2007-10-16 08:41:40 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes definatley, think of how she will feel if she finds out you knew and didnt say anything.
If my friend didnt say anything and I found out I would never talk to them again.
2007-10-16 08:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The tone of the question suggests it is directed at women.
Not being a woman I can't answer with the authority and knowledge I would like to have, but let me turn it around this way:
"Would I tell a friend his or her spouse is cheating?"
I would wait a while, first to be sure the spouse was cheating, and second to try to discern whether or not the friend already knew. If I was absolutely sure of the cheating and knew the friend was unaware of it I would try to find a way to break the news without hurting the friend.
This would be very difficult.
My first wife cheated on me and I knew all about it, although I usually didn't know specifics at the time she was messing around with a particular person. Our son was the one who eventually told me what I needed to know to make a decision. I divorced her and protected him by implying I had found out other ways.
There were others who knew who didn't know how to break it to me. I still considered them friends as I don't know what I would have done in their circumstances.
It was probably the most difficult time of my life.
2007-10-16 12:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know what I used to think yeah, tell. But as I've gotten older and seen couples divorce over infidelity, Do you really want to feel responsible for that? Some people would really rather not know. Some wives have an idea and would rather remain in a denial bubble. Especially if you know about her husband cheating, i'm sure she has a clue also. I would support her and let her cry on my shoulder, but a good friend shouldn't get involved unless he's buying hookers or doing something to endanger her health. Not that cheating isn't endangering her health, but I dont' know, I think people need to mind their own business as much as possible.
2007-10-16 08:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would!!
I got caught up in a mess a few years back when I knew my friends other half was playing around but decided to keep quiet.
When they split up, he then told her that I knew all along.
Her anger was immense and justified and the most painful thing to witness...we are no longer friends.
And I swore I'd never not tell a friend if I knew for sure!!!
2007-10-16 08:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you say nothing, you are in on it.
If you know that someone is being treated terribly you should blow the whistle. That's my opinion.
And that goes both ways - I would NEVER tolerate having a friend who cheats on her husband. Even if SHE is my primary friend - I did that once - I told the husband of a girlfriend that she cheated on him. My obligations are to what is right and wrong, not any one person. My friendship with her was over once I found she was having an affair anyway.
2007-10-16 08:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes I would tell my girlfriend if I knew for sure that her spouse was cheating....she is my dearest friend and deserves to know...besides if she found out that I knew and I didn't say anything....we would no longer be friends....
2007-10-16 08:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You know that one is a touphy. I will tell you why. If you told your friend and your friend decides to stay with her husband she probably told her husband that you told them. It causes trouble with your friendship. He will not want her to continue being friends with her and he would probably put the blame on you for the marriage almost breaking up. Your friend probably already knows he is cheating. Us women know but sometimes are in denile.
2007-10-16 08:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My BEST friend, or my GOOD friend- YES.
Someone I don't know very well yet, probably not. I would mind my own business unless we became closer.
If my best friend's hubby were cheating, I'd be more likely to make him tell her if I was the one who caught him, but I would make dam sure she knew about it!
2007-10-16 08:45:51 · answer #8 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
absolutely. You need to let her know so that she can get things straight. If you are a true friend you will let her know so that people will respect her and not talk behind her back. This guy sounds like a loser and she needs to get on with her life and find someone that will respect her and treat her like she needs to be treated.
2007-10-16 09:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YES!!! I would.....Been There.....and I lost my friend. But at least she knows that when she ever asked me did I know I told the truth. Sometime the Truth hurts and it does cost you something.....but if I had lied.....and she found out that I lied.....then when I see her at Walmart she would always know me as a liar......
I try really hard to tell the truth even if it may be painful.
2007-10-16 08:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a good moral question. You should tell her if she is your friend. If both are your friend it may backfire and they may both end up against you. Even if she's your friend she may not believe you. What to do what to do. If you decide to tell her you should have some kind of supporting evidence.
2007-10-16 08:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋