You most know what my situation is, and since splitting is not easy, I thought I would find him a room so he can move out. Am I doing the right thing, or should I let him do it?
I have always done everything for him, so that is why I am asking if its the right thing to do. After all, I want him to be as happy as possible since I am trying to make the break-up as amicable as it can be.
Will this allow him to move on? or is he going to feel I am pushing him out?
2007-10-16 02:49:39 · 15 answers · asked by Sesoid 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We don't have kids, only two cats which we have agreed I will keep.
2007-10-16 03:00:41 · update #1
I think this time u should let him do it.. He might think that u are really pushing him out.. I don't know who split up with who but im sure it will work out easy to be apart so u can handle things well.
2007-10-16 02:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit down and talk about how you all are going to handle this breaking up thing. Simply assuming what the other one is going or hoping to do isn't the best solution. Why are you not the one moving? Do you have kids? There are a lot of thing you both need to discuss.
2007-10-16 09:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and i split up 3 yrs ago this coming May - he moved out this march! I asked him to find somewhere else to live and move out and he said he wouldnt until he had his share of the house.
With break ups they can start off amicable but if he lingers it will turn stale quickly
talk to him and say " I'd like you out by ....... If you want me to help then i will"
talk to him about it ask him to move and set him targets if he doesnt do anything by said time you sorting it out for him wont help becaus he may be dragging his feet on purpose
Good luck with it - its hard i know
2007-10-16 10:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find yourself a room and move out yourself. I realise you want things amicable so you can both move on etc. But it would seem pushy to find a room for him, especially if it is his house too.
2007-10-16 10:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Knievel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Ive I missed something here, if you are bored of your marriage then do the right thing.
Why don't you move out then you wont have to find him a place.
Don't forget he has rights to don't make it look as if your the injured party everyone suffers through this.
2007-10-16 10:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rod T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you ARE pushing him out, and you're still doing things for him. It's his responsibility to move out. Set a time frame and stick to it.
2007-10-16 09:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a reasonable space of time to do it himself and tell him you can help if he wants. if he doesnt make any moves towards doing it, then find him a place and move him on.
2007-10-16 09:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Femme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if ye're splittin up, i would presume you dont want to be in the same house as him & he should kinda cop that!! Why do you have to find somewhere for him, can he not find somewhere to stay himself?
2007-10-16 09:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by foxychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If getting him out will make your life easier, of course it's okay.
As for him feeling "pushed," that's not your problem. He is a grown man and needs to take care of himself and you need to let go.
Living with him, will only lead to complications.
2007-10-16 09:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it for him.
Get a court order and have him formally removed from the house. It could be the best thing that ever happened to him.
2007-10-16 10:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋