me and my bf...we been in relationship from about 6 months...initially he was so caring and loving..but now from about 2-3 weeks..i'm feeling as if he is not loving me the way he used to do before..
me and my mom lives alone...and i don't have friends too...so many a times it happen that i really get down and low when i don't get the expected response from my bf..because he's the only one with whom i share all the stuff....and also i don't know..whether it has happened coincidentally that whenever i needed him really...he was never there...and since i don't have friends ..i'm not able to to get rid of certain things running through my mind.....i don't know what to do...i want my bf to have his own enough space but on the other side i want him to be with me too most of the time...as he'll be leaving for australia soon....what i expect is he should spend more time with me
....sometimes i feel as if i'm going wrong and not giving my bf enough space....but really i cant get over lonliness
2007-10-16 07:25:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to love who you are during the quiet spaces when it is just you alone before you can love someone else and feel secure whether he is there or not. I hate to be smothered and he may be getting aggitated about needing some space. We ALL need space. And you need to love yourself when you are alone so being alone feels great.
2007-10-16 07:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he be wrestling with the fact he'll be leaving you soon? That's my 1st guess. That could explain the change!
Have either of you hinted about taking the relationship to the "next level"? That's my 2nd guess. That could explain the change too.
If it is neither of those things, his hot first love for you is cooling.
If he wasn't moving to the other side of the moon I might suggest that you keep believing.
But I'm afraid your relationship will soon be toast. Australia is too far away!!!
On the other hand, there are nice girls in Australia, and you have no real claim on this guy. Just use him for practice, like he's probably using you right now.
You'd better decide what you'll do if he asks you to "wait" for him. Or he doesn't.
As they say, "There are other fish in the sea".
2007-10-16 07:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first clue is you have no friends, second clue is you still live with mommy, third clue is your bf is pulling away......you need to grow up, you need to improve your self image and you really need to learn some social skills. You sound needy and grasping and clingy too...if I were your boyfriend I'd run like hell away from you. I do not intend to be mean, but I am hoping to shock you into realizing that you cannot carry on a mature lasting relationship in the emotional mental state you are in now. Let me urge you to get yourself some counselling, a counsellor can help you learn to prioritize your needs and give you some good skills for meeting those needs.
2007-10-16 07:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making him your sole EVERYTHING. That is a lot to put on someone. He is your friend, your confidant, and your probably spending or trying to spend every waking moment with him. The truth of the matter is in every healthy relationship, people need space. It is probably not the fact that he doesn't love you it is that your are suffocating him. You need to find an outlet to release, and to spend your time like pottery class, maybe you could talk to your mom. What I'm saying is put some time into yourself instead of focusing all your energy into someone else
2007-10-16 08:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this, when you wake up, before you go to bed:
Wearing shoes, on a carpeted floor.
Do a fast-paced walk, taking small steps.
Do not move forward. Walk-in-place.
As you walk, move your arms back and forth across your upper body. Hands open.
Look straight forward.
Count 1, 2, etc. every time you step down your right foot.
Count until you get to 100 steps.
No big steps. Just small and quick steps.
This will push your metabolism up, endorphins will fill your body, and you will feel a LOT better.
Now time away from your boyfriend will not be so upsetting.
2007-10-16 07:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out and make some friends. He may not have the same attachment to you that you seem to have for him, especially since he knows he is leaving for Australia soon.
Don't be that dependent on anyone, and make friends of both sexes, not just boyfriends. That way you will always have someone to talk with and share your ideas and thoughts.
Good luck to you
2007-10-16 07:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the problem is with you .and you are probably chasing him away . you should have gotten use-to being alone by now, since you been like that all your life .as for your B/friend ,you can't force any thing on him .he should be able to see your needs and be there for you ,if he can't do that ,i would question your relationship with him
2007-10-16 07:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being way too dependent on your boyfriend for your own happiness...to the point that you are driving him away...get some friends and don't rely on him so much...maybe he is ready to call it quits with you...and is withdrawing because he doesn't want to hurt you..
2007-10-16 07:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in college? Go meet other people.
2007-10-16 07:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by NikonLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
meet new people
2007-10-16 07:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts Get Over It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋