I'm just trying to find out why you cheated? I walked the thin line of perfection with my guy, very virtuous woman, homemaker, bring home the bacon, clean, organized, chef, backrubs, footrubs, spicy sex intitated by me, gave space, took space.....His friends loved me, his family loved me, he "loved me" and we got engaged. We moved into together and then he cheated. So why did he cheat? What was it that caused you to cheat on someone that was the "right" one? Why would you risk the relationship for a 15 minute session?
2007-10-16 03:48:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he is what he is? It's not you that was wrong it is him. Obviously you aren't the one for him. If he cheated on you then he would do it again. Especially if you did all those things for him.
Then maybe he's not attracted to you but to the way you treat him. Maybe he likes all the stuff you bring to the table but he has a certain type of woman he really wants to be with. I hate to say it but you are about 1/3 of the package that he's looking for.
People like you deserve a good man and in time you will find the right one but be picky about your choices. If you have that much that you bring to the table then you deserve to have the same thing. Usually you can pick up what type of guy that you have just by time alone.
Trust your judgement usually it tells you what's the right thing to do but females especially tend to ignore and say what if. Stop that and stay being you and just take it nice and slow and the right guy will come along, in the mean time get rid of this jacka**. Good luck!
2007-10-16 03:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by level_9yo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I cheated once on a boyfriend, and I admit I was a coward who should've broken up before trying something new with someone, but to answer your question, I cheated because I was not in love with this person.
I dated someone that seemed to be perfect, my family loved him, we had the same idea about the future, he is atractive, gave me back rubs and feet rubs every night, cooked dinner, cleaned the house brought home the bacon, gave space, and yet I broke up with him, because he might have been perfect, but once again, I was not in love with him. I did care deeply for him, but that's about it. Love is a mystery. It cannot be bought, and you can't win someone's heart by doing perfect things. That scores you some points, yes, but love does not spring from that.
Your fiance cheated on you, then, you are not the "right" person as you thought. When the RIGHT person comes along, he will value all the things your ex did not care for.
2007-10-16 11:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only cheat when he or she is NOT the right one. I don't care what anyone says..... they will blame it on alcohol, temptation, unhappiness, boredom, etc.
And if you don't believe me, read what you wrote. You gave the man everything, right? .
I'm sorry you may not want to hear this, but it's the truth. When you are in love with someone, you breathe that person. The thought doesn't occur, and if the situation presents itself, you will have the courage to walk away.
Been there.
2007-10-16 11:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The unknown can be very exciting and sensual for some folks.
Maybe you were too perfect...everything always just right...he needed to be bad to feel good. Only he can answer this, as every circumstance is different. But regardless of his justification for his actions it really boils down to weakness. He was too weak to say no to temptation.
2007-10-16 10:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people cheat because they are looking for excitement others because they cant settle down and are scared, from what you are saying you give far to much, you need to stop trying so hard and let him do things for you, when your with someone it needs to be 50/50 if its not the other person will get bored or feel trapped
2007-10-16 10:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by cara 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry you are hurting but You keep saying that "you are the right one". You never said that they said "you were the right one". If they cheat it is usually for a reason, someone is not getting what they think they should. Good Luck
2007-10-16 10:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
BABY GIRL ITS NOT U ITS US,WE CANT THINK PASS OUR COCKS,WE CAN HAVE A DIME AT HOME BUT WE STILL PREFER THE COMPANY OF OTHER WOMEN.IVE BEEN WITH MY GIRL FOR 2 YEARS AND I SLIPPED UP ONCE ,ITS NOT THAT I DONT LOVE HER OR SHE'S NOT TAKING CARE OF HOME ,IT'S JUST WHEN OUR COCK IS HARD OUR BRAINS STOP WORKING.
2007-10-16 11:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been married 3 years and with my husband for 6 years. I have cheated on him with 13 different men and couldn't tell you how many times. My husband don't know about any of these men. My husband don't give me the attention I need. I tell him all the time to pay more attention to me, so he don't and I cheat.
2007-10-16 10:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by PrettyAKA 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I cheated on an ex because she was constantly accusing me of cheating on her and because I knew she was cheating on me. If I'm going to get in trouble for it anyway, I might as well have the satisfaction of having done it. And I didn't feel guilty about it either since I knew she was cheating.
Also, it was much longer than 15 minutes.
2007-10-16 10:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
well if there was something in your relationship that wasnt going right he might have had that on his mind and was tempted to have something "better" at the moment...i know thats why my bf cheated on me! maybe that why ur cheated on you...
2007-10-16 10:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋