Neither of us has dated seriously in a long time (a year or more.) We're mature, financially stable and have our own lives going. Never married/no kids. What's the best advice you can give me? I really want this one to work.
2007-10-16 08:26:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's 29 and I'm 30.
2007-10-16 09:22:58 · update #1
Read "the Rules"
2007-10-16 09:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be friends first, don't let outer appearances fool you, look deep inside the person, look for the qualities and the character of a person on the inside, just because someone may look nice on the outside, they may be rotten on the inside, and don't be so quick to have sex, anything worth having is worth waiting for, after two or three dates sex enters the picture, and then you fall in love, and the other person isn't as into you as you thought. So again don't be so quick to want to hop in the sack, if a person really cares for you they will see that there is more to you than just sex. Let the person know what you expect, that way there will be no surprises later
2007-10-16 09:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be best friends.
Make time for each other
Have common activities
MEET each others emotional needs!!
Each of you Take some SERIOUS time to understand how the opposite sex works Emotionally. --- Like what do men want, and what do women want. If you both understand this it will solve most marriage problems down the road.
Don't just read about these things. Make them part of your lives.
2007-10-16 09:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Seaesta 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like others have said, communicate. Be honest and open. If you don't want to go out because you are tired or your favorite TV show is on then tell him so. Don't make up some excuse that he won't believe. If he asks you a question that you don't want to answer don't make up something. Tell him that you are not ready to answer that yet. It's also important to make sure he knows that you want to be with him.
2007-10-16 09:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by kirk1500 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to treat each other with love and respect and don't pass judgment on each other. So far this has worked for me. And just spend as much quality time together as you can. But do remember that we all need our space sometimes.
Good Luck to you both!
2007-10-16 09:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you both don't need each other, make it a want each other. To me that's the best way to be in love, always wanting the other person.
2007-10-16 08:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what feels right. Try not to second-guess yourself too much. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst.
2007-10-16 08:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow and have fun.
Try to do something he likes then he should do something you like
Most important test the communication lines and get to know each other as friends first before sex.
2007-10-16 08:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slowly, be realistic in your expectations. Give yourselves time to get to know each other before getting in too deep.
2007-10-16 09:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen Sunflower. Don't stress the little things, and be willing to give the relationship your all.
2007-10-16 08:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋