Marriage & Divorce - 12 October 2007

One of my closest friends is having marital problems & out of respect, I've asked that she consult a professional. I just don't want to give bad advice or interfere in any way. On the other hand, her husband has been calling a lot. He keeps tabs on me thru her. So he'll call and want rant to me about their problems. I've tried explaining that I don't want to be put in the middle, but he'll go on and give me personal details. For the most part I ignore him, and have made it known to my friend that I'm uneasy with his behavior.

Lately, he's been behaving inappropriately, telling me he loves me. Or he'll give me tight hugs and make some kind of creepy comment about how I'm wonderful. Really, I've tried to ignore it, but my friend seems to be sticking with him because of guilt but it's just he's downright repulsive. today he even sent me a msg about how I'm ungrateful, because I ignore the people that love & adore me most, and then he asked me to send photos. No way. How do i handle this?

2007-10-12 23:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been chatting to a guy for over 12 months. We finally met yesterday. He had quite a big indentation on his left hand where a wedding band should be. He explained this as his wedding ring was too tight and had to have it cut off. I never even suspected he could have been married....he seems genuine...but you just never know. Is there any site in Australia that I could find out if he is married.

2007-10-12 23:26:21 · 11 answers · asked by rightio 6

Greetings,

Looking for great advice:
I've been married for 7 years and have been with my wonderful husband for a total of 11 years. He is a fantastic person, extremely talented and a genuinely a descent human being. When we got married, I had many different views regarding starting a family, marriage and commitment. Now in my mid thirties, I have differenent thoughts about the issues mentioned above. My husband is a little older and much more conservative than I am. I have become bored and a little anxious about spending the rest of my life with someone that is not at par with my personality and energy level. I'm starting to think that he's not enough....
As for family, before getting married, I agreed on having atleast one. Now, I do not.
As for marriage, I use to think that it was till death do us part. Now, that may be too long.
As for commitment, same as the marriage statement.

When did marriage become such a chain of obligation

2007-10-12 21:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Sara O 1

I've recently caught my husband::
Hiding to text a girl from work
Phone records show he's been talking/ texting her A LOT!
Notes from this same girl that say "heart" you.
He doodled this girls name in his school notes.
He's been checking into male enhancement stuff.
He's all of a sudden working out a lot.

He says they're just friends & that it's all innocent. If he's cheating, I'd rather work things out than throw my marriage away. I just can't handle being lied to. I dont have any absolutely undeniable proof. I know that something is going on & because he refuses to come clean, I feel like I'm gonna need to spy in order to have hard evidence that he cant deny. I know it might sound stupid, but I feel like if the truth comes out & he has to admit to things, maybe we can work things out. Because none of his explanations make sense, I've been really suspicious & questioning & its really agravating him. I don't want to push him away any more, & spying feels totally wrong.

2007-10-12 20:32:20 · 31 answers · asked by girly 1

I know the guys girlfriend that my wife was cheating with, I have info that she doesnt know I have, should the GF know that her boyfriend has been unfaitful to her.....

2007-10-12 20:15:29 · 24 answers · asked by LB 1

Me and my Fiance have been together for 5yrs and have had to struggle all the way. But because of it we love each other very much.We have been living @ diff places for the last 5 mos and the last 3 mos we have been @ diff states, we're an hour apart.We have lived together for the past 3yrs, and have not been apart in 2yrs.I have a tendacy to complain about how bad things R and something blame him when it's not his fault. After I finish complaining I always tell him I'm sorry about blaming him and that I want just wanted some one to listen to me gripe about life. But recently he told me that he feels that I'm too hard on him and that I don't consider his feelings.Then our roles reverse and it's my turn. We don't mean to hurt each other, but someones feelings always end up bruised. we never talk about it until one of us starts to gripe again. Lately since we haven't been staying under the same roof the fights come more frequent. Could it just be the distant apart? How can we stop this

2007-10-12 19:25:54 · 19 answers · asked by Sadly_Happy 1

2007-10-12 19:19:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

o.k., this will sound very egotistical, but here it comes. i have spent my life receiving massive amounts of attention from men, adored externally, but never really loved internally. i have dated 3 men in my life, married all three of them. 1st one ended up with a secret life, 2nd one turned out to be a sociopath, 3rd one turned out to be a pathological liar who was diagnosed recently as bipolar and is completely impotent. these are not exaggerations, but the truth. i'm trying to figure out if i'm so desperate for love that i take the first one that wants to marry me or if i have some deep seated self punishment wish or just horribly bad luck. i am currently separated from my impotent, bipolar, pathological liar husband and will be getting a divorce after 4.5 years of marriage. i don't want to overanalyze, but don't ever want to make these mistakes again...please don't give answers such as "why are you asking strangers when you need a counselor." i have a counselor.

2007-10-12 19:12:07 · 12 answers · asked by diamond heart 4

He uses his cell phone and keep calling her when he is not at home. I know she is married too. Is there anyway I can record his conversation with her when he is not home? He carrys his cell phone anywhere. I don't have money to hire somone to get the evidences. What can I do?

2007-10-12 19:10:16 · 35 answers · asked by I am crying 1

why would a married woman make her self look like trash when she has children. a good husband . and expect to be looked upon like a decent woman . when she cheats on her husband and degrades her children and family. life as if nothing has happened at all can she justfy. her actions to her family over this act of cheating as if nothing happened our neighbor did this and told my wife and she got caught . justfy. it as if nothing happened to them ...

2007-10-12 18:22:04 · 12 answers · asked by matthew v 3

My husband says there's nothing like the love you feel for your children- but I think why have children if you can't give them everything possible. He believes children make your life fulfilling- meaningful...Do all couples feel this way after the child is starting to grow up or do regrets start?

2007-10-12 18:05:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is spending more time with his single friends than with his family, playing sports every night and also cominh home at midnight and then telling me he went to the bar with firnds after the softball game. Or am I just over reacting.. Help!!!!

2007-10-12 17:57:15 · 14 answers · asked by th 1

We were only married for slightly more that one year. We have no children and my heart is breaking into. She was my Maid of Honor at out wedding. I feel so betrayed Will the hurt ever end?

2007-10-12 17:56:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Met a guy from a singles website. He had a pic up and everything, said that his relationship status was "single". We had lunch and did a little smooching afterward. I did just an open record, free search on him and found out that he's married. They even just bought a house a few months ago.... when I asked him about it, at first he denied it was him but he eventually told me that it's too expensive for a divorce (which I know is not true in all cases, this was not someone with a lot of assets). Anyway, think I should contact the wife and let her know her husband is on a dating website?? I'd want to know...

2007-10-12 17:53:45 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1

2007-10-12 17:45:39 · 33 answers · asked by ******** 2

2007-10-12 17:40:40 · 24 answers · asked by sexy 1

My husband told my friend on more then one occasion he wanted to have sex with her. After he continued to tell her that, she confided in me. I confronted him and he admitted it and apologized. Of course he blamed the liquor but I know better then that, liquor has never made me hit on his friends. I am having a very hard time forgetting this and moving on and forgiving him. I do beleive he is sorry but again, I'm not an idiot, he got caught, had she not been the good friend she is, who knows where it may have led. This happened alomost a year ago and he has given me no reason not to trust him since then but I cannot let it go! I want to forgive and forget but I keep reliving it in my head and wondering "what if she said yes!" How can I get over this? Or since I can't seem to, is our relationship doomed? We have a 2 year old son, two stepsons (we've been together for 7 years, married for 3 of those). Any advice?

2007-10-12 17:26:47 · 19 answers · asked by jill 1

i am the mom of my 4 month old daughter and i was involved with a "man" and now he says hes not the dad how can i make him pay he changed his number and moved how can i get child support he lied about his last name i am in texas WHAT IS TEXAS LAW HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!

2007-10-12 17:12:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

do you think this is normal we were traveling and at the hotel pool and we got out for a few minutes and I ended up sitting by my wife and across from her sister. I have pretty small feet for a guy and I think both me and my sister in law noticed that her feet were larger than mine when my wife went to the restroom I was shocked to have my sister in law boldly say look how small your feet are up to mine and she pressed her soles right against mine...honestly she was loving it picking on me and kept talking about it.... and I guess I found it pretty cool too. she left her feet by mine for a long time and even showed my wife the difference in size when she returned. this made me feel kinda funny but i found it kinda turned me on. do you think that I did anything wrong or is this kinda normal would you do it if you were sitting across from me and noticed the same thing

2007-10-12 17:11:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before you say no, think about it. Not that many people pay as much taxs as you think. They reinvest it or hide it some way.

2007-10-12 17:11:04 · 4 answers · asked by south of france 4

I am married just over one year now and I am insanely happy, still. What makes marriage last? I want this feeling forever.

2007-10-12 17:03:52 · 20 answers · asked by t. 4

My wife of 16 years was diagnosed with MS last year, now she's trying to drive me away. Says she doesn't love me and treats me like crap. I love her more than I can say, and I can't leave as I know how much help she'll need as she gets sicker. We also have a 11 year old, and I can't bear to subject her to a divorce. Do I hang on and keep eating crap with a smile, or let her go to maintain my own sanity??

2007-10-12 16:42:27 · 10 answers · asked by J. 1

Can you just go to family court?

2007-10-12 16:41:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it wrong that my daughters call my ex's girlfriend mommy???
My ex and i have been seperated for about 5yrs i am now happily married and my ex and i have a good relationship he has a great girlfirend (for once) i really hope she is the one for him. He's been with her for about 6mos but before her he's had a few other grilfriends he's lived with and my daughters have met. When i was single and dating i never brought guys around until i met my husband and knew he was the one. . .my girls love him but i dont allow them to call him dad because to me they only have one dad and that's my ex. My concern is what if this relationship doesn't work out and again someone else walks in to their life is he gonna allow them to call her mom too? I've told my ex this bothers me because he's in and out of relationships and moves too fast with he's girls and maybe if she was he's wife i wouldn't be so bothered. Am i just being a jealous mom or do i have a right to be mad?

2007-10-12 16:34:50 · 5 answers · asked by Sweet.Milf3 2

Also how can I find out how much it cost to have the sheriff serve the divorce papers? We live in different states. Im doing the divorce myself. I can't call the sheriff department cuz I don't have a phone. Would there be some way to find out online?

2007-10-12 16:33:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

We just recently discovered that he lost his virginity to this girl on their 1st date.. I am not comfortable with them being home alone when where out. He cant even watch his sister never mind possibly make his own. We/ve given him condoms and I am not naïve to the idea that he will be having sex but every time I step out I come home to them in their bedroom. I dont think he is mature enough. My husband seems proud of him. I am very angry. I dont know how to handle the situation? I have raised this boy, his mom died when he was young. My husband said he is going to do it anyway and its safer for him here. WHy cant he get a job and take this girl to a motel? I dont want to bend here, am I wrong

2007-10-12 16:28:51 · 12 answers · asked by Vicki l 1

This is a lng 1 but I need serious advice.I am in a serious relationship of 3yrs we hav 1 child 2gether and Iam expecting #2, we agreed we weren't going to have frnds of the opposite sex, due to bad experiences in the pass.Nw this pass june he meets a cousin of his bst frnd, he was talking w her behind my back I found out he stopped talking to her.Its nw Oct he came 2 me and confessed that he had been emailing f frnds frm the pass and new on facebk, he then tld me he sent them emails letting them kno how he felt about talking to them after WE tld them it would be no more of that.BUT they are still on his frnds list and the grl frm June,is Now on his frnds list.He tld me he wnt delete them or the page.He is in school and wrks full-time.He regained access 2 his email when school started early sept.So that meant he added the grl frm June after the confrontation.I sumed it all up the best way I cld w the space given.Please snd advice.Thanks in advance!

2007-10-12 16:21:13 · 16 answers · asked by **Ms.Magic** 1

i am the custodial parent but we have no legal papers about visitation...we were married for 13 years and divorced almost 4 years ago...he was remarried 3 years ago and his wife is crazy and now he wont have anything to do with his kids...i dont want my kids around this woman but i want them to see their dad...she is a whisky drunk and she has pulled a knife on their dad in front of them before...do you think a judge would make him have supervised visitation?i mean i want to like force him to be a part of his kids lives but without his wife around..my kids are so hurt because their dad wont even so much as call them..he use to be such a good dad till he met the drunk he is with now...what should i do..can a judge force him to see his kids without her around?i have plenty of proof and witnesses that she is unfit for any child to be around..i think their dad is afraid of her...she is crazy...any advise would be appreciated...

2007-10-12 16:17:39 · 31 answers · asked by lisa p 2

Its a hard decision because we have 2 young children, boys, 2 and 5, also because my husband has never done those things that alot of women complain about, he never cheated for the 9 yrs we've been together, he doesn't drink, take drugs, he hang out all night, he basically keeps to himself. No problems with inlaws, they live in another country. My husband
generally is very affectionate with the boys and takes care of them well when I work(parttime). He's a hardworker. Athough he doesn't usually volunteer to it, he helps out with house chores. However we fight like cats and dogs & can't seem to get along. We seem to be fighting 90% of the time. We've said alot of hurtful things to each other & are just not happy. He doesn't want to admit or accept that we should divorce. He's in denial. I just feel as if he never really loved me or else he would never have caused all the problems that he always has caused. We tried couselling but never stuck with it, I don't know if its worth it.

2007-10-12 15:58:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I usually let her sleep in on Saturday and she lets me sleep in on Sunday. I usually get up early and make her coffee for her and make breakfast. I am thinking tomorrow maybe I will take them somewhere for breakfast or brunch after she gets up, depending on how late she sleeps. I can't decide where to take my family to for breakfast. Maybe I will do the usual coffee and breakfast, and then do a picnic for lunch and feed the ducks at the lake while we are there. I also need to get her a card. One of those cards that say I love you and the kids... just because. I love my wife. Sorry I don't need advice on how to tell my family I don't love them anymore just because I found someone younger and prettier. Just the food... where should I take them? Any ideas?

2007-10-12 15:53:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous