Met a guy from a singles website. He had a pic up and everything, said that his relationship status was "single". We had lunch and did a little smooching afterward. I did just an open record, free search on him and found out that he's married. They even just bought a house a few months ago.... when I asked him about it, at first he denied it was him but he eventually told me that it's too expensive for a divorce (which I know is not true in all cases, this was not someone with a lot of assets). Anyway, think I should contact the wife and let her know her husband is on a dating website?? I'd want to know...
2007-10-12 17:53:45 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm reading some of these answers and omg you guys are crazy... I just want to clarify, I have zero feelings for him and in no way do I feel hurt or the need to revenge. like I said, we met once. as soon as I found out he was married, I lost all interest in him because 1. I am not going to waste my time on a married man and 2 what goes around, comes around and I'm not tempting karma.
this isn't about revenge, it isn't about my hurt feelings. lol I'm sure that I'm not the first person he met from online because he was so comfortable with our meeting. if he was one of my girlfriend's husbands and I happened upon his profile on a singles dating site, I'd tell her without hesitation. but because I don't know his wife or know what kind of relationship they have, I'm not sure if I should tell her or not.
2007-10-14 04:42:20 · update #1
Do it, don't support a liar. Do it and walk away.
2007-10-12 19:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may want to know but why lower your standard to below that of the cheating or attempted cheating spouse? just move on and learn from your experience why turn B***H just because you feel used and hurt? Get over it and go find a man in an art's class , or at a reading book club instead of off a stupid dating website where 76% are married men anyways.
2007-10-13 01:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, is he kind of psycho? Does he know where you live or work? People like to blame others for their own problems. So, he might see YOU as breaking things up for him, and therefore the enemy. The wife, not wanting to believe the truth may believe that YOU are the stalker. Men make up good lies to cover their tracks. If you are still willing to tell her the truth, go for it. Just be careful of the repercussions that could follow. If he has your work email address the next thing you know the wife could be sending your boss emails about your affair. If you happen to know a friend of theirs, it might be easier to give HER the anonymous information, so she can make that decision.
2007-10-13 01:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her. Not sure why he would lie, there are alot of websites where men say they are married and there are enough sl***ty women out there that don't care. In fact, it seems to be a turn on. Then they ask questions on yahoo as to why this man would mess with them and not leave their wife.
2007-10-13 01:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop all contact with this liar and cheat. Do not lower yourself to contacting the wife. My guess is that she already knows. Move on and next time, do the background check before you meet up with someone off the internet. Oh and btw, have some self respect and save your kisses for someone who deserves them.
2007-10-13 01:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most definitely I would want to know. But just be careful how you go about telling her. She might be upset with you. Do it carefully. Then don't have anything to do with this guy. Once a cheater always a cheat! There is never a reason for cheating. So whatever happens to him he had it coming. Good luck!
2007-10-13 01:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Grace Q. 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yep, I'd tell on the stinker. Just print out a copy of his singles website advertisement and mail it to her. It should be good for a few conversations.
What a rat!
2007-10-13 00:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, pls do so. If not, wife will suffers without knowing that she marry a unfaithful man, it not fair to her.
What if he continue to woo other innocent girls over the nets ?
And keep hurting many other naive girls, how ?
2007-10-13 04:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Capger 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell and have fun watching his world fall apart! AWWWW, sweet revenge!
2007-10-13 10:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO GIRL. Absolutely tell her. He can file his own divorce and pay only court costs and filing fees and anyone with half a brain would know that so he probably does and just wants his cake and eat it too.
2007-10-13 01:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Its not really your place to tell her, let him know how you feel and see what he says, if he says something like they live 2gether and its over and you believe him then take your chances but be smart. Besides if you tell her and they separate would you really want him or even trust him. Always trust your instincts
2007-10-13 01:06:37 · answer #11 · answered by sxycaramel712 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋