Marriage & Divorce - 16 October 2007

my mum thinks my dad is having an affair with one of his old work collegues. I know its not true, but if i tell my mum, she will know i was eavesdropping (accidently). I am 13 and i have an 18 year old sister, and we both would hate it if they got a divorce over this. they argue a bit anyway over things like this.

2007-10-16 09:10:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'd welcome any viewpoints/suggestions. I've been with the same person over 10 yrs. We have history and love for each other but we're light-yrs apart in our outlooks and interests. We just had a terrible argument and I'm feeling awful. He's been out of a job and was telling me his ideas.. He'd like to open a sporting good store. I started thinking of loans, pros and cons, profit, etc. Then I wondered something else.. If he'd want me to work for him since I'm his mate. I said, "Do you expect me to work for you?" maybe not the best words but he flew off the handle. I support him but I'm not really into sports so it's hard for me to get enthused about these things. He remarked that I only care about art, poetry, and music. Well, I know about that and have a passion for that. I was only saying if I quit my current job, it will have to for something I have a passion for. Is that so bad? I work, pay all bills, do my best and I feel worthless in this relationship. I can't live on ESPN.

2007-10-16 08:59:48 · 24 answers · asked by javagirl 1

I live in Michigan. got served divorse papers today, can't afford an attorney and don't qualify for free advice. got married 10 years ago,had a child and due to myself being abused left after 3 years. We stayed married because he said he would on day inherit money and after 10 years that is a reality as his father has passed. Now I get served and he wants to, get his, have his child support lowered from $109 a month and my child doesn't get any of this inheritence. What do I do? I don't want his money but want my child support. He has hidden his money from the court and says there is none.

2007-10-16 08:57:13 · 7 answers · asked by whata waste 7

and how long have you been together after marrige?

2007-10-16 08:50:03 · 31 answers · asked by Petitecherry 3

I spent 8 years of my life with this man. I took care of him and provided for him financially. I moved out 3 months ago but still continued to see him and help him with his rent bills etc.. Now all of a sudden his ex wife his starting to bring his 9 year old daughter to see him He signed his rights away to this kid. I have not spoke to him in 2 weeks because I went by his house at 11:30 one night and she was still there. He said she was staying there with the kids. He said there was nothing going on between them but I just dont trust it. She is having problems with her husband any way and he supposedly molested the little girl. I dont know what is going on with that. So I have not talked to my boyfriend in 1 week and 1 day. I just wonder why he will not call me. I spent 8 years of my freaking life with him.

2007-10-16 08:48:55 · 70 answers · asked by Sunny 2

I have been married for four years.We got a son together.Though my husband got enough money to visit my parents who live 3 hrs by flight away, hes been there only once four years ago. He won,t share the bedroom with me , he says he is impotent and wont, take medication.I havent slept with him for more than 2 and a half years. He is always moody we hardly talk. Hes older than me 15 years difference. iam ony 27 and having a boring life I am sure he is not cheating on me though.

2007-10-16 08:47:43 · 16 answers · asked by baby l 1

i've been married for 2 yrs, but my husband and i have never lived together, simply because he was getting in a lot of trouble/problems. we both live in different states... i last saw him a year ago..his mother made it clear she didn't like me and was always spreading lies about me.... anyway, he recently got in touch with and i made it clear i wanted a divorce and he said he loves me too much to divorce me. he tried to convince me to come and stay with hinm in arizona.. and he said he was going to send me the ticket and i believed him like i always do... its now been 3 days since then.. when i called his house his daughter said he had gone to work.. his kids don't live with him.. why won't he divorce me when he clearly isn't making any time for me.. helllp?????

2007-10-16 08:47:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-16 08:41:40 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean, like you get married, but then you found out something super important that you overlooked that gives you problems down the road?
Or if you're totally happy, what do you attribute the happiness to? How do you work everything out so everything runs smoothly?

2007-10-16 08:37:03 · 15 answers · asked by jade 2

Neither of us has dated seriously in a long time (a year or more.) We're mature, financially stable and have our own lives going. Never married/no kids. What's the best advice you can give me? I really want this one to work.

2007-10-16 08:26:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

No, perverted answers please. I catch her doing this and sometimes it is arousing for me, but if she wakes up she denies it.

2007-10-16 08:05:35 · 18 answers · asked by Opps 5

ok heres the deal for quiet some time I have expected of my husband having a fling with his bosses wife...On Tuesday's her husband isnt at the shop ...she works on Tuesday and my husband is there of coarse....its just a small town mechanic_ shop tire shop.He has come home periodically and had lunch here or picked me up and brought me back to the shop with him just so that I could get out of the house. well today I ask if he could come and get me and I would take the truck and wash it and detail it and he has gone balistic on me coming up with excuses why he cant come and get me.You ladies already know that because it's Tuesday and they are there alone thatit is F*C*I*G with my head..I and my sick thinking knows what is going on or he wouldnt be so defencive and trying to say that nothing is happening..ok I know yall are gonna let me vent and have a bad hair day...any advice.I am really angry right at this moment..
4 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

2007-10-16 07:53:54 · 14 answers · asked by ღOMGღ 7

I was the one that found the porn on my mums computer that my bf of 2 years had been looking at, it popped up again so I decided to delete it all and do a full search as an 11 year old uses this computer and I did not want her to come across it as easily as I did. and he has been watching fisting videos?! this actually makes me physically sick, I am crying I feel so repulsed by him. the worst part is this whole time he has told me he hates these movies etc etc. I have looked at porn so I am not a prude, but I did it when I was single and I did not get turned on by fisting. this is driving me nuts, I know I cant talk to him about it because he will just tell me how I need to get my own life and stop controlling his (it happens everytime we have an argument, wether it is him in the wrong or me) and I cant be bothered saying sorry for my feelings. is this the last straw? I love him to bits but I dont want to feel sick!

2007-10-16 07:53:33 · 14 answers · asked by chipped finger nails 2

2007-10-16 07:44:37 · 44 answers · asked by smitha 1

How would you feel????? He rubbed my friends back right in front of me and her husband, but she asked him(my hubby) to. Don't you think he would have asked her husband and not mine???

2007-10-16 07:43:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do people always expect relationships to take care of themselves?

Just as you have to work at your career to succeed or work on your body to have a good figure, you also must work on your relationship to have a good one. Don't take things for granted, put in your effort, and you'll be rewarded.

Attention is flattering. Put in the work.

2007-10-16 07:40:30 · 10 answers · asked by csucdartgirl 7

They are so unhappy together and have tried to resolve it for years, but go round in circles. He's working mega long hours to be away from her.
I have just started working with a lovely person and I commented that she'd be great with my friend - the conversation evolved and it turns out she knows this bloke well. So now I have two friends, one married to him and one who really likes him alot, and I have kind of told my colleague that his marriage is on the rocks.
How do I handle this?!!

2007-10-16 07:27:15 · 11 answers · asked by jo :) 5

me and my bf...we been in relationship from about 6 months...initially he was so caring and loving..but now from about 2-3 weeks..i'm feeling as if he is not loving me the way he used to do before..
me and my mom lives alone...and i don't have friends too...so many a times it happen that i really get down and low when i don't get the expected response from my bf..because he's the only one with whom i share all the stuff....and also i don't know..whether it has happened coincidentally that whenever i needed him really...he was never there...and since i don't have friends ..i'm not able to to get rid of certain things running through my mind.....i don't know what to do...i want my bf to have his own enough space but on the other side i want him to be with me too most of the time...as he'll be leaving for australia soon....what i expect is he should spend more time with me
....sometimes i feel as if i'm going wrong and not giving my bf enough space....but really i cant get over lonliness

2007-10-16 07:25:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why are there so many women out there complaining about women being "objectify" when there are already stuff out there for women? Male strip club, play girl magazine etc..etc..? That basically even it out.

I mean, you never hear us Men whine and complain about being objectify.

2007-10-16 07:22:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

hello, please help me, am into a lot of unhappiness. mine is an arranged marriage, my husband is sweet to me most of the times. however, he had confided in me about a chinese girl he fell in love with. he did not have an affair with her, but had been to a movie. He enjoyed her company a lot and fell in love with her without realising it. When people started noticing them talking most of the time ( theyw ere collegues, but she is not here anymore) he realised he's gone far though no marriage was possible between them. So, before it became an affair( ie a formal announcement/ crossing the limits) he moved away. she did try to make things work, but he dint show much response only because he could not marry her( he is frm a traditional family, and he believes in rituals and family a lot too). He told me though he did love her, its past and its over, and i am the only one he cares for in his life. I felt it was reasonable, and was happy with him. This girl mailed once after our marriage ,

2007-10-16 07:22:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

its more likely then not going to fail and the consequences of a failed marriage especially for the man if there are children involved are enormous. the mother can go off get remarried and have all the support from the new husband plus make her own money of course and the ole ex husband still has to shell out a thousand bucks a month for a child he sees rarely and who is usually brainwashed to favor the mother. it seems like it is advantageous for a woman to get married have kids, divorce and then get married to someone new , she will have extra money for the next 18 years coming from the ex. why on earth would a guy want to get married these days with things being the way they are.
I'm sure this question will offend some people but it really shouldn't, if you open your mind and think rationally rather then just jump to the defense of women ,you will see that im speaking the truth as screwed up as it is,it shouldn't be beneficial for a woman to divorce her husband.

2007-10-16 07:15:47 · 23 answers · asked by None 4

Guy is 54, divorced, and has kids as old as his new bride. She's 24. I feel that the fact he has money did play into her decision to marry him, although she says it was love and not money that influenced her.

What do people think of a marriage with this age difference lasting?

2007-10-16 07:13:40 · 20 answers · asked by Tiger 1

i just found out my wife of 7 years cheated on me 1 time 4 month ago with a guy she knew in high school while visiting her parrents with the kids.. the guy is all of the way across the country. however she has been e-mailing him love letters, phone sex and nude pics of her self. as soon as i found out, she admitted it. i asked her to call him and tell him it was over and she did. how can i tell if it is really over between them or should i let her go.

2007-10-16 07:04:42 · 29 answers · asked by adampsly 1

I recently ended a relationship with a man I am madly in love with. Its a long story why. He says he loves me too. We work together and now he will hardly look at me. I am sure he can tell how miserable I am. Why is he doing this? It makes it hurt even more.

2007-10-16 06:56:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 23 years and have been eligible for disability for over a year though I am 57. I spent years raising his children when I could have been contributing to my own benefits. We divorced after 23 years and I'm told I can't draw on his benefits until he dies.

2007-10-16 06:56:11 · 12 answers · asked by midnite rainbow 5

Here's a story about a bride who is suing her florist for $400,000 for the wrong color flowers are her wedding reception. Anyone else feel like sending a sympathy card to her poor husband? I think he might have a "lot" to look forward to for the rest of his life.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12784368/

2007-10-16 06:55:37 · 6 answers · asked by Alan 7

I'm newly single with 3 children at home. I'm slowly working into our new routine and trying to make the best of this new chapter in my life. I have begun journaling and that has helped me cope w/the loss of my old life; however, I feel like I need a little more to do to get at my true potential. Any books, websites, etc. you can suggest that will help me over the "hump"?

2007-10-16 06:51:28 · 11 answers · asked by Laura G 2

my daughter is nearly 18 and does not do a scrap around the home just lies in bed all day and out all nite with a boyfriend of 21 i clean and cook and walk my younger to school which is 3 miles there and back no bus service my husband left me at home twice this year to go on hol with his mum taking my kids i had a falling out with her husband 2yrs ago and i did say sorry but they still blanked me and my husband goes out at weekends and leaves me at home with kids dont say where he is and dont phone me only when there is a need am so depressed what should i do

2007-10-16 06:50:20 · 25 answers · asked by astra 5

I know a married man who sleeps around with anyone and everyone he can. Its like he is trying to build up his numbers. I mean he is going after 16 yr olds also! He and his wife have been together for 11yrs. He is gonna lose his job, his wife and everything! Possibly jail time. What can I say to him to get him to realize what he is doing? I want to help him change but will he ever be able to stop after cheating for so long??

I know its not my problem but no one has the guts to tell him whats up.

2007-10-16 06:43:12 · 34 answers · asked by solelone 3

wants, needs, and feelings of their own?

2007-10-16 06:42:40 · 9 answers · asked by Lucky 3