How would you feel????? He rubbed my friends back right in front of me and her husband, but she asked him(my hubby) to. Don't you think he would have asked her husband and not mine???
2007-10-16 07:43:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know I wouldn't have the freakin' nerve to ask another man to rub my back especially if my husband was right there. She has alot of balls and let me ask you did he come over to you after she obliged her request and see if you were hurt or bothered by that??? If he felt some sorta pressure to be nice and then came over to you and rubbed your back and stayed near you it would seem that it made him uncomfortable as well. But if he stayed near her most of the night then something is up.
Lastly did you did you tell your hubby that it bothered you ?? and did he apologize??? Don't sound like you had a fun night.
2007-10-16 07:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by cruisingalong 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was a very stupid thing for him to do. Not to mention insensitive. And yes, she should have asked her husband, and YOUR husband should have told her the same thing. A married man has no business touching another woman in a way that could be considered sexual... even if it wasn't meant to be taken that way.
You need to confront your husband about this in a relaxed way. Ask him how he thinks that made you feel. Sometimes this is a very effective way to get another person to see things from your perspective.
In all honesty, he probably thought it was "no big deal." Sometimes men don't think about these things. I'm pretty sure he's not fooling around with her, otherwise, he wouldn't have done this in public.
Say to him, "You know, it really bothered me the othe day when you gave my friend a backrub. You've never done that to me. Don't you think I should be the only one you touch in a way like that?"
He'll probably get defensive and argue that it wasn't sexual, that it was no big deal, and that you should learn to relax.
So make sure he understands how MUCH this bothered you. You will probably have to go into a lot of detail, because a lot of the time, men just don't understand these things.
2007-10-16 07:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by ellenoid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet other things are getting rubbed when you and her hubby are not around, make a alliance with her hubby in secret so the 2 of you can keep a eye on your spouses.. I would have slapped that b i t c h ' s face and kick hubby in the sack..
2007-10-16 07:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was rude and inconsiderate for your friend to ask your husband for a back rub, in front of you and her husband. It was rude for your husband to rub her back. How did your friend's husband react? May be they were testing the waters to see if you would be interested in swapping partners for the evening.
2007-10-16 09:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELLO??? YES, she should have asked anyone but YOUR husband - she could of asked YOU if she could ask your husband - - that would of been a bit more respectful.
AND, YOU could of spoken up and said to them - - "UH, EXCUSE ME? He doesn't do that for me - no way is he doing it for anyone else!"
When people DO selfish irritating things right there in front of you, JUST SAY SO!!! Believe me, it is much better to let EVERYONE know whatever is going on is NOT OK!!!
Remember this old saying "speak now or forever hold your peace."
2007-10-16 07:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't seem to respect u anymore to do that right in front of u. they could be having an affair or planning to. u just don't ask someone Else's husband to rub your back unless u feel comfortable with it or he has done it before.
2007-10-16 07:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly does it really matter. If it bothers you so much ask your friend about it and then ask your husband about it.
In the end I'm sure she's going to say that her husband sucks at it and your husband will say she asked me to (even though he hates doing that).
I'm thinking a lot of you are jumping the gun with an affair..geez
2007-10-16 07:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be very interested to know what Her Husband had to say about it afterwards?
That comfort level is gained you don't just "do it" any chance they are trying to set up a wife swap or a swing session and that was to test the waters? You need to confront him about it, tell him it made you uneasy and demand to know if more has gone on.
2007-10-16 07:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these women saying "sit him down and talk to him." 'Now honey, i was very upset... blah buh dee frickin' blah.' Men don't hear that.
BUT - the next time he wants head, or a romp in the hay, tell him very clamly, "I don't screw men who rub other women's backs. Why not go ask whats-her-name for some tail? You've probably already nailed her."
Then stand your ground, don't put out for a few weeks, and let the fun begin!
2007-10-16 08:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have responded by asking her husband to rub your back...or front. Point is, give it right back to him.
2007-10-16 07:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋