Why do married men do this?

Question

I know a married man who sleeps around with anyone and everyone he can. Its like he is trying to build up his numbers. I mean he is going after 16 yr olds also! He and his wife have been together for 11yrs. He is gonna lose his job, his wife and everything! Possibly jail time. What can I say to him to get him to realize what he is doing? I want to help him change but will he ever be able to stop after cheating for so long??

I know its not my problem but no one has the guts to tell him whats up.

Answer 1

I believe in Karma...what goes around, comes around. He'll get his! It's not up to you to confront him. You could talk to his wife, but that could open up an entirely new set of problems. I would just let the man fall flat on his face.

Answer 2

Marriage is sort of a problematical pastime which will pay nicely. in case you place a lot into it, it is going nicely and this is attractive. in case you goof off, people get offended with you - and you threat getting fired. you're suitable concerning the intercourse area being problematical. besides the incontrovertible fact that when 2 many years i admire intercourse with my spouse as much as ever. We do exactly it fairly much less often than interior the initiating. the 1st ten years we oftentimes going on possibly 5 cases consistent with week. Now 2 cases consistent with week. yet each and every time is stable to great. i think of for her additionally - I effective attempt to make it that way. under no circumstances cheated. with any luck :) :) under no circumstances will. one million. Marry somebody you're drawn to or intercourse would be something you steer clear of and you will the two be depressing. 2. stay in shape/stay in shape/and so on. Or hit upon a guy who would not suggestions obese females. And there are various adult males like that. besides the incontrovertible fact that - sorry for this besides the incontrovertible fact that this is actual - maximum greater suitable knowledgeable/bigger earnings adult males do unlike heavy females. don't know why that's basically how this is. 3. Marry somebody who's adventurous and relaxing and preferably humorous. shall we face it those aspects are area of the mattress room adventure. 4. Marry somebody who makes an attempt to hold you to cl***x each and every time. some people finally end up in sexless marriages - if that took place to me i might the two have open affairs - i does no longer conceal affairs if my spouse does now stay up with me - or get divorce. How some adult males stay without intercourse is a secret to me.

Answer 3

Oh my God!!!!! How did you find my ex-husband??? he did the same exact thing... I think that some men are truely just scum and can't keep it in their pants! And I don't know how a grown man can look at a teenage girl and not see that she is still a child???? I am luckey, I got out before I got a disease from him... but I only wish that I had friends that were so considerate as to warn me as to what he was doing. I would tell his wife and break off your relationship with these people... I wouldn't want to be friends with a person like him... good luck

Answer 4

You know what - someone needs to have the guts to rat this guy out... to the police, to the school district, to the parents of the 16 year olds. And he can be damned.

Why can't you do it? What is holding you back? Are you saying you don't have the moral fortitude to stand up for what is right?

Are you a mother? Would you want someone to come to you and let you know what is going on?

Bottom line - you can't help him do anything. Only he can change himself - and he isn't showing any signs of wanting to, now is he? But you can prevent further problems (especially for the naive young women he preys upon) and get his butt reported to someone somewhere.

If you have any proof of his shenanigans, I would discretely give it to his wife. I am willing to bet she knows about his indescretions, but chooses to ignore it. However, in case she doesn't know - she needs to be told so she can protect herself.

Answer 5

Tell his wife! I had a 40 yr old guy try to do stuff w/ me when I was 16. I was really confused as what to do, I didnt want to tell his wife bc "I" didnt want to be the one to break up his marriage...I was so niave. Now that I am older and married I really wish I had told his wife. She deserved to know what scum she was married to, she was so nice and deserved better. this question shouldnt be about helping him it should be about helping his family which is telling them what is going on. Let them deal with it and work it out how they will. They should be the ones to try and help him if he does have a problem, not you.

Answer 6

Dont bother. He knows what he's doing is wrong. A reminder wont do he any good. If you want to help then either tell his wife or if she doesnt do anything, try the police. He is molesting 16 yr olds....and you know about it.... if you dont do something about it you could get in trouble too.

Answer 7

well first of all married men in general dont do this. But as for this guy...He knows what he is doing is wrong and you telling him is only likely to cause a confrontation and wont do any good. Does his wife know? if not then tell her. And if he is sleeping with 16 year olds then he needs his nuts cut off. Call the police and he will learn his lesson the hard way

Answer 8

Why do they do this?
1. They were incorrectly parented.
2. No one taught them responsibility.
3. They are selfish.
4. Women really don't realize that they are being insulted. It is no honor whatever to have a married guy trying to score with you, if you are the woman. He is insulting his wife, his marriage, and the woman is is trying to score with.
5. Because many women don't realize how insulting it truly is.
6. Because he has someone like you around that perhaps he can score with. Most people who knew such a rat would erase him from their lists of friends... You should too.

Answer 9

Just going to clear things up first. You meant to say "some" married men. Not all married men "cheat" on their wives. The guy you want to change is a loser. Tell him to do his wife a favor and divorce her. she deserves better.

Answer 10

Unless this "man" is your brother or a close relative, then it's seriously none of your business. I find it hard to believe that a married guy can sleep around town and chase 16 year old girls without eventually getting caught. Clearly it's not something he's too concerned with, so why are you? And what makes you think it's your place to be the one to try and talk sense into him? Why do you care so much???

Also........your question asks "why do married men do this". As if all married men cheat on their wives and chase 16 year old girls. I don't cheat on my wife or try to sleep with under age girls, so what's with the generalization? (thanks for the thumbs down by the way for being honest. or is that not what you wanted?)