Newly single, looking for some peace of mind:?

Question

I'm newly single with 3 children at home. I'm slowly working into our new routine and trying to make the best of this new chapter in my life. I have begun journaling and that has helped me cope w/the loss of my old life; however, I feel like I need a little more to do to get at my true potential. Any books, websites, etc. you can suggest that will help me over the "hump"?

Answer 1

I would suggest getting active...Go for walks, you can even bring the kids with you, they can ride bikes, scooters, etc. while you walk. Join a gym if you have the money and/or time- most of them have a child care service that comes with your membership.
Start some projects around the house- rearrange some furniture, paint a room or two.
The key to putting the past behind you and not letting it interfere with the present is to keep yourself busy, especially your mind. These activities will keep you busy and change the scenery to drown out those old memories.
Also, surround yourself with friends and family that love you!

Don't listen to anyone who tells you "just get over it"...they obviously haven't ever been there.

Answer 2

I know how hard it is for you to raise 3 children on your own.

If you're a mother of three kids, try out these options:

1. Make new female friends who are nice and trustworthy. Go out with them for coffee once or twice a week. Making new female friends may help you open your channels again in life.

You can make female friends at the gymnasium, community centers, or even ask your family doctor or someone you trust if you know any nice female person you can talk to.

2. Go out to the parks in the morning. Refresh yourself with morning air for 15 - 30 minutes. Take your kids to the park too. All of you will benefit from that!

3. Visit your aunts, sisters, or someone close to you. Take the kids with you and try mingling with them.

4. If you'd like to read a book, get inspiration and motivation books from Wayne Dyer. I recommed you to read his books. They're very helpful and they'll soothen your heart and make you feel so much better about everything in life. When I finished reading a short book of his at night, I slept very well that night. Ask your local bookstores if they have his books. If they don't, just get any inspirational books.

5. If you like fitness, you can order a fitness tape from somewhere, plug it into your VCR and work out from home. My sister in law does that very much and she enjoys it.

6. Don't worry about anything else. Just take these advices and see what feels best for you - and how you can work around them.

Otherwise, we're always here to help you whenever you need us. Good luck!

Hope this helps :)

Answer 3

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I hope your new routine is rewarding to you for both you and the children!!

Answer 4

There are sooo many books I could reccomend, but the one that helped me through my two year divorce was "Do You Think I'm Beautiful" by: Angela Thomas. I would reccomend this to all women!!! I have three children of my own and I know how hard it is to transition. Angela Thomas actually has another one about being a single mom after divorce, I haven't read it but i'm sure it's great! Good Luck and God bless

Answer 5

I would start by paying attention to all the little ways in which your life is a bit happier now. It might sound trivial, but appreciating things like being able to eat what I want for dinner when I want to, watching what I want to watch on TV, listening to the music I like, hanging the art I like on the wall, and sprawling out diagonally taking up the whole bed at night helped me to maintain a positive attitude. And make plans to go out regularly with friends to do fun things. It makes you feel like part of the human race again.
I wish you the best. I know it ain't easy.

Answer 6

I don't think a book is what you need because a book can't help you analyze how you feel about what you have lost and what the best way you can move forward is.

I recommend you find a support group for newly divorced people and go to it. It always helps to know that you are not the only one going through the things you are.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I know it must be hectic raising 3 children on your own however maybe you could take some online classes to better yourself. You could get a degree or just take some random classes that interest you. It will keep you occupied and help improve your self confidence. I am 30 and in my first semester of college and I feel great. Good luck to you,

Answer 8

I know this sounds lame but watching Dr. Phil helped me realize I made a GOOD choice in leaving my ex and has given me tools to help my future relationships. Plus, Dr. Phil is always watching out for the kids in relationships so it helps too :)

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 9

Do you feel antsy?

My divorce isn't final and I feel antsy.

I don't know of any books, websites or whatever but what I'm trying is pole dancing. It will be interesting.

Answer 10

just get out and try new things go somewhere new and just get time to find you again, listen to new music and try new things you wont like everything and something might be hard...but thats all part of starting over.