Marriage & Divorce - 16 October 2007

I think he lives with her. I feel so very sad even though he took me for some money and the works. But now, even so, I hate hateful and bad endings. I was happy for the time we had and just hurt a lot. I know I should hate him but I cannot. I really don't know what to do or how to explain this. Does anyone get it?

2007-10-16 11:35:29 · 14 answers · asked by theartisttwin 5

2007-10-16 11:26:56 · 15 answers · asked by Tetyana M 2

It is our 1st year of being married, and she is overseas at this moment. She is in the Air Force, and stationed in Qatar until next March. I don't know what to get her. I want to get something that is romantic, and shows how much I miss and love her. Any suggestions?

2007-10-16 11:23:28 · 10 answers · asked by Hercdiver 2

2007-10-16 11:17:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

when a girl says that is it safe to say she likes me and maybe want a relationship

2007-10-16 11:13:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

For the married ones who will ADMIT that they fantasize, do you fantasize about someone you know, celebrities or some made up lover in your head?

Why won't the forum carry my other ???.

2007-10-16 11:12:51 · 5 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7

We've been toegther for a long time and haev kids too.. i really love him alot wiht all my heart and i know he was drunk but still i question his trust and he gets mad at me for it

2007-10-16 11:12:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has been served and agreed to move out, but keeps coming in uninvited and when I am not there, going through my personal stuff, etc. I don't feel safe.

2007-10-16 11:04:40 · 14 answers · asked by leeza_peeza 1

you were able to sit down with your husband/boyfriend and have a deep heart felt meaningful conversation, what would it mean for you? and why?
what impact would it have on you?

2007-10-16 11:02:27 · 23 answers · asked by Fugitive Peices 5

2007-10-16 10:57:36 · 37 answers · asked by Strong Water Jennily 1

have you ever cheated on your partner if so are you male/female and why?
do you regret it now ?
did you get caught ?

2007-10-16 10:57:27 · 28 answers · asked by JAMIESMUMMY 1

Hi Ammas I am a 27 year old woman. I was married three years ago and I have a 5 month old daughter. My marriage is on rocks so please advice and help me. I lost my father during my graduation. My mother and I faced many hardships after that – money problems and pressure from relatives. With gods grace and my mothers blessings I completed my PG. I have a brother who is 2 years elder to me. He was not gud at studies and was still graduating and doing a small job when my dad left us. After my dad passed away he left his job and was idle for 5 years. Those five years he tortured my mother and me. He thought he is the master of the family and we shud listen to him and act accordingly. He would use bad language whenever there is an argument. He had problem with my PG becoz it involved lot of money – hefty fees, hostel expenses etc. He wanted a/c for each penny my mom spent. He used to just loiter around, hangout with friends and do some networking courses. Me and my bro had heated arguments often and my mom used to suffer a lot of emotional pain. After my PG I got married and got a good job. First year was marvelous. We had lot of love for each other and enjoyed life though there were tiny disputes. In the second year my bro and mother came to stay with us becoz my brother was looking for a job in our city and they were financially weak. I used to help them financially and my husband never complained. Looking at my lazy brother my husband started behaving like him. He stopped helping me in daily chores. My bro used to make a mess at home leaving things here and there. If I said anything he wud blow up the issue. He wud say the food isn’t tasty, why don’t you cook more items? Why this curry today? etc etc. We had arguments every other day. I used to tell him that I will manage my home in my own way. I used to tell my husband be on my side in these arguments. Explain my brother not to hurt me with words and warn him but he always kept quiet and never interrupted us. Since I didn’t have my husbands support there was no one to stop my brother. I used to cry a lot and suffered lot of emotional pain. My relationship with my husband was getting affected due to this. We used to argue over in-laws or on when to have kids. Since I was already upset becoz of my bro I used to shout on my husband. I never fought with him unnecessarily or without a reason. My husband used to be cool and never lost his temper. My husband lost his job. He blamed me for losing it. He says he cud not work efficiently becoz of our fights. Third year me and my husband moved to another city. We both have good jobs now but things have changed a lot and are becoming worse day by day. All hell broke loose on me since the day we shifted here. I got pregnant. My husband was not prepared for a child. He was not very happy but agreed for a child becoz I was desperate. We bought a 3BHK flat on loans since we both were earning. Now our incomes are just enough to run the household. There are no savings at all. There is no money for fun or enjoyment. My husband has changed a lot. He never took care of me when I was pregnant. He stopped giving me his salary for maintaining the house. Two thirds of his salary goes away for the home loan EMI. Rest he hides. I have to tell him what I did with my money. I have to show him my bank statements. He has stopped helping. He has become very insensitive. He is just not bothered abt anything. I have to do everything - buying grocery & fruits, shopping for the kid, paying all bills, buying home furniture etc etc. He just gets up in the morning , has his breakfast and goes to office. Comes back watches tv and eats dinner and sleep. Max he will take me to the nearby grocery store. He will be in the car while I go shop everything. I manage both work and home. He does not even play with my daughter. He wanted a son so he is indifferent towards my child. Even my in laws wanted a grandson. My MIL has no problem but my FIL does not love my child. All of these people are well educated but they still have this gender bias. My husband has stopped talking to me. He will open his mouth only to blame me for something or to tell me a work. He does not love me at all. Post my delivery I have developed back ache. I keep crying of pain but he stays cold. He will hold my child for 10 mins after coming home and just does some time pass. Later he sticks to his tv. I take care of the child and cook dinner side by side. If I tell him to do anything he will either forget or he is busy. He will call his relatives & talk to them (complaints abt me) often OR he will buy air tickets on net for his brothers family but he has no time for us. Of late when we argue he has started beating me and using foul language. He says if you are not happy leave me and go. I have no clue why he has changed drastically. He says u have made me like this. I am very sad & depressed. I get up at 5 take care of my daughters needs, cook & and go to office. I come back at 7 cook again and play a while with my child. I am always tired becoz of the huge task list and stress. I am fed up of my life now. I don’t want to divorce him. I don’t have my family support. My bro is useless and my mother cannot help me. She has come to know of the changed behaviour of my husband and she pities me. I don’t want the social stigma of being a divorcee. I had a wonderful father and I don’t want my child to feel fatherless. My in laws know everything but they never blame their son. When ever I tell my problem to them they ask me to adjust and compromise. They don’t say a word to their son. I have a good MIL who understands me but my husband does not listen to anybody in this world. I have tried everything. I have spoken, requested, cajoled him. Nothing worked. I have even tried ignoring him & not talking to him but he irritates me for something or the other and the fight begins. Or he will start with a reason. I want to improve my relationship with my husband. Please help

2007-10-16 10:55:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm an Indian girl married for more than 1 year.My mother in law is causing too many misunderstandings between me & my husband.Please advise me if my husband can divorce me on the ground that:

1.) My in-laws don't like me.

2.) I don't get along well with my mother in law & can't live with her in future.She is presently living separately from us as we are settled abroad.

I would also like to add that she subjected me immensely to mental cruelty because of possessiveness about her son.

2007-10-16 10:53:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just lost my wife of 12 years to cancer.

2007-10-16 10:50:27 · 23 answers · asked by cutter1r 1

I need some ideas. OK so I want to help the poor for thanksgiving and I am running an event online where for every person who mails me in a video game, i buy a canned food or turkey or something? Any ideas would be appreciated on actually what I should buy and where do I send it to? Like is there a donation website for this kind of thing?

2007-10-16 10:48:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, added to all my other questions. I am living with my girlfriend soon to be wife. She has a child that lives with us FULL time. The grandmother is fighting to see the child in the courts here soon. The grandmother and her son ( father ) dont have any rights to the child since the dad is always in jail and has been on drugs for years. The grandmother wants the child to sneak her to him. Now she wants to say that I am harming the child since I am living with them. Which I am not, I love her like she is mine own. And she would tell you this. I treat them both very well. I also have a son that doesnt live with us.

So what could be possibly said or proved? When there is nothing to be proved... I think this lady just ran out of ammo to use agianst the childs mother.

What do you think?

2007-10-16 10:43:34 · 12 answers · asked by duh..... 1

Im wanting to get married, im 17 and a half years old and my boyfriend is 21.I was born here in the US and he was born in Mexico. I have been with him for a long time and my family has decided for us to get married. but before i do that i want to know something.

Can i get married at 17 and a half? I know i need my parents signature but i also need to know that if i get married with him will i be able to fix his papers and make him legal at my age or at least when i turn 18? I really need your help.

For all you people who dont understand.......I am catholic and mexican, my religion is when you are with someone for so long you marry them even if your young. So please no rude comments about me being with him at such a young age. you dont understand where im coming from so please just answer my question and dont try being rude to me about my age and my boyfriend. Please and Thank You.

2007-10-16 10:34:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been divorced for 7 months.

2007-10-16 10:25:16 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2

One of my friends married right as she stepped into leggally marriagable age, under the special marriage act. She did that as she was emotionally black mailed by her boy friend who belongs to a different religion and economic status. Now after many years, she was well settled in life. But she continued obliging to her legal husband becuase of mental torture because of the fact that she had nobody else to confide in. Her parents arranged her marriage with someone of their liking. The marriage took place according to hindu customs and was registered. Which of the two marriages are now valid? How can she nullify the first marriage which she did in unfit mental state?

2007-10-16 10:14:27 · 8 answers · asked by Lavanya Sriram 1

My fiance and I havent been getting along very well lately...he is gone on an out of town trip with seven other co-workers (male and female)...he called while ago and said he got to where he was supposed to be and now he has to go work again...he said to not call his cell bc he is leaving it plugged up to get charged in his room while he's gone (which he has never done) and he'll call me around 9:00 ish...am i overreacting by thinking hes up to no good or does it sound fishy to you too????

2007-10-16 10:02:02 · 31 answers · asked by gracey 6

I was not with her. The affair was on a company trip in Cancun 2003. She was the companies event coordinator and she hooked up with resorts event cordinator. Something was strange when she came home, after a couple of weeks I put a key logger on the computer. D-day.

We have managed, moved ahead as well as possible. He sends her emails on birthdays I have found out. She and her sorority sisters from 15 years ago are going a cruise. It stops in Cancun. Should I say no? It does bother me, she knows it. But all her girl friends from all over the US knows she has the time and money and she really wants to see them.

2007-10-16 09:58:39 · 50 answers · asked by Brightside 3

my boyfriend 2 yrs younger, never been married, doesn't have kids. however i already have 2 kids, 10 and 15 yrs old from a previous marriage. i feel like i am just getting my life back. i love my man and I would have another baby to keep him happy, but am i too old? i look quite young for my age, i exercise and take care of my self, but mentally, im not sure i could cope with another baby....help

I asked him what if I get pregnant? and he said, ohhhh I'm not ready, but, yes, someday I would like children.

2007-10-16 09:51:26 · 21 answers · asked by Lily 3

i read and hear so often that the new spouse usually says, his/her ex is crazy, no good, cheated, only wants money and so on. but when you ask, how they know, its usually: he/she told me all about it. now i am not saying you should doubt your partner, but arent there often two sides of the story? anyways, does it make the new spouse feel better about themselves to talk bad about the ex ? and cant they understand if they were left behind for someone else they might act exact the same way as the ex? opinions?

2007-10-16 09:50:58 · 14 answers · asked by not this way 5

I mean anything. From your own husband of course.

2007-10-16 09:48:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Some people say true love is a fight. Others say it should be easy and effortless. What do you think?

2007-10-16 09:45:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been dating for about 7 months now... i recently had a miscarriage. he has two young children. his ex is crazy.. he has custody of his children. i have not met the children yet.. that cant happen until the divorce is over. he filed for divorce, before we met, and i met him through the court system somehow along the way. he is everything i have ever wanted in a man. he is also 10 years my elder. he was there for me through my 10 week pregnancy and he wants to spend his life with me and try to have a baby after his divorce... am i crazy for wanting to be with someone with so much baggage? I know he is the one for me, granted I am still young. we want to wait til money is right and the divorce is totally settled.. but everyone says i am making a mistake.. but i cant help who i am in love with

2007-10-16 09:35:37 · 19 answers · asked by Elizabeth33 1

Im not sure if I'm sexually into my husband anymore!?! I never get arouse or want to have sex, he asks me constantly if I love him, or if I'm cheating on him. Which I do love him, and I would never cheat on him. Our sex life is so predictable and always goes basically his way...I don't know. I just can't help but think if there is a problem or if this is marriage. HA

2007-10-16 09:31:03 · 23 answers · asked by Leigh08 4

I loved my friend
He went away from me
There's nothing more to say
The poem ends soft as it began -
I loved my friend.
i didnt know how much i loved him.2 and half years ago he loved me but i was looking for my soul mate! i didnt know he was the one.i ignored him.never looked back and never let him talk.i asked him to forgive me and he did after these years.but he has got a fiance and soon they'll be married.its too late now.what can i do to forget him? i need him so bad but no way.i need to talk please help me

i dont want to ruin his happiness but it could be me instead of her.im so depresed and sorry.
im happy that he forgave me.but i still love him

2007-10-16 09:30:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I don't get along any more. Here it is.
1 I'm deeply religious and and my Husband finds great joy in making fun of what I belive. ( i wasn't active when i met him)
2 He works alot, but even when he has days off he goes hiking with out me ( and no I'm not invited).
I don't think he cheats either.
And if hes not hiking hes playing or watching sports.
3 Because he 'works' all the time he won't make love to me. When he does its on his terms and there is a huge lack of intamancy.
OK so why don't I just leave him?
I don't own the cars
I can't get a job ( it would waste the gas in the cars to drive them to work and back) thats his demand
He has control of all the money.
I don't have a family that could support me.
All I want is one of the cars, and enough money to get set up. ( and yes he could afford that but he refuses. Any idea's ( other than being homeless)
And yes we attend councling every month... for the past year

2007-10-16 09:18:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Specifically when the secret isn't anything that would effect your relationship with your spouse but only effects your friend.

Isn't it breaking your promise, if your best friend told you a secret, and you promised not to tell anyone about it, but then you told your husband about it?

2007-10-16 09:13:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous