i've been married for three monthes and my husband wants to go at it at least twice a day- I'm just not in the mood! I also never had sex before marriage so does that make me wierder for not wanting it already. (i'm pregnant too)
2007-10-16 03:00:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT COULD BE HORMONAL...
2007-10-16 03:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your;s is an arranged marriage, and you both are probably getting to know each other only now. Not everybody find it that easy to copulate in the very beginning itself . You have to have patience. Encourage your partner. It should come naturally. There is a lot of factors involved. 1) Lack of lubrication 2) improper fit of the organs(Small vagina, big pennis etc) 3) Fear 4) bitter experience 5) Emotional disattachment 6) Family background 7) improper approach etc. Each factor contributes in its own way. The first and foremost thing is to make the girl relaxed and comfortable. Don't approach her for sex alone. open yourself up. Take her into confidence and give enough stimulus by foreplay. in fact, for some initial few days it should be stopped with foreplay alone. That makes the girl more attached and she can free herself of the fear and anxiety. Don't ever try to force it on her. That will only create further problems. Show to her that you can also be gentle and supportive. Don't worry, you can overcome this problem, provided both are interested to get it done. Good luck.
2016-05-22 22:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, married only three months, as a virgin and already pregnant........... Girl, your hormones are going crazy in ways youve never expereinced before. You need to talk to your OB/GYN and let him or her know what you are going through. Get some horemone therapy so you dont get scared for life.
Dont turn away from sex yet. Its too soon in your life. You have gotten pregnant too early, but even so, there are things that can be done so you can get that feeling back and learn to actually enjoy sex.
2007-10-16 03:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife would be fine with having sex once a month and I would like it every day and twice if time allows.
SO, when we only had sex 3 times on our honeymoon I was very disappointed (we did not have sex till honeymoon). And for the first year I was going crazy wanting sex and not understanding why she didn't! It took awhile for me to figure out that she just has a low drive and I had to accept it. She also had to understand me and realize my needs to.
SO, we have compromised and there are times that she just pleasures me. So when you are not in the mood maybe offer to pleasure him and let him know that you just don't want it right now?
The first year will be tough as you learn each other and learn to live with one another. AND with a little one on the way it will even be more difficult.
Good Luck
2007-10-16 03:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl.......... I can relate, but a word of warning, I ended up divorced at the age of 23.
Being prego is hard, being a newlywed is hard, and figuring out how to be a sexual after being a virgin for so long is hard too. You have a lot on your plate, The number one thing is to talk openly about how you feel with your hubby, also, try to relax, but don't shut him out.
If you have a sexless marriage it will damage your relationship, sometimes beyond repair. Take care of yourself, but find Other ways to make him happy if you don't feel like having sex.
2007-10-16 04:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well pregnancy could be affecting your libido. Not wanting sex.. well, married people expect to have it. I know what you mean though...it will get better... I was like you. I never wanted it. I hadn't petted enough in my dating experience and I hadn't been brought to the point of no return and had to stop in my dating experience. so naturally, when I married, I wasn't interested in it. I tried to be a good wife, but he wasn't a good husband... I left him I married again and this one believes in pleasing me first then himself... he's a wonderful lover. You will probably grow to enjoy sex, it will just take time. Your husband needs more patience and self-control...
2007-10-20 01:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by JerZey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal for some women while pregnant and it's also normal for pregnant women to give their hubby's a lot of head and hand jobs so do that as a substitute for intercourse. keep your man happy in the sex department because there are a lot of women like myself out there that will if you don't, sorry but it's the truth..
2007-10-16 03:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your husband know (calmly and kindly) that it's getting to be too much right now... and that since you're pregnant, that is probably the reason.
i dont' know what else to say.. having sex twice a day, every day for 6 months is a lot of sex... i guess there was a time when i'd have gone for it, but right now, i don't care! rofl.
your husband needs to understand and give you a break... take care...
2007-10-16 03:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you something....if you don't want your husband sleeping around on you you seriously need to take care of his needs. I am not saying to be his sex slave but what is this "not in the mood crap". You just go married !!! He may make love to you but he sure as heck will screw someone else. One thing has nothing to do with other. Good Luck
2007-10-16 03:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont understand women at all, and I am a woman myself. I enjoy intimacy very much. I liken it to eating ice-cream. If you enjoy eating ice cream....how can you get sick of it. As liberated as we seem to think we are, sex. for a lot of women is a responsibility......as chore....something they feel they have to do to keep their husband happy. I know we are all different, but I was very sexual when I was pregnant. Maybe the reason you are not feeling like sex is because of your inexperience. Maybe with time you will learn to enjoy sex. Sex for a woman can be just as intense as it is for a man. Maybe your ideals on sex is not about your own enjoyment, but as something you feel you must do because you are a wife. Maybe you need to let down your defences and just enjoy the experience. You dont have to please your man just because you feel it is your duty. You need to let yourself go and just feel the pleasure. I am starting to think that I am really odd. I have never seen sex as a chore. I love the feelings of being close to the man you love. Sex is just an extension of the love you feel for your husband/partner. I dont understand how you can lose interest....especially since you have been married for such a short time. People blame hormones for all sorts of things. I havent experienced anything like that and I am going through menopause right now. I reckon a lot of the problems with women's libido's are in your mind. Learn to enjoy sex, then maybe you will see it as something that is very stimulating for you, and not just a chore.
2007-10-16 03:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow...newly married and a baby on the way already.....congratulations!!!!
I am going to agree with some other people here, it may be hormonal....talk to your doctor, and communicate with your husband. you do not want him to think you aren't happy with him. work through this together, you can get through this!
2007-10-16 03:08:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋