so loney and stessed out. Its hard to make friends because I am always home and he is always gone. My depression is getting worse to where it hurts. Its hard to get out of bed and I have sharp pains in my gut. I know he sees it but he doesnt know how to deal with it so he just leaves. I love him so much but Im at the point where my heath is more important. What do I do? I try talking but nothng is getting through to him

2007-10-10 19:29:21 · 15 answers · asked by This Sucks 3

after 7 years of marriage, because there is no communication in the relationship, and the marriage is on the rocks, and one of them still thinks they love the other, but the other person is no longer in love, is there any chance if they got back together that they will stay together? The relationship is very one-sided, but they are both willing to give it one more try. Do people actually fall back in love again? I thought once the love is gone, its gone for good!
By the way, there was no communication while they were separated. This doesn't sound like the marriage has potential to get back off the ground. What are your thoughts?

2007-10-10 19:18:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

as far as i know,he's living with someone else already,i was thinking about the conjugal property and of course the processing of annulment.

2007-10-10 19:14:22 · 1 answers · asked by mel 1

2007-10-10 19:13:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He studies full time and I am a stay at home mum. I look after our daughter and that is pretty much it. I do housework mainly when he is at home to help out and I cook after he cleans the kitchen (usually) I don't want to do too much of the domestic stuff because I will feel as though I am accepting the role of a stereotypical housewife and I am against having to do all that crap on my own. Most days I just go out with friends, visit them, go out for lunch, go shopping and the like. Usually when my husband is home from work or uni or wherever I will be asking him to do housework with me, a lot of women are saying to be a good wife by letting him be the head of the household and it is pissing me off, I would rather us be equal, I don't want to give a man power over me, do you think it's because I was raised in a single mother household?

2007-10-10 19:11:44 · 12 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6

Ok so I go to the store today to get food and some odds and in's for my daughter's Bday next month. So I give the cashier my bank card and she said it decline ok so I left everything there ( Forgot my cell ) so I go home and look on line at my bank statement the $100.00 I had in there gone to Kay Jewals but where ever it was costed $125.00 ok so thats a over draf fee. ok so I asked my husband if he got something from kay jewals he said no so I called him over to the computer so I called the bank to see who used it and got the last for numbers from the card that has been used. Of course it was his numbers. so then I called key jewals and asked them what it was it's a neck lace with the name Melissa on it. So I showed the lady my id and my Account info so I asked her if I could she the neck lace so the neck lace is in pices right along with his card. so I go home look at my husband with a smell and me and my daughter and I goes and takes a nap Kay jewals calls to let him know it ready

2007-10-10 18:59:05 · 12 answers · asked by Melinda B 2

What are the characteristics that you would want your boyfriend (or husband) to have? What makes him your ideal boyfriend/husband?

2007-10-10 18:35:52 · 9 answers · asked by Mutual Help 4

2007-10-10 18:32:34 · 6 answers · asked by redneckangel82 1

any ideas?

no I'm not getting a divorce
yes I live in the US

why am I asking? I'm just curious.

2007-10-10 18:28:42 · 13 answers · asked by jane d 4

My neighbor is the sweetest neighbor anyone can have. He is 32 years old, has ceerebral palsey, and has trouble walking. He also has cancer, and lives in the ghetto. I help him out whenever I can, and invite him for dinner, as he has no friends, and his family is far away.
he recently told me that his wife passed away some time ago, and her parents are insisting that he take her money since she dies, and it is rightfully his. He refuses any money, and any help because he thinks that it is blood money. He is very sick, and lives off of social security, and is barely getting by. I want to help in amy way I can, and I said that if his wife was alive, she would want him to have a good life, so he should take the money, even if he'll hardly touch it. At least he will never have a problem with food, bills, and he can live in a better place. Please help, and help him to understand that his wife would have wanted it this way. Her parents tried giving $10,000 recently, but he just refused it.

2007-10-10 18:15:48 · 7 answers · asked by Jenyfer J 2

my friend's husband is abroad. he advised her to apply for a job in the same country he's in. unfortunately,my friend is and undergraduate and is right now jobless and is taking care of their 2 children. she has no time to apply for a job locally, since her hands are full taking care of the children. and yet, her husband wants her to apply for that job, and use her sister's credentials as her own. in other words, he wants her to submit the documents of her sister and pass them as her own credentials.(sis is a college grad).he just asked her to photcopy the docs and change the name. my friend doesnt want to, but his husband is talking her into it every day, to the point that they were now fighting bec of that.her husband said that she should just follow his instructions bec he's the husband and therefore, she must obey. my friend cud bring the kids with her if she gets accepted at that job. what do u think?

2007-10-10 18:09:02 · 14 answers · asked by j 3

2007-10-10 17:46:07 · 18 answers · asked by ms.confused 1

My husband and I attend a southern baptist church. I've not been to a baptist church since I was a young kid. I've been non denominational. I'm not sure why I dislike our church so much. I loved it when we first started going there. One of my biggest problems right now is probably that my husband is so involved I feel like it's taking too much time away from us. We both work and his job is an hour away so he's away from home for 11 hours every day. I work a few evenings. I work at a christian bookstore so the only time I'm guarenteed to be home which is wednesday night and sunday, he's busy at church. He plays in a band that is working with the youth and I feel like what he's doing is important but I hate that he's gone all day long on sunday. He does a small group with the band then a small group with the youth band then the band practices. I hate it! What should I do?

2007-10-10 17:44:28 · 13 answers · asked by Marci S 3

2007-10-10 17:41:19 · 6 answers · asked by tarsha_123 1

2007-10-10 17:37:59 · 18 answers · asked by oythebumbler 1

me and my husband have been married for 3 years and we have a baby (11 months) i lost all the baby fat..even more actually and look pretty nice.. we have had no sex for a longgggggg time..and its been like that since we got married.. i mean long gaps..like 4-5-6 months..before something happening.. IS IT POSSIBLE. that my hubby had too much sex or i should say unattached sex before he met me.. thats the reason it hardly happens.. i am very confused! its like he never never feels like it.. or never wants to make time.. could it be taht he has done too much.. id ont knwo if i am making sense..i am just worried..thanx all

2007-10-10 17:31:41 · 17 answers · asked by angel 1