For example, my wife and I watched a woman check her the fluids in her car and tire pressure. I told my wife it is good for a woman to know this because she can better take care of the car. She said, "It is good knowledge but I have you, so I do not need to do it. If I have to check my oil, what is the point of me having a husband'? My point is this, she drives the car and she needs to know how to take care of it so it can work. So if I'm not around, she could check the oil to see if it is low. I told her its like me saying, "It is good to know how to cook but, I got you and I will not cook. If I had to cook, why do I need you? Ladies, do I have crazy point?
2007-10-16 02:42:23 · 15 answers · asked by damarcuswilson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Careful, careful! Thems fightn' words!
First off, does your woman have long manicured fingernails? Fat chance she will ever get under the hood of her car!
I do agree with what you have to say. Before I got married recently, my husband had a mindset of woman's duties and unfortunately for me I was raised a tom boy and that didn't lay so well. I did like you... If I have to take care of the domestic stuff, he has to take care of all the rest! Someday if neither of us has the other, we'll just have to wing it! Today is today.
So now when he asks me if I checked the oil on the car, I tell him I'll check the oil as soon as he gets the dishes done! When he starts on that it's my car and I have to do this or that I get him back by telling him to talk to his empty stomach through his dirty shirt and if he doesn't get an answer he can take it up with the sink while I go check the oil. On the other foot, when I ask him to cook or clean, he tells me to think it over while I am walking to wherever I need to go because nobody checked the oil and the engine froze. He takes care of the car, I take care of the house. There are just some things he does better than me and if something happens to him, I'll just cross that bridge when I get to it.
What's it worth? Two minutes to look at a dipstick or weeks of arguing?
2007-10-16 03:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a good thing for a person to have general knowledge, and checking the oil and tire pressure on a car isn't that hard.
If you croaked tomorrow, i guess she'd be screwed?
I'm a woman and i have even replaced toilets, put up drywall, and make small, household repairs. If there is something i want done, i can check on the internet "how to" websites to figure it out - if it's too much i ask for help, but i'd rather be able to do things for myself.
Some people are just stubborn and don't want to learn. I guess it's her choice to have a closed mind?
2007-10-16 02:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your attitude that is right and hers is wrong. Your marriage can be perfect, full of love and passion but the two of you are still individuals and need to be able to fend for yourself.
Try explaining to her that there are some things you want her to learn for your peace of mind. She will be safer if there are things she knows to do in case of car trouble and you are not with her. She should learn to change a tire, check air pressure, check the fluid levels in the car and change windshield wiper blades. These are things that can happen and need attention with her just driving to the grocery by herself.
Good Luck to You
2007-10-16 02:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I am familiar with my car and I have to teach my husband a few things about keeping up with a car maintenance because "I'm not going always be around to do it".
My husband teaches me a few things about cooking, so if he's not around, I know how to make new things and have learned not to be nervous about experimenting in the kitchen.
Women want equality...You can't have it only when it's convenient for the individual. I would be put off by this comment...but if she chooses not to learn, as long as she knows how to call the garage and she is willing to pay the extra money, then let her. Try to ignore the comment and move on.
If my husband doesn't want to learn how to do something, I just do it myself, or I leave it up to him on HOW he wants to handle it. As long as it gets done, it doesn't matter how it happens.
2007-10-16 02:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a female, married and have been single. I don't know how to take care of my car....when I am single I have someone at the service station take care of it. I don't know how to start a lawn mower, when I am single I have someone else mow it...I have no interest in taking care of these things myself. If my husband didn't feel like taking care of these things or if I didn't have a husband there are ways to have them taken care of. I also don't know how to fix a toilet, the washing machine or any of the other mechanical things that are in my life. I can and do cook, clean, change light bulbs, do the wash and shop.
2007-10-16 03:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got the point here. It was certainly not very nice of your wife saying things like that to you. Well, not sure about her tone when she said that to you, if it was very flirtatious way, I think she was just being playful.
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2016-12-18 08:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by maiale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. I have a hubby that works on cars as a hobby and yet I know how to do all those things myself and I do them.
SHe just sounds lazy.
2007-10-16 02:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that is a very good point. If you guys were to get divorced, she would need to know this stuff.
2007-10-16 02:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see your point but each of us can't know EVERYTHING.....I am sure you are schooled on plenty your wife isn't, and vice versa.
I see what your point is though. I guess I am kind of guilty of having this attitude as well.....
2007-10-16 02:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋