My husband says there's nothing like the love you feel for your children- but I think why have children if you can't give them everything possible. He believes children make your life fulfilling- meaningful...Do all couples feel this way after the child is starting to grow up or do regrets start?
2007-10-12 18:05:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I NEVER REGRET HAVING CHILDREN EVENTHOUGH I HAD THEM DURING MY TEEN/ADOLESCENT YEARS....FOR ALL I KNOW THEY ARE THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME & I AM SO BLESSED WHEN I HAVE THEM....I CAN SAY THAT....MY CHILDREN ARE THAT PROOF THAT GOD REALLY LOVES ME.
2007-10-12 20:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are a blessing. I love my children more than anything. Although at times they are hard to understand. Maybe not every one is cut out to have children. If you are not sure it is best not to make that lifetime decision. Children are with you your whole life. You know people change spouses and other things in their lives. But once you have a son or daughter they are around you forever. There is no love like the love of a child. So before you just have children understand that you and your husband must agree. It is important to know that once you have children it takes a lot of work and commitment. Giving your children love is the most important thing. Giving them everything is impossible. Never in a million years does a mother have regrets about how much she loves hers babies. You need to think about how you feel though. If you are the one out of say 100 who just doesn't want to be a parent, then that is just OK. Some people just are not cut out to be parents. Nothing is wrong with that.( it is a smart person who knows themselves). Lets just say just because you can have children doesn't mean you have to have them to be happy. You should talk more with your husband though. Sounds like he has different ideas. Aways talk with the person you would share the children with, first. Good luck and I hope I have helped a little. I would never trade my children or regret them. Oh yeah Blue says he has never had children and is just a happy cat about it.
2007-10-13 01:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by fnbug 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The love you have for a child is a completely different than any other love. That doesn't mean that everyone is cut out to be a parent. Children,(especially teenagers) can test your limits of what you can handle. Giving them everything that they want is the worst thing you can do. What you neeed to give them is everything that they need. HUGE difference. They need boundries,consequences,good roll models for parents,and most of all love and patience.
Children that get whatever they want, grow up without a very important facet to thier lives,the desire to work and save for what they want. Instant gratification teaches them to be lazy and spoiled. When you work hard and save for something you appreciate it much more.
If you don't want children you should'nt have them. And there is nothing wrong with that. If your married to someone that wants kids and you don't,let them go. This is something that should have been decided before you got married.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-13 01:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by kathy R 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i grew up knowing i never wanted children, i didn't like the idea of being tied down or having my life flipped upside down by smelly little noisy kids. sure enough, Fate laughed and one surprising day the test turned blue and having one did indeed change everything about the life i lead. i am tired all the time, i am not able to go where i want when i want, i can't spend money on shiny little trinkets anymore, i can't dine in really nice restaurants these days and go jet setting around at a drop of the hat.
and i never thought i'd be so damned happy to see my life change so much by such an amazing little creature. it's like everything before this was a dress-rehearsal and life finally started the day she was born. regrets? not from over here. i can't remember very clearly what life was like before her and i can't imagine a day without her. i'm not rich, i can't give her everything under the sun, but i can give her a life of love and security and kindness and laughter. everything else will fall into place if i can provide her with those things to help her thru her journey in life.
2007-10-13 01:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by sleepycatz1972 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can ever explain the love a mother has for her child. Its a personal experience that couldn't be explained in earthly terms-honestly. Like the other girl said, "They are the air that I breathe". Theres no way to answer this question, but your husband is 100% on the mark! Children dont need EVERYTHING, They need llove (which will come from you both naturally) and the basic nesseaties.
2007-10-13 01:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by rachel t 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Children don't need everything possible. They need parents who love them unconditionally, who are well grounded in reality and who have the strength of mature adults. Its hard work and you have to be committed to being a parent, not a wallet or a friend. If you cannot do those things, then do not reproduce. You also need to let your husband go free so that he can find a woman who thinks like he does. You two should have gotten this one straightened out and on the table before you ever got married.
2007-10-13 01:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've went through hell and back. Two of them were addicted to drugs. Through all that, I never stopped loving them. I divorced my ex years ago. If God gave me the chance to go back and do it all over again, I would still go back to my ex to have those children. I would want to throw up. LOL, but I would do it all over again just to have my children in my life. That's how strong that bond is. Without them my life would not have meaning. They are my light and what makes me smile. They are all doing fine now, thank God, but death was very close by at times. My kids didn't have everything they ever wanted or needed, but they did ok. Your kids will do fine without all the designer stuff. The most important thing is LOVE. That you give them plenty of love.
2007-10-13 01:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is absolutely right. I may not be able to give my son everything, but material possessions mean nothing. The amount of love and support mean everything. By know means am I encouraging you to have children if you cannot afford to feed and cloth them, but don't ever think you can't have a child because you can't afford to spoil them. Who wants a spoiled child? It causes more harm than good. I will NEVER regret having my son. It may be hard sometimes, but he is the greatest gift I ever received.
2007-10-13 01:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by munkees81 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that when I had my kids my life changed. Suddenly there I was with this precious little face looking up at me and just with her little eyes letting me know just how much she needed and depended on me. I melted right away. Instead of regretting my kids I wonder what I would be doing without them. I remember I always said that I would never have kids but when I had my first one my life had purpose and she made me work harder and still does. Everything I am and will become is because I want to be important in their lives. I want them to look up to and try hard to be like me and better. I hope I was able to help you. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-13 01:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by gabrielaqlejandra 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give them everything possible? This love is not built on material thing. Being poor can sometimes be a joy with a family that's in love with each other. No i don't regret having either of my children.
2007-10-13 01:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have never regretted having my children... not for even a second. They are the reason I keep going in this life. They give me my sunshine, laughter and they make so proud. I would give my own life for them. I am entwined with every fiber of my being.
2007-10-13 01:45:33 · answer #11 · answered by gone 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋