Ok, added to all my other questions. I am living with my girlfriend soon to be wife. She has a child that lives with us FULL time. The grandmother is fighting to see the child in the courts here soon. The grandmother and her son ( father ) dont have any rights to the child since the dad is always in jail and has been on drugs for years. The grandmother wants the child to sneak her to him. Now she wants to say that I am harming the child since I am living with them. Which I am not, I love her like she is mine own. And she would tell you this. I treat them both very well. I also have a son that doesnt live with us.
So what could be possibly said or proved? When there is nothing to be proved... I think this lady just ran out of ammo to use agianst the childs mother.
What do you think?
2007-10-16 10:43:34 · 12 answers · asked by duh..... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Often this scenario is used by parents trying to gain custody of the child and now with grandparents on top of that , isnt it wonderful she loves her grandbaby so much she is willing to put her through all sort's of medical procedures that are intrusive and hurt just to maybe get what she wants.
Next time she ring's or show's up you ask her how she could claim to love the child so deeply she is willing to put her through not only physical manipulation by a dr examining her but emotional trauma of being made to lie and say thing's that she will remember and end up despising her grand mother for as she grows up , that child could become a drug user , alcaholic , get pregnant early because of trauma such as this , ask the loving grandma if she thought of this? also , tell her 9 time's out of 10 while being examined by the dr the hymen will tear because he has to molest her with his finger's to find any damage so in fact she is encouraging the molsetation Rape of the child.
Good going grandma.
2007-10-16 11:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi,
I think you should relax.
I hate that any Grandmother would willingly jeopardize her grandchild by trying to encourage a relationship, even if he is her son, with a person that is likely to have a negative influence on her.
Sounds like she's trying, and unfortunately succeeding, to upset you and your girlfriend. Don't let her.
On the off shot that she has an attorney that has the court's ear, and they want to order some kind of visitation privilege, although I think that unlikely, tell your girlfriend's attorney to seek supervised visitation. That way she can be sure her daughter is only visiting with the grandmother, and to be honest most people (unless they truly love the child) won't bother to have visitation if it has to be supervised (apparently it's too hard on their ego.)
For the child's sake try to stay as calm and stress free as possible. If you have established a good relationship with her, she may pick up on your inner turmoil and get scared.
I'm so pleased to know that you'll be there for them both, you sound like "a good one."
Good Luck
2007-10-16 11:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Grannie 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it's your problem - not the dad or stepdad until you get married.
I think the grandmother has the right to see her grandchild. Don't you? Do you KNOW she sneaks the grandchild to see the father or are you just assuming?
Feel very sorry for everyone here, but especially the child. They're the ones always hurt in these situations.
2007-10-16 11:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, this does suck. But, there isn't anything you can do. Just because any allegations are baseless, doesn't mean you don't have to deal with them. The only thing I can offer is- REMEMBER. When Granny finally runs out of garbage, people will tell you that you should be big enough to forget about all this crapola. Unless you are a better, more forgiving person than me, you won't.
2007-10-16 12:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Family court decide's-Sorry you had to go thru this drama..Just support her and give her your love..and she will tell the court this guy is good..Kids do not lie..and will tell the truth who is good and who is real bad..The judge will ask sometimes the kid If he/she is 8-18 who do you want than kid say's and they go with that parent..I mean that is what happen to me..When I had to fight hard core for my kid.She is 4-I had a job training horses and part time..I was barely home.But I prove the court that I'm independent and loveable women..and I give shelter food and time on weekend and I have my own buisness training horses..Life is hard..But you have to see that there is HOPE-and the other side
will always always say the bad-and lie to get what they want
just hope and pray that you win..
good luck-
2007-10-16 11:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you aren't abusing the child and there are no pictures, medical reports, etc. to prove it the the grandmother has no case.
2007-10-16 10:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
and the courts know this unfortunately this kind of BS come with the package of fighting for a child! all i can say it the truth will prevail
2007-10-16 10:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You should get a very good lawyer, and make sure you and your girlfriend communicate, and confront the father and grandmother as a team.
2007-10-16 10:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mai Tai 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Happens everyday...some people are just plain stupid.
Good luck !!
2007-10-16 10:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're ready for a lifetime of headaches, because that's what this woman is bringing to the relationship.
2007-10-16 10:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋