I'm an Indian girl married for more than 1 year.My mother in law is causing too many misunderstandings between me & my husband.Please advise me if my husband can divorce me on the ground that:
1.) My in-laws don't like me.
2.) I don't get along well with my mother in law & can't live with her in future.She is presently living separately from us as we are settled abroad.
I would also like to add that she subjected me immensely to mental cruelty because of possessiveness about her son.
2007-10-16 10:53:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
None of these two reasons you have mentioned here are the conditions/reasons required for the purpose of divorce under any of the matrimonial laws applicable to Indians, unless you happen to be Muslims & married according to the Muslim Shari’at laws where the husband can give triple divorce within a span of three months for any reasons including these. Rather you have stated that you have been subjected to mental cruelty by your mother in law, which remains a ground of defense against any move by your husband to proceed for divorce on any of the given grounds for divorce against you which are cruelty, desertion of two years or more, adultery etc. Your husband can request you for divorce by mutual consent, which is no cause/fault divorce for which you can always refuse if you want to live with him & not dissolve your marriage. I see no reason for you to panic in such a situation, rather be calm as you now live away from her & wait for time to pass. Best of luck!
2007-10-16 18:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i doubt that the indian courts would accept the 2 reasons you listed as a reason for him to divorce you, since it is a marriage between the 2 of you, not the 3 of you.
You suffer, like many others, from the Monster-In-Law syndrom. You should be very happy that she is very far away, and you should try to convince your husband to keep it that way.
The mother in law wants only the very best for her son and is very demanding and annoying, very picky about everything. This will never stop.
I understand this to be the Indian cultur, that it is the woman's sole responsibility to make the relationship work...
You can only hope and pray that your husband will keep her far enough away from you. If he does not, maybe you will have reason to divorce him, if that is what you want.
2007-10-16 11:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are divorcing in the United States he dose not have to give a reason or he can even make one up. Marriage is hard enough when it's just the two of you but your mother in law is not helping out by causing trouble. I know that you are upset with her but really this is your husbands fault. He allows her to get involved and sounds like he is a baby and not a man ready for a wife. You and him should be on the same team. Sounds like it's you against him and his mother.
I am sorry that you are going through this however, I do not understand why you would continue to subject yourself to this mental cruelty by a woman who is abroad and be with a man who is a child.
2007-10-17 09:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what do you want you want your Husband to desert his Mother?? Can you stop all contacts with your parents totally - to him you are speaking / made to believe all this due to instigation by your parents. I am not pointing fingers at you - or blaming your parents, knowingly/ unknowingly it could happen and same shoudl probably be the case with your MIL. Do you think our parents would enjoy inflicting pain on you - same is with your MIL - Divorce all know that is equally painfull to both Husband and Wife!!
Do not break up!! Divorce easy as it might sound is difficult to cope up with. Try seeking external help through post marital counsellors. Give it a try
Its your 2s life so you 2 need to work it out - with adjustments and sacrifices equally by both
2007-10-16 23:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear needy
divorce in india is not so easy process ... but before i could explain u further let me tell u need divorce more then ur husband .. ur the victim and sufferer ...ok thats upto u to decide ...
coming back to divorce ... it takes atleast 6 yrs for the indian courts to decide abt marriage if two party hasn't consent on marriage ... if u dont want to get separated .. u can pull it for 7 yrs in lower court ... and again apply for higher court and then high court ... then to supreme court if u have patience ... all this can be stretched till 20 yrs then both of u can become old and unhappy ...
even when ur husband might have green card .. he can get divorce in 6 months but indian court doesnt approve it as divorce so u can come back and fight it out ... the above mentioned points doesnt hold good for divorce in india
last piece of advice ... if u have american born child then sorry u cant even take him with u .. since u would be book with case of parental abduction and u would end up in jail ... if u really wanna have child have it in india to be safe ...
bye
2007-10-16 16:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he has rights! Geesh, think about what you're saying?! You need an atorney to amend your custody agreement. They are his children too and he has a right to have a voice in ALL matters concerning them. Dopn't just hop up and leave with those kids without getting a written court order saying you're allowed to do so OR you just might find yourself losing custody in the end.
2016-03-13 00:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are the one with the grounds for divorce. anyway you cant divorce someone because you dont like them after marriage or your mother in law cant get along with you or some other irrelevant reasons.
what has to be proved is legal "fault". examples are adultery, cruelty, desertion, impotency, unsound mind etc.
2007-10-16 11:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him divorce you. He is a mommas boy and it will only get worse for you unless you enjoy living under the thumb of your mother in law.
2007-10-16 10:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
in California your husband can divorce you for any reason
2007-10-16 11:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really dont need a reason to get divorced...you can do it for no reason!
2007-10-16 10:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by jenluvslife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋