I just lost my wife of 12 years to cancer.
2007-10-16 10:50:27 · 23 answers · asked by cutter1r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait until you are ready. Dating too soon could cause you to hurt someone who is innocent and doesn't see it coming. For now, focus on yourself. You will know when you're ready to take steps toward a new love life.
Good luck!
2007-10-16 10:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad to hear...and sorry for you loss. My mother in law got married 6 months after my husband dad died of cancer. They had been married 25 years when he passed. She was so used to having someone there she needed a person to be there. I know that sounds terrible but some ppl cope that way. They just need someone there even if they really are not compatable. Which I dont think they are because they always bicker...but the more I think about it so did my grandparents so maybe that is just what older ppl do.
2007-10-16 17:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Start dating only when you feel ready. Don't let anyone tell you that it is wrong to be doing it too early or that you're waiting too long. You need to heal. That is different for every person. Just know that your experiences with new people will tell you also if you are ready or not. Sometimes we think we are ready and we really are not. ?? Best wishes and prayers always for you.
2007-10-16 18:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by puppy.lover13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Cutter1r,
Sir, first of all I would like to extend my condolences for your wife loosing her battle with cancer.
Only you know if you are healed from loosing your wife. It is my opinion that love has no time lines. I do not see any harm if you meet a nice lady and would like to spend some time with her. Take your time and not do this on immediate rebound. That would not be fair to the lady.
2007-10-16 18:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say personally, but I've heard there comes a day when the weight of your loss becomes less than the life that you're living - and you can put your emotional baggage in a closet and face the sunshine again with a smile.
2007-10-16 18:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still alive and I am sure your wife would want you to date as soon as you are ready. Sorry about the loss of your wife. You need not to feel guilty because everyone needs someone in thier life. Have fun.
2007-10-16 17:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a matter of time but how u feel with it..Year can pass and if u still feel the same dont make no sence. But if a few months go by, and ur ready to start dating, its all up to u, not time.
2007-10-16 17:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something only you can answer. But, when you married, the term of the "contract" was "until death do you part" Sadly, your wife has passed. Date if and when you wish. It's no-body's business but yours. I'm very sorry about your wife.
2007-10-16 18:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is follow your heart. If you still do not feel ready, then give yourself some time. If you are asking this question to a bunch of strangers are they really going to know what is best for you? If you follow what your heart tells you, you can't go wrong.
2007-10-16 17:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different only you can answer this cause you know how you feel in your heart....
I am sorry you lost your wife to cancer...That is a hard thing to deal with....
2007-10-16 17:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋