My neighbor is the sweetest neighbor anyone can have. He is 32 years old, has ceerebral palsey, and has trouble walking. He also has cancer, and lives in the ghetto. I help him out whenever I can, and invite him for dinner, as he has no friends, and his family is far away.
he recently told me that his wife passed away some time ago, and her parents are insisting that he take her money since she dies, and it is rightfully his. He refuses any money, and any help because he thinks that it is blood money. He is very sick, and lives off of social security, and is barely getting by. I want to help in amy way I can, and I said that if his wife was alive, she would want him to have a good life, so he should take the money, even if he'll hardly touch it. At least he will never have a problem with food, bills, and he can live in a better place. Please help, and help him to understand that his wife would have wanted it this way. Her parents tried giving $10,000 recently, but he just refused it.
2007-10-10 18:15:48 · 7 answers · asked by Jenyfer J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His wife has left him 5 million dollars, and he won't take any of it because he has too much pride. He cries all the time, and there is nothing i can do to help him anymore.
2007-10-10 18:17:12 · update #1
Wow I never thought there would still be a person in this world who could resist 5 million dollars!
Since he's very kind and doesn't like to be the burden to other people, tell him that by not taking the money, he will make a lot of people sad seeing him like that and that it is very selfish for him not taking the money. Maybe he'll take the money for the sake of other people.
2007-10-14 07:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stranger on the Bus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww so nice of you and the family to try and help him. he sounds like a good soul in deed. This may be a long shot but since he wont' take the money. Have you thought of having a local radio station he listens to or those city draws they do for town folks in smaller cities. Where you all buy tickets say for 5 bucks and the winner can win 10.000 dollars just the amount you want him to have.. The point im trying to make is let him think he's winning it for real from a disc jockey for calling in naming a tune or trivia find out what he's good in and work around that. Even if you don't want to get the local radio station in charge you and your family can do something where your all involved BUT just make sure he wins it. and make sure no one leaks it to him. Let him really think he won all that money fair and square.
There is always a way of getting around it.. just be creative and think up something you know he would win at.. and then you let everyone else know its fixed for him to win only.
Heck business' companys and oscar awards presentations from hollywood have been doing it for years. Why not help out your own family members if you can.
2007-10-10 18:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not take the money because he is waiting to die and be with her. Tell him to take the money because that is what she would want, use it to get food to keep him well, and to take care of bills, and move into somewhere a little safer and then get a computer and go to memory-of.com where he can set up a tribute to his wife and visit her each day, light candles for her, and others can visit her as well. We have a close friend who died a year ago and it is nice to be able to see her now and then and light a candle for her at that site.
2007-10-10 18:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a compulsive liar... so some distance as being crippled, does the guy somewhat have cerebral palsy a minimum of? if he does i wouldnt do something to him. purely dodge him like the plague. If he dosent even have cerebral palsy, properly, i might the two dismiss him as a compulsive liar and jackass and attempt to no longer socialize with him or i might attempt to get him returned. purely sense sorry for him, enable him understand what hes performed and how it grow to be incorrect yet dont assume any form of apology from this form. something comparable occurred to me those previous 6 months and that i grow to be very harm, i grow to be waiting to get some revenge in spite of the indisputable fact that it grow to be for something that grow to be 'revengeable'. I purely say pity the guy, dont waste your anger on him.
2016-12-18 04:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by bocklund 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want to help him, and make him see that it is just as much his money as it was hers, if he is not comfortable taking it he wont. Maybe his wifes family will hold on to it and maybe use it to help pay his final expenses. All you can really do is be there for him when he needs you and help when you can.
2007-10-10 18:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how good I feel when I financially help others.
Hell, he can help me and I promise to be frugal!
Otherwise, the salvation army has the best ratio when it comes to costs v. expenses.
Think about the total cost of taking care of your neighbor. And the work towards marriage, instead of divorse.
2007-10-10 18:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What can we do? If he refuses to take the money no-one can do anything.
2007-10-10 18:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋