My mother filed for divorce from my faithful father of 32 years 3 weeks ago. 4 days prior to the court date, she attempts suicide by taking 80 Prozac, and calls 911. When I arrive at the hospital, my family tries to tell me that she only filed for divorce to scare my dad and get his attention, they tell me there was a suicide letter left, but give no info on what it said. At this point my family will not call me, will not answer my calls, nothing. When I left the hospital Saturday I was aware that they would be sending my mother to a psych ward 30 miles away, but did not know when. I asked my family to call me ASAP to tell me what was going on and what I needed to do to help her. No word from any of them yet, and it is Tuesday. Help me figure out how I became the bad guy in this and possibly why I cannot get any information about my mother through anyone.
2007-10-16 03:40:43 · 12 answers · asked by Melissa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, more on this.....no one will tell my father anything either. I work in the medical field and know that HIPPA privacy acts will not allow you to find out any info unless a signed release from the patient (or their acting guardian) has been established. The family who is not telling me anything is my aunt and my grandmother. My father knows just as little as I do. We have both sat at my house by the phone since Saturday waiting to hear something from someone. I can't just "Go up there", because I don't even know where "THERE" is right now. The hospital will tell me nothing as well. I have no idea if she is still in the local hospital or one of the pyschiatric facilities near our home town.
2007-10-16 04:19:23 · update #1
You have to remember that we are only in control of our own actions. If you have done nothing wrong don't punish yourself over the situation. Sorry to hear your moms. I am very close to my mother, and i know i would be debastated if she was in this situation.
Best thing you can do is hang up the phone stop trying to call people, and take a day off to drive to where she might be either be a hospital or relatives house. Your mother doesnt need to talk to you on the phone right now, she needs you by her side..... Remember that you only have one mother and she needs you right now, the way you needed her when you were a baby and she was changing your diapers, and fed you.... Right now you are in a position to help her just by letting her know she is not alone....
2007-10-16 04:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by wtf!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you feel so bad. :( Sorry, but your mom sounds horrible. I'm sure it's as hard as **** to continue on your novels, but you've gotta keep going with that. Anything like that that you can pour your energy into and feel good about will help you. I don't know if you're able to (or allowed) to leave the house, but I think what would be extremely helpful is meeting a boyfriend (assuming that you're straight). I recommend trying to meet a nice, quiet, loyal, caring guy. People I've known who've gone through a lot have been helped significantly by a caring bf or gf. Admittedly, I don't have that either and I feel like leaving this stupid planet sometimes, but I think something like that would help me to. The good thing for you is, there are always guys looking for gfs, so you might want to consider it. I hope that helped in some way. And try your best not to listen to your mom. Unfortunately, she doesn't sound like someone who will change (at least until she realizes the mistake of treating you the way she did).
2016-05-22 22:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not blame yourself for what your mother tried to do, your family has a big problem on communicating with each other so sad, if this was me I'd meet up with the family members face to face seeing they will not talk to you on the phone, No you are not the bad guy, so do not go there, your parents have a problem and from the sounds of it you are tiring to help your mom and the other family members are acting like kids, well remember you can run but you can't hide, this applies to your family.
2007-10-16 03:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange, obviously you care and want to help. Perhaps there is something your family isn't telling you that they don't want you to know. I would go to your family and ask them what is going on and why they are not including you in all of this? Or you could call the hospital to find out what's going on and then go to see your mother and if she is able to talk to you, explain what's going on and ask her if she knows why. Sorry your going through this, I hope things work out and your mother gets the help she needs to get better.
2007-10-16 03:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother may be mentally ill but your family members are acting like idiots. Don't buy into the drama. Try talking with your father but if that doesn't work, there's nothing you can do. You are not the "bad guy" unless you let your family convince you that you are. Perhaps they are feeling some guilt themselves and are looking for a place to dump it.
2007-10-16 03:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the "bad buy" in all of this. you don't say who you mean by "family" but it could just be that they are trying to spare you the melodrama. If your mother really wanted to kill herself, she wouldn't have called 911 after taking the pills.
It sounds like you may be the strong member of the family and they may be afraid that you will take over everything relative to the care of your mother.
Or perhaps they are normally closer to each other and so they are dealing with this as a crisis and will bring you up to date on all of this after the crisis is over.
It may even be that they all ignored her to the point that she did this for attention and now they are embarrassed by that and don't want to admit that to you.
Just keep leaving messages for them that you are concerned and want to know what is going on and hopefully you will hear back from them soon. I hope things work out for you and your family.
2007-10-16 04:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they do not want to worry you. You always take suicide seriously even if you may think it was for attention. I would continue to persue and see what is going on. Call the phych ward and see what is going on. Instead of relying on family members go figure out what is going on yourself. Things will get better.
2007-10-16 04:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not a bad guy....only thing is that at this moment your mother's proper treatment is most important.they r are not paying attention to ur request.because u should find out your self about ur mom.If u r not far away go there as soon as possible and give them a hand .they need u and may be they want u to be there by your self.why they should ask u ...she is ur mom and needs help.
2007-10-16 03:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tehseen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the hospital
2007-10-16 03:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,who r u talking about in a family,mom is in hospital right?who is not giving u info,whats the exact story be a lil brief pls..i dont see ur fault here,just take it easy!!good luck!!
2007-10-16 03:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋