Guy is 54, divorced, and has kids as old as his new bride. She's 24. I feel that the fact he has money did play into her decision to marry him, although she says it was love and not money that influenced her.
What do people think of a marriage with this age difference lasting?
2007-10-16 07:13:40 · 20 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is definitely possible to love someone who is much older than yourself however that being said , it takes a great emotional toll that you never really get over, and you are pretty much guaranteed that he will pass away leaving her a widow with options that are not so great.
2007-10-16 07:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by kat 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I have a great story for this. My mom was 33 when she married my dad. My dad was 66. I was born about 9 months after they wed. It was my mothers first husband, my dads second wife (his first died of heart failure, they never divorced.) My dad had 7 kids in his first marriage. My mother and my father have had 3, including me. Some of my dads first group of kids are older than my mom. Well, I'm twenty now, my mom is in her fifties and my dad is in his eighties. My dads age has put tons of stress on my father. My father isn't the same man I remember even as a child. Senility is changes you severely. I feel that my dads age difference really gets my mom down now, because his declining health is VERY hard for her. Lets face it, when you get older you lose control of your bowls and urine control. However, my mom is very dedicated to my brothers and myself. My mom feels that my dad was a gift for her, because she had always wanted children. She feels that my dad was a gift to her because she feared that she would never get married and would die alone. She loves my dad, it is just extremely hard. My mother is a nurse by training and my dad is a retired surgeon. My moms training gives her the ability to care for such an older spouse but my dad has the ability to confuse things. So, in short, I believe age isn't a factor in love as long as you realize that you can't stop the aging process. The older one will probably die before the younger, and the aging process is very hard to take for most individuals. However, my mom is very happy she found my dad. I'm sure if she could do it all over again, she would do it again. Oh, and my dad was 2 years old that my moms dad. My moms dad died two years ago of heart failure. Also, my mother is VERY religious and relies on her faith when times get tough. My dad has provided for my mother and has ensured she has way more than enough money that she will ever need. My mother was NOT a gold digger, almost 21 years of marriage proves it. However, from past experience in a law office, some other men and women would not think twice about marrying someone for money...just to divorce them...
2016-05-22 23:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents exact same scenario; except my dad didn't have money... They grew apart; after 20 years, divorced. My mom still wanted to live a physical life (by that I mean travel, diff things) that my father just couldn't and that put a strain on them. My father's health was declining, a natural progression, and my mom found what she was looking for in a man her age.
2007-10-16 09:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Karla Marx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost guaranteed it has to do with money. It has as good a chance at lasting as any other.
30 yrs is a lot of time though I do like women 10 yrs younger or so personally
2007-10-16 07:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say about 30 to 1 against it lasting
2007-10-16 08:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by oldtomato 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't really matter what we think now does it? If they are already married then only time will tell if it will last or not. She needs emotional support if she really loves him because time will take him away at some point and what do you do when all your friends are gone and those who are not gone do not understand?
2007-10-16 07:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by k s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
age diffrence has nothing to do with it....they can both be the same age and still get divorced...
anyway i hope your all wrong, because i am 55 and my filipina wife is 25, we love each other very much and have to beautiful daughters.
2007-10-16 10:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by OCSreject 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the odds are against them...especially if she can't admit that money was a huge factor in marrying him....and the guy is a dumb *ss for marrying someone who is the same age as his children....
2007-10-16 07:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Slim to none.....His first serious illness will be the breaking point......if she stays through that she is in love......but my friend.....she bailed after her husband had a heart attack at 60. She was 30.
2007-10-16 07:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age means nothing it is motive that does. Since you can't really know her heart I guess you have to believe her. How she treats him will say alot. Maybe his motives aren't all that pure either, he could just want to look good with a younger women at his side.
2007-10-16 07:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by Connie D 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋