I have been married for four years.We got a son together.Though my husband got enough money to visit my parents who live 3 hrs by flight away, hes been there only once four years ago. He won,t share the bedroom with me , he says he is impotent and wont, take medication.I havent slept with him for more than 2 and a half years. He is always moody we hardly talk. Hes older than me 15 years difference. iam ony 27 and having a boring life I am sure he is not cheating on me though.
2007-10-16 08:47:43 · 16 answers · asked by baby l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you tried any type of counseling? That would be a great place to start. There are some things that can be worked out.
He maybe doesn't want to share a bed w/you because he is impotent. He maybe doesn't want to go on medication because he feels so embarassed about his condition. Impotence can strip a man of his "manhood".
If you give counseling an honest try and you still feel like leaving, then you should. You are the only person who can know if you are making the right decision.
I have been in your shoes, making this difficult decision. No one truly understands unless they have been through it. I hope you can find the right answer.
2007-10-16 08:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, he's 45 and impotent? That's a stretch. Either he is jacking off daily, banging someone on the side, or he's gone AC/DC or you unless you are absolutely atrocious to look at.
Marriages are a two way street.. If you've not lost all hope you may consider counseling TOGETHER. Sex is too, You are a 27 year old woman you are capable of initiating as easily as he is. Perhaps trying something "different" my be enough to get things rolling so to speak.
Begin with counseling and date night once per week, without kids.
Seeing inlaws is not high in my priority list and mine are only an hour drive..
2007-10-16 09:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 06:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if he would consider marriage counseling before you pursue a divorce. You have a child with him and the child will be hurt the most by the divorce - always.
And if he's impotent, how did you get pregnant?
2007-10-16 10:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by mikey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isnt being truthfull with you.Not sharing the bed? why would a husband not want his wife in there?did he marry you just because you have a kid with him, or did you have the kid after you got married? was he this way when you first got married? sounds like theres someone else,or maybe theres more going on, before you divorce get him to talk to you,get consoling? honestly theres no way this can work if he cant be honest with you .Maybe hes in a mid life crisis...
2007-10-16 09:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Glittery★stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot really help you. I am pretty much looking for the same advice. My husband and I are the same age tho. I am seriously thinking about divorce. Good luck!
2007-10-16 08:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are definitely grounds for divorce. The guy is psychologically as well as physically incapable and shows no effort whatsoever. Your grounds would be psychologically incapacitated or alienation of affection. Consult a lawyer now and make sure to ask about alimony arrangements
2007-10-16 08:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like there is ZERO communication in your relationship, and he's forgotten about the "give" part of "give and take".
I highly recommend counseling. If he won't go, and he won't address the problems with you, then he's not interested in changing things. If it were me, and I'd exhausted all options as far as counseling, etc....I'd leave. Life is too short to be miserable with someone who doesn't care that you're miserable.
2007-10-16 08:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider what another 5 years of this treatment would be like. How will this relationship act as a model for your son. You should defiantly try marriage counseling, but honestly if he wont change, then what other option do you have.
2007-10-16 09:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by ERB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a marriage. He does not share the bedroom with you oh my. I would be hurt. If he has an erection problem then he needs to go to the doctor. I think he has a masturbation problem if you ask me and that is why he doesn't want you in the room. You need to either talk to him and tell him you want marriage counceling or leave with your son.
2007-10-16 09:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋