Marriage & Divorce - 16 October 2007

And even problem arises, we can settle and overcome any chaos easily because we are together and we are helping, supporting and loving each other unconditionally.

When his wife arrived, she bargains him that he will never see his daughter again if he will not go with her. I know how much he love his daughter and he is willing enough to give his life for her. His wife knows his weakness and that is why she uses it as her defence. He was really torn between and so depress when his wife told him about it. So since I care for him so much, I was the one who advise him to go with his wife – but the reality, I was wrecked and torn apart. It is already 1 month since that happen but until now I am still bearing the pain and loneliness. I don’t have any other friend here because for 3 years my world is only him and him alone. Both of us are here in a foreign country and we are working on the same company. Most of the days we see each other at work and he is still close, nice and caring to me. That is the only time we can see each other. Outside work, we never see each other. People and colleagues around us are just shutting their mouth but they know how much both of us suffer with the situation. I don’t have the right to get him back because they are still legally married although it is only for formality. But I really want to win him back to me. I know deep inside that he is the right guy for me. So am confuse on what to do? I don’t want to do things that might make me regret in the end. But for now, I really want him to be back in my arms. We have more times together compared to his wife. The only thing that we lack is marriage. Please can anybody seriously help me with my problem?

2007-10-16 23:57:45 · 4 answers · asked by samm 1

Recently my husband told me he is not in love with me anymore. I still love him very much. Do I just give him what he wants or fight for what I want?

2007-10-16 22:21:36 · 15 answers · asked by girlnextdoor 1

how should one ensure that your parents or other gaurdians dont get to know o your marriage and that no notice is sent to your home??

2007-10-16 21:20:54 · 22 answers · asked by smart gal 1

2007-10-16 21:10:13 · 10 answers · asked by crystal 1

My boyfriend's 14 yr. old daughter has been saying how much she hates my 14 yr. old son for 2 years! He hates it. Now, they don't talk to each other at all, although they're at the same high school. Her dad says she brings stories home about my son not being enthusiastic about us moving in together and my son tells me the terrible things she says about him. My friends think his daughter is a spoiled, self-centered, brat, I'm sure his friends say equally negative things about my son. I can't see the point of putting these two together! My boyfriend says things will be rough but will work out. I am widowed, my son & I get along very well and have a very calm household. The daughter goes back & forth each week (mom/dad). My boyfriend and I have very different parenting styles. He bends over backwards having parties and driving her and her girlfriends around so she can be popular; I wouldn't spend my free time like that! He always has a houseful of girls, my son likes to chill. HELP!

2007-10-16 20:48:26 · 20 answers · asked by LuckyEddie 4

My husband keeps calling me a liar and I can prove to him that I am right... am I being over sensitive by being highly pissed off right now?

2007-10-16 20:41:46 · 24 answers · asked by yourbigsis 4

When I wake up in the morning and when he comes back from work, my husband puts me down.
He calls me names like
stupid
dumb
useless
f****en lady
other people have better wives
you aren't smart
ugly lady
etc etc etc

Day after day it wears me down. I don't know how to react. I just feel hurt. I can aggree that I am not a good wife. I am always tired and weak and Iv'e been sick since we married, (I got pregnant). I had one sickness after the other. Boils, Pneumonia, anemia, hypothyroid and on top of having a baby. I don't cook very much. I don't wash the clothes often enough.
I don't work and get paid. What do you all think?

2007-10-16 20:39:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know traditionally there are several 'guidelines' 10% of annual salary or 2 months salary ... what is reasonable? And I am not talking about cheap stuff - something you would find at EE Robbins, Shane Co (Seattle area stores) ... your reputable engagement ring store.

Any suggestions/recommendations toward price/cost? We looked at a ring (for fun) at Tiffany - think it was 2karat for 87k ... she was laughing at my gasp for air. Didn't know if she was just messing with me or if there was a bit of seriousness to this!

2007-10-16 20:07:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is this possible?

2007-10-16 20:06:38 · 15 answers · asked by logan_1_0_1 1

Is there a legal avenue for a person making a verbal aggreement and accepting ring for encagement and marriage and backing out twice.

2007-10-16 19:56:03 · 6 answers · asked by Douglas D MacPherson 1

1.5 yr past to get marry,but since starting i m facing problem Husband is so rude he & his family so awkward behavior with me they don't tell directly about dowry but they generally told me in tonting way.I m wroking woman & gave them much amount to clear bills e1 i paid all charges for house.also give gifts and loan amount on my friend(female) name.But what he did he always kept favor of his family and they torched me too much e1 they didn't provides meals which i provided them.toting,commenting abusive language they used.Its not enough they on my marriage aniversary he avoid me and took dinner with his rest family.On that they torcher me very much dan wot i did just cut my hands,legs,neck by knife after seen this they tried to took me police station not e1 hospital.on dat that i left his house forever but divorce is still pending.I want to give him lesson,I don't want to go back.MY family is in same city.but they told me wot should I do??

2007-10-16 19:42:58 · 8 answers · asked by MR 1

about six months i found a text on my wifes phone, i cant remember what it said but i know a wife shouldnt be say or reciving texts like that. she swore it was a joke and it was nothing. now the guy lives over 300 miles away so i let it go. on oct.6 my wife left her email open and i saw pics of this guys penis and alot of them. i asked her what the f**k is this. she said she was sorry and that is all it was just some pics on the net and some cyber sex. now after seeing the pics i thought no way. i googled his wife and found her work number. i called her and then sent her the pics and video. she later called me to tell me that they did have sex one time about a year ago at a work trainning program that took place over a week. the last day of the trainning a few people went out my wife was one of them. i guess after a few the went to his hotel and had sex. she says she is sorry and that she loves. shes not showing any remorse at all. i dont understand how that is possible if she loves me

2007-10-16 19:34:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married 17 yrs, had sex about 10 times since "I DO"! No kidding. We have a 15 year old son. My husband travels Mon 6am to Fri 5pm.. I have met someone I feel I am crazy in love with. My problem is I feel like there is no way for me to pursue this relationship without damaging my son. My husband and I don't argue or fight nor do we have much communication at all. When Fri comes I leave and come back on Sunday evening. I promised my son I will always be here overnight from Sun through Thur, school nights. But we all know while I am here trying to live one life, my mind is somewhere else, trying to see myself in another life. How long before I lose my mind? I love this man so much, he fills every void inside. How do I move forward. I have no job nor can I work to support myself and my son, which is my fault. My son wants be with me, he wants to be home too. That is all he knows. I want to be happy and not hurt my son.

2007-10-16 19:32:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my husband and i are seperating and going thru a divorce,he's been begging me to stay with him but i feel it's time for me to move on after 13 years now he's turned mean cause i won't take him back he now calls me fat and even say's my vgina is big,when all these years he's had no complaint's but now he's saying horrible things because he knows i'm interested in someone else,him saying all this is making me wonder if it's true,i'm even looking into vaginal tightening surgery's.i just don't understand during our marriage he alway's was satisfied he alway's said i was perfect now that i don't do it with him anymore and want to possibly do it with someone else he shoots my self esteem down should i look into surgery before i have sex with the new guy?

2007-10-16 19:28:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met my boyfriend 3yrs ago. I was not interested, but be pursued me. I knew that he was married and that his wife was pregnant with his second daughter. We saw each other briefly before I ended it. About a year later, i ended a bad relationship, and out of lonliness I initiated the beginning of out current relationship. We have been together for about a 1.5 yrs. We got an apt and he moved out 8 months ago. I am 5 mnths prengant and now he says he feels like he is leaving one family for another. He wanted this baby, and now he is unsure. He has a hard time making decisions in his personal life. But he has always told me he never was in love with her, and that he he felt guilty cuz she was older and waited for the proposal for years. He claimed he felt obligated to marry her. Now he only wants to go back, because of the kids. He says he still loves me...Am i wasting my time, should i leave...? He says he want to take care of me and the baby, but i dont know what to do...

2007-10-16 19:15:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am keeping it anonymous here, as it should be. I am just curious how anyone else might have handled this.

2007-10-16 18:40:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met her at a gym 8 years ago, and she took real good care of herself, however since we got married she has stopped taking care of herself, and to be honest, I am almost embarassed to be seen with her.I don't want to give up on her, but I feel as though once we got married she doesn't feel the need to take care of herself, and I am finding myself attracted to other women.

2007-10-16 18:28:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and i have an annual fight, and i need to know what the world thinks. (TD=Thanksgiving Day)

wife's family tradition:
TD - dinner at noon
day after TD - my wife and her mother go shopping, getting up at 3 or 4am. this can last from 12:00pm to 5:00pm, in which a nap ensues.

so here is the deal. i have ceded that we will keep her TD tradition because her family is unwilling to budge/compromise at all.

X-Mas is handled. We both compromise X-Mas Day every other year.

what do we do about thanksgiving? i say that my family should be allowed to have it at noon on the day after, and she says that is unfair bc she already has an established tradition on that day. i think it is only fair that if i give in for TD, she should do the same for the day after. My bro is also married, and we have to work with his family too.

I think I'm compromising more. What do you think? If I am willing to give her whatever she wants on 1 day, is it unfair to ask that from her on the next?

2007-10-16 18:22:15 · 9 answers · asked by cornercuttin 2

married w/ kids. i have a full time job as does my husband. his day consists of getting up and going to work. coming home at 5pm and going to bed later that night. i wake up the kids. 5 by the way all 10 and under. making sure they are dressed, have eaten and hair is combed. taking them to school, the 2 youngest to daycare. then going to work, coming home, at 7 picking them up. making sure homework is done. cooking dinner. doing the clean up and laundry. weekends are variation of me spending time with them, ironing clothing for the week and running errands. i do all the shopping, cleaning, cooking and child rearing.
okay so the problem is he has the nerve to call me sorry cuz i cooked pizza for the kids tonight. 2 of them didnt eat cuz they didnt want it and i wouldnt fix anything else. i asked him to help me more and he said he will make the kids do it. i am beginning to hate him, how can i get him to do more? i'm tired!

2007-10-16 17:40:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

How long does it take to get a divorce? I don't know where he is and I will be doing it on my own. I was told by the court clerk I will pay an ad fee, an ad looking for him, and then I don't know what happens if he shows up or not, if he does it won't be a problem, but I want to be divorced asap because I want to get married. Do you know how long should it take? No kids, no properties, just a plain divorce. Thanks! : )

2007-10-16 17:37:30 · 6 answers · asked by Psychology Young Lady 2

Im 19 years old and im about to get married ( don't give me advice on the marriage part, thanks ) I've never had sex and every one says that it hurts the first time.
I don't know what to do. My pain tollerance is like a -5. I hate pain. I've always told myself that I could live a life without sex. What do I do??
I don't use tampons or anything so nothing has ever been up there...

2007-10-16 17:07:27 · 23 answers · asked by tickerspam 3

2007-10-16 17:03:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and i meet 13 years ago and where just good friends etc and soon things started to hot up lets say and i had fellings for her then one day we started talking about sex and relation ships i told her i wasnt realy interested in a relation ship although i cared a lot about her as i want to play around a bit and such before settling down and one thing was to have a threesome she said that didnt worry her and thought it seemed ok ,next thing i knew she went and had one with 2 of my friends {now ex friends } but at the time we where not commited to each other then one day we became intimate and i brought up the fact one day i want to she said it wasnt a problem and it will happen , well it never has and if issues come up about it she just grins and says get over it problem is i fill cheated and traped now due to trusting her and moving on with the relation ship due to her -promise- to me it would take place with me and another individual how can i forget about hers now or move on ?

2007-10-16 16:54:53 · 6 answers · asked by bob h 1

Such a godless generation!!!!!

2007-10-16 16:54:53 · 18 answers · asked by Helpfulman 1

even if again and again he/she'll break your heart, why some are still believe in loving her/him.

(for married people)
even if they're wife/husband cheated, why they still forgive and accept her/him again?

2007-10-16 16:49:06 · 13 answers · asked by ivan 1

2007-10-16 16:47:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should I run or fight for my rights ?
I am going through a divorce with my husband. My husband is blackmailing me to come to a settlement on his terms. He has bleckmailed me every possible way includign brining a cop to my house and threatening to take the dog away on charges of me abusing the dog. ( I have single handedly brought up my dog like a baby for the last two years). When that dint healp, he started harassing everyone in my family includign trying to take away my sister's job, calling up and harrassing my parents, threatning me of any and evething (very smartly and cautiously within legal limits). The problem is that we own a business that he wants to take control of and cheat me with the money. Should i stay and fight and run for my sanity ?

My attorneys ask me to fight with this pyshychopath to be able to make my future secure but i am at a stage of running away considering a new threat that comes my way.

2007-10-16 16:38:54 · 15 answers · asked by Romi 2

He has never did anything wrong to me...never. Is it that I just don't trust men?

2007-10-16 16:37:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

i make 3 times more money than he does..i can get a divorce and make it on my own just fine...the problem is i always feel sorry for him and im affraid he wont be able to make it on his own if i leave...i am too codependent on this relationship and want to get the nerve up too leave his but for good..i love him but it is not a healthy relationship...there are kids involved but we dont have any together...he is an alcoholic who does nothing but drink beer and get pissed off about everything the kids and i do...but i keep thinking of all the good things about him too and thats what keeps me from leaving...tonight we got into a big argument which led to him putting his hands around my neck and choking me ....i almost pased out cause he cut off my air snd i couldnt breath for about 10 seconds...after that happened he started crying and hugging me and saying he was sorry...that was the first time he ever layed a hand on me ...i know i need to leave but i am not strong enough and i love him.

2007-10-16 16:33:38 · 13 answers · asked by lisa p 2

I need to clarify a few thing and maybe I should put a link for other questions so here you go:
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My next door neighbor's Angie & Joe used to have what I would call a good marriage till they started to swing!
Now he goes into Jealous rage moments and I do fear that I might hear one day he killed her!

I've called police so many times I can't remember and all they do is take him out of house for the night, and she wont press charges so that's that!

Racer x, I like what you said about abuse happens all the time regardless of who you are but their are things that don't help the situation and it seems to me that swinging has become toxic to the marriage!

I used to swing in 1st marriage and you and I both know that swinging is about perspective,

2007-10-16 16:33:23 · 5 answers · asked by The Lady 1