Marriage & Divorce - 16 October 2007

Should married couples share every single cent (shared bank account, share money, etc.) ?

Or should couples still have a bit of separation?

2007-10-16 03:50:32 · 11 answers · asked by SimpleMo 3

I'm just trying to find out why you cheated? I walked the thin line of perfection with my guy, very virtuous woman, homemaker, bring home the bacon, clean, organized, chef, backrubs, footrubs, spicy sex intitated by me, gave space, took space.....His friends loved me, his family loved me, he "loved me" and we got engaged. We moved into together and then he cheated. So why did he cheat? What was it that caused you to cheat on someone that was the "right" one? Why would you risk the relationship for a 15 minute session?

2007-10-16 03:48:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother filed for divorce from my faithful father of 32 years 3 weeks ago. 4 days prior to the court date, she attempts suicide by taking 80 Prozac, and calls 911. When I arrive at the hospital, my family tries to tell me that she only filed for divorce to scare my dad and get his attention, they tell me there was a suicide letter left, but give no info on what it said. At this point my family will not call me, will not answer my calls, nothing. When I left the hospital Saturday I was aware that they would be sending my mother to a psych ward 30 miles away, but did not know when. I asked my family to call me ASAP to tell me what was going on and what I needed to do to help her. No word from any of them yet, and it is Tuesday. Help me figure out how I became the bad guy in this and possibly why I cannot get any information about my mother through anyone.

2007-10-16 03:40:43 · 12 answers · asked by Melissa G 2

i used to talk to him often but since he told me how he feels it seems he is avoiding me i love him what should i do

2007-10-16 03:34:12 · 12 answers · asked by Dorothy R 1

i'm just thinking why men are toodefensive when women find out they cheated,made mistekes etc? & instead of admitting thier mistakes & say thy're sorry for that, the more they cover upo themselves & sail away the answer & divert the argument to another topic?will you guys answer this honestly & maturely?i just want to understand & not to judge you.

2007-10-16 03:25:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has found the job of his dreams and I am really happy for him, but since our marriage has gone to pot. I do not want him to have to find another job, he loves it so much and the family that he works with. It is just that since he has gotten this job it is all he wants anymore. He says that he loves me and I believe that he does but he doesnt want to do anything with me anymore at all. He doesn't even talk to me on the phone for longer that 2 minutes, (I am not exagerating) at a total time of maybe 5 minutes a day. The only day that he is home is Sunday and while he is home all he wants to do is sleep, which i understand, but he wont even try to carry on a conversation with me. If one of his work buddies or boss call he dedicated all of his time to them. I just don't know if it would help to have him find another job or if maybe he is just not interested in our marriage anymore. What do you think the best reponse would be. I have talked to him about this to no avail.

2007-10-16 03:23:19 · 26 answers · asked by confused 1

2007-10-16 03:22:19 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you know what I mean I was watching a movie this weekend and this man said this to his wife :)) He loved his country but he felt his home was his wife I thought that was beautiful :))))

2007-10-16 03:11:15 · 24 answers · asked by Rita 6

I just have a thing for wanting her to shave the lower region, am I an awful husband?

2007-10-16 03:09:12 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have had some SERIOUS ups and downs over the last few years. We were separated due to lying, drug addiction and another woman in 2005. We were living together, again, by Jan 2006 and I thought things were going well. This past July, we had a baby son.

Now, I've found several lies he told. I also found emails he sent in response to some craigslist ads for casual encounters. He denied even writing them...and even said that maybe I was trying to set him up in order to get out of the marriage. Yesterday, I wrote to one of the women and received a confirming response that he had, indeed, met her in the past (on a different CL ad) and that he wrote to her this past Monday. He said something to the effect of, "I'll give you $200 if you do coke."

He still denies this. We are going to marriage counseling beginning tomorrow. He swears he loves me and our son and wants to be happy and grow old together and have a trusting relationship.

Can counseling help?

2007-10-16 03:07:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, me and my husband have been together for a total of 8 years but married for almost 5. So when we first met, he had this female friend, whom he was close with. During my first pregnancy we had broken up and he supposedly had sex with her a few times, but remained friends. When we got back together before our child was born, he told me what had happened and I asked him not to see or speak to her anymore. So now just a few weeks ago, she found him on "Myspace". So he told me...and I reminded him of my displeasure of her. So he tells me that he's not giving up his best friend and he shouldn't have had to in the first place. We argue about more...because, I'm trying to figure out my worth here. Then he admitts that they really never had sex and that he only said that to me to make me jealous over our breakup in the past.
I then contacted his friend on myspace and asked her if it really happened...and she said no...and she had cussed him out for telling me that...and understands why..

2007-10-16 03:06:34 · 29 answers · asked by shantia0202 2

I was happily engaged for 4 months, during which there were plenty of preparations around the wedding that was scheduled for next week. The girl's family had spoken with my parents about gifts that they needed to give to my relatives. However, I took it off the table asking that no gifts would be taken from them, however her parents insisted that the gifts were already bought. Last week, I called off the wedding. My ex and I were not 100% sure of getting married. Now, her parents are angry with me, thinking it was all my fault. I received a call from her dad today saying that whatever gifts they had bought for us as well as cancelation charges for the venue need to be borne by me. He just went on with how I screwed up and how his daughters life was spoilt, while it was a mutual decision to call it off. He is talking of legal means of dealing with me, if I didnt pay up for the expenses incured for the wedding gifts. Its caused a lot of distress for my visiting family. What should I do?

2007-10-16 03:06:27 · 12 answers · asked by Fast C 1

i've been married for three monthes and my husband wants to go at it at least twice a day- I'm just not in the mood! I also never had sex before marriage so does that make me wierder for not wanting it already. (i'm pregnant too)

2007-10-16 03:00:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have kids and I try to keep myself busy all the time..excise or shoppping or business but I still feel lonely..it seems like I missing something...
Please advise. is it normal..???

2007-10-16 02:59:44 · 9 answers · asked by back2future 5

My husband and I have been married for almost 6 months and it isn't working out so we are talking about getting a divorce. However, he is threatening to take the house (which is in my name and I have owned since before our marriage),unless I give him the truck and the car (which are also in my name from before the marriage, but he wants me to continue making the payments (the loan is in my name). He say NC is a joint state so he gets 1/2 of everything I owned before the marriage. He was renting when we got married (whith his mom) and has since sold his old truck, so he doesn't have anything from before-other then his hunting dogs, which I have no desire to share, can he do this?

2007-10-16 02:58:41 · 11 answers · asked by Nicole E 4

My wife and I are fighting right now. I was doing a favour for a friend yesterday evening, trying to clear her computer of virus/spyware etc, and i ended up spending the evening working on it. My wife got angry and went kind of crazy, claiming i don't spend time with her (she watched tv while i worked on the computer). We practically spend all of our time together and i don't spend time with anybody other than her. She has really hurt me with some of the things she said last night, she dug up old resolved arguments, but can't give me any proof of what exactly i'm doing wrong, apart from being a genuine person helping other people out whenever I can, i.e. she wants the 100%! Before last Saturday, I'd say we were the happiest couple on earth, but since she spent time with a friend of hers who is having relationship trouble, it's like she has caught something! We were always romantic and passionate (we're married 6 months) but that has ended abruptly, what the hell is going on, help me!

2007-10-16 02:52:28 · 27 answers · asked by OJ 2

You most know what my situation is, and since splitting is not easy, I thought I would find him a room so he can move out. Am I doing the right thing, or should I let him do it?

I have always done everything for him, so that is why I am asking if its the right thing to do. After all, I want him to be as happy as possible since I am trying to make the break-up as amicable as it can be.

Will this allow him to move on? or is he going to feel I am pushing him out?

2007-10-16 02:49:39 · 15 answers · asked by Sesoid 4

i just left my bf of 8 years , i slept by myself last night and i was so lonley . i wanted to call him so bad but i didnt . When will i stop hurting so much

2007-10-16 02:44:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example, my wife and I watched a woman check her the fluids in her car and tire pressure. I told my wife it is good for a woman to know this because she can better take care of the car. She said, "It is good knowledge but I have you, so I do not need to do it. If I have to check my oil, what is the point of me having a husband'? My point is this, she drives the car and she needs to know how to take care of it so it can work. So if I'm not around, she could check the oil to see if it is low. I told her its like me saying, "It is good to know how to cook but, I got you and I will not cook. If I had to cook, why do I need you? Ladies, do I have crazy point?

2007-10-16 02:42:23 · 15 answers · asked by damarcuswilson 1

I go on business trips all over the world. I make love to hookers every trip. I am out of my wifes area code. So is that cheating?

2007-10-16 02:38:16 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

let's face it... yahoo answers are full of negative energy. 'my bf screwed my best friend... my hubby sucks my brother's d*ck... my daughter is screwing her uncle...etc etc... ' (you know what i mean) don't get me wrong. i love being a smart @ss when i answer people's questions and i also deeply offended some of you with couple of my questions.
the way i see it is this. when we look for negatives in our mates, all we see are negatives. when we look for positives, we only see the positives. there are million reasons to separate with our other halves, if you look for them. and there are million and one reason to stay with our other halves, if you look for them as well. no couples can be couples if you look for resons to separate. opposite is also true.

let me hear some of the things that made your hunny, your hunny.

write it like you're writing directly to your other half. (be you.. go ahead.. be a smart ***, if you must)

i'll go first.

2007-10-16 02:32:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-16 02:27:59 · 10 answers · asked by ish k 1

Wouldn't have gotten married otherwise, or at least not at that time. Same problems exist that nearly drove them apart before (yelling, overreacting, rudeness when they don't get their way, taking the person for granted, unappreciative).

Is this a lost cause? Is it worth holding on to?

2007-10-16 02:24:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Doesn't make sense to me. It's like saying you don't want candy because you have a cold. Or like saying you don't want to watch a movie because you have a cold. What does one have to do with the other? I can understand that you might not have energy, but you can have sex without expending much energy. I could be half dead and I'd still have sex. I'm not being a jerk, I just don't understand it.

2007-10-16 02:22:51 · 18 answers · asked by Meat Bot 3

Okay i found the one for me. Do i have to ask her fathers promission to have here hand in marriage?

It seems like an old fashion way.

2007-10-16 02:19:46 · 14 answers · asked by t c p 1

What happens when your husband is upset with your job and it is helping out the whole family financially? this is the situation at hand. I dated a guy for a very short time and we have remained friends because we know that things do not work between us. I have no feelings for him like that at all. We have been friends for 7 years and I got married to someone else over a year ago. My now husband hates the fact that I work with this ex and is now telling me it is my job or him. The plan was that I would work there until december when my family moved away to a different state, now my husband cannot stand me working at this place and is telling me to quit or file for divorce. I do not want to file for divorce, but I keep thinking that if I give into this demand now what else will he expect me to give up. When we got married I gave up talking to guy friends online, granted most of them wanted to have sex, but I did not. So I gave that up for my husband I also gave up seeing my parents all

2007-10-16 02:03:15 · 10 answers · asked by outgoing pincess 1

My husband is a pathalogical liar. I wouldnt believe him when he says what color the sky is. He is also addicted to porn. he denies being a liar (of course) but sometimes admits being addicted to porn but swears he has stopped but whenever i suspect porno i have found it all over the house and in his car. i am one of those women who HATE porn because yes maybe i am insecure but if it bothers me he should stop or at least be man enough to stand up to me instead of hiding it. i tell him everything and i NEVER lie to him. EVER. he can't stop lying...i try to make it safe for him but it doesnt matter. if i dont catch him red handed in a lie he will deny it until i do. i hate playing detective all the time. i have better sh*t to do with my time. what should i do?

2007-10-16 01:55:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance & I love each other, but he keep talking about having a child more instead of talking about our wedding,honey moon our home,etc. it seems that haing a baby is more important than anything els, is it good or bad?? i need aswer from exprienced and adults please

2007-10-16 01:49:56 · 25 answers · asked by Mini fun 1

I feel very stupid for reveiling my heart to a bunch of strangers but chances are if we ever run into each we wouldn't know who each other are so hey, im taking a chance here. Okay, i moved out of my mother's house about a month ago with my fiance and his mother since things were too stressful with us, plus my now 4 month old doesn't need to be around all the arguing. Well things have been going relativly fine with the exception of the occasional arguing here and there which is to be expected right? Well to give a little background on each other, he was raised in a rough neighborhood with a mother that was there but had her mind on "other" things so he pretty much had to fend for himself. I had a mother who dropped her whole life for me basically and then spoiled me rotten. Right now is a laid back person with a pretty quick temper but is most sweet as candy. Of course there are certain things that you don't like about your mate but as for me, im quiet, shy, and funloving. (see details

2007-10-16 01:48:14 · 10 answers · asked by Poison Berry 2

2007-10-16 01:40:56 · 16 answers · asked by Kasey 2