hi there, i got in to a fight 6 weeks ago and the police came to interview me now. The guy i had a fight with was my sisters ex husband. He was from pakistan and immigrant. My sister called him over and when he came to england he wasnt intrested in my sister but more intrested in going after other girls. The marriage broke down and my dad was a very nice guy he didnt want to send my sisters ex husband back because his family back in pakistan were poor. so my dad thought good for him but even though he turned out to be bad. Once he got his visa in the Uk he started threatning my family including my sisters and my elderly mother. He was making abusive phone calls to my house in the middle of the nite, and when he saw any of my family on the street he abused them. But 6 weeks ago he abused me, and he grabbed hold of me and wont let me go so i totally knocked him out clean, i wanted to teach him a lesson. what could i say to the police am scared ? if i go to cout it will affect my career ?
2007-10-10 02:56:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell them the whole story and suggest they send him back to pakistan because he obviously doesnt belong here
2007-10-10 02:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
ignore the origin of this bloke. he is commiting crimes (harassment; assault). report him to the police immediately. OK you responded by knocking him out - a bit excessive but you were angry and possibly scared.
It could be that you might get charged yourself if the police think your respone was excessive (not proportionate) but you stand good change of either not being charged or having a suspended sentence (if you do the right thing and plead guilty but offer excuse).
Society has moved on. lots of people have criminal records (drunk driving, speeding). Going to court will have no effect. Being found guilty is unlikely to have an effect unless you are in particular sort of employment where you should not be violent (teaching, nursing, police, etc)
2007-10-10 10:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a case of self defense. Also, your father, although kind in nature is not really thinking right by harboring a man who mistreated your sister and has abused other family members as well as yourself. This man sounds unappreciative and trust me, the states in the US would be better off without his kind. Talk to the police about all you have said here, then see where your rights are as far as his threatening and abusing your family. Then do what it takes to send this man back to his country, poor or not, if he is here illegally you and your family are then harboring him in breaking the law. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-10 10:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Check this.. Show them phone records and if you can, and if you can catch him calling and leaving messages on your phone then you may have a good case. Use this as evidence to help you. Let your family go to court and tell your lawyer what this man has done. You have no reason to be afraid because that is what he wants: to discredit you and your family. He took your family for granted and the courts need to know the truth. Love from the Family!
2007-10-10 10:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bobyi P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only thing that you can do is tell the truth. I'm from America, and here you have the right to defend yourself, I don't know why it would be different there...I don't think anyone would blame you for trying to defend yourself. That guy needs to go back to Pakistan, where it is apparent it is acceptable to treat women like crap. Good luck to your family and God bless. Too bad that it worked out the way it did, it sounds like your Dad tried to do something nice for that Bozo.
2007-10-10 10:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i like what u said in here, but i think u need to beef it up a little. tell them u have seen him stalking u and the family house before, mention to the police that he has made threats to u and ur family. mention everything u can think of that would help u in this case. i think u got this one in the bag and he will be in prison. i don't think its legal to stop and hold a person, i think its great that u knocked him out too. any jury would find u not guilty. have a great day
2007-10-10 10:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though you were acting in self defence!
Can't you make a counter allegation against him for grabbing hold of you?
It seems to me that as long as you stick to the truth, tell the police the whole story throughout, no one will find you guilty of assault.
Were the police informed about the threats he made? If so they should be able to use these reports if you do have to go to court
2007-10-10 10:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cat2007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You let them know you were defending yourself. when he grabbed you, you reacted like any human would. Is there any witnesses to the fight that can back your story up? If so, then you will be ok and it wouldn't affect it to bad, they may charge you with simple assault which is a misdemenor in the (US) not sure about in the (UK). Also if you've never been in trouble and it took 6 wks for them to come talk to you, how hard di d you really hit him...its probly him trying to scare you, don't sweat it to bad. Good Luck with it!
2007-10-10 10:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good for you. if this creep thinks he can get away with his abusive behavior, he is wrong. tell the police what happened and i'm sure they will check him out and you have a lot of backing with your family.the guy most likely has done this many times every where he has been and there should be other people that can verify what kind of person he really is. just tell the truth and you are not the only one who would of decked him. good luck.
2007-10-10 10:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by john n 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please don't panic. You acted in 'self-defence' and under considerable stress so I should think that a good solicitor would get you off - it is your ex brother in law that needs to be in trouble! It wont have a bearing on your career but it does depend on what you do - if it goes to court, and you are found not-guilty then there shouldn't be an issue.
2007-10-10 17:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont blame you for what you did. He will not try to abuse you again. You need to go to the police and tell them everything!!! Once youre honest everything will work out. Dont worry too much about it. He attacked you first, I am unsure as to how the laws are there but its not okay to be abused by anyone and most laws willl not tolerate it also.
2007-10-10 10:02:54 · answer #11 · answered by SHARI 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋