My fiance and I havent been getting along very well lately...he is gone on an out of town trip with seven other co-workers (male and female)...he called while ago and said he got to where he was supposed to be and now he has to go work again...he said to not call his cell bc he is leaving it plugged up to get charged in his room while he's gone (which he has never done) and he'll call me around 9:00 ish...am i overreacting by thinking hes up to no good or does it sound fishy to you too????
2007-10-16 10:02:02 · 31 answers · asked by gracey 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not to say that anything is going on, but I'd like to let you in on a story I seen firsthand with my co-workers.
I am a manager and about 9 of us managers held a 2 day planning session in a city 45 minutes away. We spent the night, so in the evening all had drinks. I got a call to go to one of the rooms for drinks around midnight, went in and was completely disgusted. 3 married men and one married woman were acting awful. The woman had her shirt off and was bouncing on the laps of the 3 of the men! All with kids at home too!! She ended up spending the night in one of the guys rooms.... you can bet the spouses never found out either! I was the only unmarried person there, and I could not believe what I had seen.
Maybe you could get a mutual friend to call his cell or one of your friends call his cell looking for you?? It will remind him that he has a wife and maybe if he is doing anything stop him. If you have a gut feeling something is wrong, don't brush it off as nothing. Best of luck!
2007-10-16 10:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Why haven't you been getting along lately? Was the impending trip the reason?
You have been together how long? Has he ever given you a reason in the past to make you doubt his word?
If you've never had any indication in the past that he can't be trusted, leave him alone. If you have had reason to be concerned, then worry yourself to death.
The reality of the situation is:
He's miles away from you. You can choose to trust him or you can choose to be suspicious. I've always felt that the person that's suspicious is the one that can't be trusted.
I have been married for almost 25 years to a man who I've never worried about having anything "fishy" going on.
The biggest reason for that is a decision to have mutual trust.
I was married previously (only lasted 7 years) to a man who didn't trust me at all. I hardly ever went anywhere without him, when I wasn't with him I was usually at home or maybe shopping with my Mom and he constantly accused me of "running around".
I can honestly say I never did but after being accused and knowing he was always suspicious I had many moments of thinking I should have. I just don't believe that being unfaithful is an answer for anything, just creates another problem.
I don't believe in calling anyone at work unless the situation is close to desperate. Emergencies that can't wait. When someone is working they are supposed to be doing just that, working. If not they are guilty of "theft", "theft of company time".
Call your closest girl friends, see if they are busy and have dinner out and maybe take in a movie.
Most people will live "down" or "up" to what is expected of them. So why not just expect the best from your fiance until he gives you some concrete evidence that you shouldn't.
Calm down, Be safe and have a relaxing evening.
Good Luck
2007-10-16 17:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Grannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been getting along that well lately I wouldn't push the issue now but I would watch to see what happens next and not plan the wedding until you are sure one way or the other. It may be that he is charging the phone because there are some areas where a phone is not allowed or shouldn't be - a church, a courtroom, or perhaps in an important meeting - and when he gets back, you can always check the call history or text message history when he isn't aware of it to see if he erased it or something is there that shouldn't be. If you are engaged and not getting along that well, tell him no marriage before counseling to handle the problems that make you not get along well. Good Luck To you!
2007-10-16 17:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get the answer you are looking for. The closest you can get is by confronting him when he gets home, but all you'll really get is a fight.
Either way, what would be the better thing waiting for him when he gets home: You in a suspiscious state of mind, ready for a fight, or you with an evening full of elements that remind him of how lucky he is to have you. If there is soemthing going on, and you pick the latter, he'll not risk a big juicy hunk of seasoned steak at home for a little junk food burger on the side. Either way you will not find the answer to your question.
2007-10-16 17:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of what does he do that prohibits him from an occasional ''I LUV U'' text msg from his wife? Don't get me wrong...work is work and he shouldn't be distracted...BUT DAMN your his wife and if you want to call or text him a simple little I LUV U why the heck can't you. Do you guys have children? If something happens to you, the kids, the house, his parents you can't contact him until he's ready to be contacted???? I don't like that one bit. I don't wanna say he's cheating, but I can't say he's being a good boy either....probably just being a real jerk at the most.
2007-10-16 17:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down......don't assume the worst.....if he said he was plugging in his phone to charge he probably is. If he calls you around nine, then you should know he is on the up and up. He's thinking enough of you to call you right. You're overreacting. Find something to do with your time so you don't pace back and forth around the phone. You are spending to much time worrying about nothing.
2007-10-16 17:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds fishy.
2007-10-16 17:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if it sounds fishy, I do know that I would want to be able to get in touch with my man not matter what time I called. Call him and tell him how this reguest to not call him sounds to you. If he acts defensive then that should tell you something.
2007-10-16 17:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your inner self.Have you had suspitions before,and was he doing anything wrong?Do you have a reason to not trust him.Are there girl clubs anywhere around where he is at?You have to trust him if you are going to marry him.Do what you can and don't be afraid to tell him he is acting like he was hiding something.You have to be honest now.Ask yourself why you haven't been getting along.Has he been treating you differently.Talk to him.
2007-10-16 17:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless his phone has been off the charger for more than 24 hrs. most phone don't need to charge like that. Follow your heart hun you know him better than we do. My husband travel all the time and I have never had him to tell me that. you should have asked him for one of his co-workers numbers in case of an emergency, see what he tells you then!
2007-10-16 17:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by bingomom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋