Should I get divorced?

Question

I truly loved my husband when we got married (a year ago) ,but Im unsure now...
We fight a lot and he doesnt seem to care about me at all...
I told him we should get divorced and he said he doesnt want to,but now Im just thinking it could be better for me and my daughter...
Im not happy anymore!I feel unloved, unappreciated and insecure.
I also think he might be cheating on me.

Answer 1

It`s hard...geez, I remember my sis got divorced and gave up her 2 year marriage, but luckily they got no kids.
When you already got a kid, it's not about you anymore, it's about your daughter. Is your husband still a good provider? Is he being a dad for your kids?
There are definitely ways to re-kindle your love. Don't make harsh decisions over problems that seems can't be solved.

I reckon, you may think of leaving him when your husband has turned violent or abusive, then it's the best choice.

But try and pray hard to work the relationship out, afterall you`ve vowed to spend the rest of your life together, right?

Answer 2

Hi,
He doesn't want to give you a divorce not to keep hurting you, but he still cares about what both of you share, he still believes in what you share. Perhaps he is going through some difficulties too, that he may not quite understand or cope with and Dear, maybe friends are not even helping out.
Everyone goes through what i call the "Fog" of life. Nothing can seem to pull you out at that time, that is what you and him are going through now. If great patience, quietness, calmness and lots of forgiveness is not given now, you may add to the million list of divorce cases in the world which is not new.

Another thing that makes a difference is what you believe, what you see, that is when your prayer works. Smile Dear, it is never the end of the world, things always get better. My secret is this: take a holiday, be together,(don't worry your daughter,won't miss you guys much,)talk about your fears, that is where the restoration begins. Everyone has messed up in one way or the other, cheating is not a new thing. You can't stop the big assess, beautiful faces from hanging around, they will always be forever, but you can be assured you and only you and your daughter wil love him and him you guys.

I don't want this to be long, but open your mind to the beauty all around you, it is peace, let it guard your heart and keep your home, your grand children will thank you for keeping it alive - your marriage. It is the greatest gift given to you by God. Believe me.

Answer 3

yeah it sounds like it is in the crapper especially if one of the partners is taking a poll on the internet from complete strangers. You need to TRY to get through this. This sounds easy for me to say but anything worth a damn don't come easy. Divorce should be a final option, something that will save your life or DRASTICALLY improve your life.

You have got to get to the root of arguing. I'm sure you are doing some things that make him feel unloved or bitter such as nagging or accusing or lack of affection. Try gradual affetion and see if he responds. Don't throw yourself at him, but surprise hugs and kisses might help a little. But it may be as simple as talking. Communicate with him. And make sure he IS cheating before you tell him off. Nothing will screw everything up more than accusing him of something so serious when he hasn't done it.

Answer 4

A divorce isn't the solution unless you have tried everything possible to save your marriage. and in only one year you could not have. Instead of arguing with your husband try having a conversation. Yelling and screaming doesn't work at all. When you do that the both of you are so busy trying to get your point across that you don't listen to what the other person is saying. For example instead of telling your husband that you don't feel loved......fill in the balnks
When you.........It makes me feel like.......
Get what I'm saying
If after you calmly explain how his actions make you feel and his behavior doesn't change then maybe a seperation is in order.
Hint: have a relative babysit one evening
Make dinner for your husband
Relax...and just talk
Tell him how you feel
Don't mention divorce..Just make it clear that although you love him you are unhappy with the relationship and you want to work things out.

Answer 5

Divorce is not a good solution to your problem. Have you and your husband talk over the problems? If your husband is not cheating on you, then there is still chance to work it out. i urge both of you give it one last chance. A lot of hard work, but if it work out, bliss!

Answer 6

The first year of marriage is always rough and is a time for adjustment.... you two need to talk, and try resolve the issues that are bothering you... if you think he is cheating check it out and see if its true for yourself...

Answer 7

Yes. For his sake, as much as yours.