Marriage & Divorce - 10 October 2007

Whats with pushing a 3some? Our sex life is awesome and there shouldn't be a need. This is reality, not fantasy. He even served me up on a platter yesterday to some guy he doesn't even know. I would NEVER have sex with another man, unless I was divorced. Why does he lust other women ALL the time? Not getting it at all...Help me understand this. He strokes himself all the time and even came yesterday as I read the chat info in complete shock. I'm starting to think he needs some kind of mental health treatment in the area of sex. HELP!

2007-10-10 03:54:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

together 7 years, married for 3. about a year ago we went through a terrible time in which we split for about 6 months. we really did not get on and he can be cruel at times and pick on me. and i had enough. i admit that i texted another man a few years ago and then last year he did the same and text a woman at work. nothing happened- no sex, just texts. i thought i had got over all of it- my mistakes and his, but it has come back and flooded my mind and i feel terrible. we do love each other otherwise we would not be together now and gone through all that hell, but i feel my marriage is now "not pure" and how it should be. i can not forgive myself and i can not forgive my husband. i am always the strong one in the relationship, he doesnt like responsability and as a woman this did bother me. i think i wanted to escape my life at the time. but its no excuse. i feel like crying and i feel dizzy all the time because im stuck thinking about it. what can i do? im so sad.

2007-10-10 03:52:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband did things in the past that have caused me insecurities...

and recently i said to him, "I just want to be the most beautiful woman in the world TO YOU" not to anyone else, but just TO HIM....

maybe its asking too much, but when he honestly told me that he couldn't say that, because it wasn't true...

I pried for what he liked better....

and I got a list of qualities like smaller boobs, brown eyes, bigger butt, yadda yadda....

So now, everytime I see a girl with these qualilties, I get super insecure...

I don't know how to just get over it and live happily.... these things plague me every day...

what would you do?

2007-10-10 03:43:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-10 03:41:28 · 19 answers · asked by jornia 1

I met my boyfriend over a year ago, he told me he was having a divorse, but lived with his ex wife, 2 chirldren and his mother. He said he couldn't aford to move out, he does not have much money. He also works for me as a maintenance man in my buisiness I gave him the job after I met him. I have asked him to show me a copy of his filed divorse papers but he said he cant, because his wife filed for divorse in another country, Portugal where they both come from. He said he is not sleeping with his wife. I have a gut feeling that he is lying to me and I feel very depressed about it. He never spends the night with me, although I want him to. I am 37 and he is 29. He does tell me he loves me all the time and is always nice to me. We have been on holiday for a week once. I am moving house and he wants to move in with me, but I don't know if I can trust him.

2007-10-10 03:38:23 · 29 answers · asked by J R 1

and it hurts very much. He wants to come back but I am keeping him at bay till a time when I feel I can talk to him without being upset. He said "he doesn't know if he can wait" and when I said "we are back to day one then, if you want me to trust you again" he said "oh well I don't want to be at day one, I don't think I can do that"...

He 's just a user isn't he? He just wants to come back so I can wait on him hand and foot, subsidise his low income and feed him.... (the money I was helping him out with, bought HER drinks - my hard earned cash!)

What shall I do. Sever all ties & grow strong OR stop being mean to him and see him , tonight? I have asked him to wait till Friday... Is that unreasonable?

2007-10-10 03:37:25 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex is currently being ordered to show cause in court and for the state to intervene into the child support case. We have a court hearing in 2 months. He will owe 20,000.00 by that time "all in past child support ordered by the court"

Then he filed a motion to modify child support, and is serving me today or his wife is "which the court said was legal" Anyways, he is trying to lower it after donig NOTHING for 2 years. Will he get away with it? He is not working and has not worked or given me any money for 2 years?

I am no longer working as it's more expensive to pay daycare, my husband is supporting all of us i take care of the kids 24/7.

The past child support was based on him working 12.00 an hour, and me 5.25.

Mind you 1,000.00 of the 20 grand is JUST INTEREST

What will the judge do to him in court for even trying to lower it without having a job? What will he say about me no longer working and i have FULL CUSTODY btw. he just has supervised visits.

2007-10-10 03:36:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently had an affair with another woman and my wife has seperated from me. We still ive in the same house because I am from out of state and have no family. We have been dealing with this over a month now. We attended marriage counseling but we both agreed it was stupid since we still communicate well. She wants to make the marriage work, and recently started talking about things we can do in the future. We haven't been intimate. I am still in the guest room. She is having trouble forgiving me as she should. I am just trying to do things that will show her how remorseful I am. What can I do to make things better and to show her I want to be committed to our vows, and that this will never happen again?

2007-10-10 03:31:59 · 22 answers · asked by Striker 2

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2007-10-10 03:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by creative m 1

I was pregnant for the first celibate year and he uses this as an excuse despite the fact that you couldn't even tell, of course, for the first 4 or so months. I have caught him over the years on the Internet and each time he was looking at a woman's butt. On top of this he never even made a SINGLE comment about our lack of sex until I mentioned it! I KNOW he's not cheating, I almost wish he were, at least that would explain things. I am not too interested in having sex with him either mainly due to the fact that I find his lack of desire in and of itself a turn-off, not to mention the resentment I've built up over other issues. The difference between him and I is that I am HIGHLY aware of my celibate status whereas it doesn't seem to bother him at all. He never mentions it, again, unless I do. He seems to think as long as we're not fighting things are fine. We never had a very intimate relationship. He does perform oral sex and I don't if a gay guy could do that. Me not ugly or fat.

2007-10-10 03:08:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter has bipolar but has been a single mom to three shildren since they were born. Ages 3 1/2, 4 1/2 and newborn. The father has been in and out of their lives since they beginning. They got married last year and split up again after 3 months. He always tries to upset her and make her angry then calls the police and says she is a danger to her children (bipolar). She is breast feeding and can't take meds and is not a danger. She has provided a home, clothes, takes to doctors appts, school, etc. He doesn't even keep a job. He took the kids and filed for a divorce then they reconciled for a few months which made his custody papers null. He used them anyway and took the kids. Now we are going to court. I don't know what he has up his sleeve now but his mom has everything to do with it because he is unable to do anything on his own. He has a 14 year old that his mom raises and another somewhere else. He doesn't even pay support. Do you think we will win in court?

2007-10-10 02:57:16 · 12 answers · asked by grandma18 1

hi there, i got in to a fight 6 weeks ago and the police came to interview me now. The guy i had a fight with was my sisters ex husband. He was from pakistan and immigrant. My sister called him over and when he came to england he wasnt intrested in my sister but more intrested in going after other girls. The marriage broke down and my dad was a very nice guy he didnt want to send my sisters ex husband back because his family back in pakistan were poor. so my dad thought good for him but even though he turned out to be bad. Once he got his visa in the Uk he started threatning my family including my sisters and my elderly mother. He was making abusive phone calls to my house in the middle of the nite, and when he saw any of my family on the street he abused them. But 6 weeks ago he abused me, and he grabbed hold of me and wont let me go so i totally knocked him out clean, i wanted to teach him a lesson. what could i say to the police am scared ? if i go to cout it will affect my career ?

2007-10-10 02:56:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

please answer me!!

2007-10-10 02:45:13 · 47 answers · asked by Laurita y Marcial 1

My wife and I were going through some rough times and we were going through the process of a divorce. Later we got back together. We both know what one did while separated. Both of us had relations with other people. She got pregnant with her ex boyfriends baby. On that note; I also had a scare with my ex girlfriend she got pregnant as well. I don't know what to do guys. I found out that my ex girlfriends baby is not mine. She was cheating on me when we were going out. I no longer communicate with her. On the other hand. My wife communicates with her ex all the time. She says that she wants him to be in the baby's life. Witch is understandable but it feels like it is putting a strain on our relationship that we are working to keep with each other. So now we have one son and another baby on the way. Give me input guys.

2007-10-10 02:37:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-10 02:22:23 · 16 answers · asked by Nando 3

What if you met a middle aged woman...about 33 years old and is just getting out of a marraige in which she willingly left her kids behind with her husband. Would you actually respect any woman who just gave her kids up so easily. What would you do if you met a woman who had 3 kids but the kids lived with the father instead of her because she was easily willing to give them up?.

2007-10-10 02:09:42 · 29 answers · asked by Javi 5

We have been separeted for 6 months and are going through a divorce, which she wanted. Almost every time I go over to her house to visit the children she kisses me, not just a peck but makes out with me. Why?

2007-10-10 02:00:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it someon I know

2007-10-10 01:43:21 · 14 answers · asked by katie-marie 1

Is it a person I know

2007-10-10 01:40:56 · 9 answers · asked by katie-marie 1

I asked my husband why had he left the kitchen in a mess after making a cup of tea. It wasn't a lie, there was sugar, water and milk all over the work top. So i wasn't imagining it, the mess was there!! He then started going into one saying I was nagging and not to keep moaning. Why is telling him there is a mess classed as nagging?

2007-10-10 00:51:59 · 27 answers · asked by Lisa T 6

Years ago, when my parents got together it was the days of the male going out to work and the female staying at home attending to the family home.

With the social climate ever changing and with women more career minded is there now a need for a dominant role in a relationship ?

2007-10-10 00:10:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous