Should I run or fight for my rights ?
I am going through a divorce with my husband. My husband is blackmailing me to come to a settlement on his terms. He has bleckmailed me every possible way includign brining a cop to my house and threatening to take the dog away on charges of me abusing the dog. ( I have single handedly brought up my dog like a baby for the last two years). When that dint healp, he started harassing everyone in my family includign trying to take away my sister's job, calling up and harrassing my parents, threatning me of any and evething (very smartly and cautiously within legal limits). The problem is that we own a business that he wants to take control of and cheat me with the money. Should i stay and fight and run for my sanity ?
My attorneys ask me to fight with this pyshychopath to be able to make my future secure but i am at a stage of running away considering a new threat that comes my way.
2007-10-16 16:38:54 · 15 answers · asked by Romi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Which of you is the heart of the business?
2. Would the business excel with out him or with out you?
If the answer to #1 is him...
OR
If the answer to #2 is the business would be in trouble without either of you.
The give up the fight over the business. Why go through all of the pain and crap just to win and empty victory? What do you get if you win? A business that fails.
If the business needs you to succeed and you truly feel you can make it work without him, then FIGHT. It will be worth the effort.
2007-10-16 17:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, we all have that fight or flight instinct in us when we feel threatened. And for some, running away would actually be best. But not in this case. I whole heartedly agree with your attorney. You need to fight this jerk, but do it in a way that beats him at his own game. . .restraining orders. Have everyone in your family file one, including yourself. You have just cause, they have just cause and this way, the threats are simply idle...meaning he can't do anything to any of you.
Sweetie, he wants you to cave and he knows that family and the dog are important to you, so he's hitting you in a weak spot. If you take your weaknesses out of his reach, he's got nothing.
You can do this. You know you can. And it'll be over soon, you just have to toughen up a little. After it's over, he'll be out of your life and you will be able to move on with what you are entitled to. And if you have a hard time taking the money, consider it pain in the @ss compensation.
Keep your chin up.
2007-10-16 16:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your attorneys want you to fight. Otherwise they don't make any money.
His number should be blocked from all the telephones in the family so he can't harass them.
There should be laws that govern the splitting of the company. Stop acting like you give a darn about anything that was yours/his/ours during the marriage. I would have handed the dog over (and I am sure he would have handed it back).
Don't let him see that you care a hoot.
2007-10-16 16:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's threatening "very smart and cautiously
within legal limits". Well "trying to take away your
sisters job", is grounds for a civil suit.
Threaten back, - within legal limits.
Let your lawyer advise you.
2007-10-16 16:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately stand your ground. It will be hard because he's obviously determined, but if you let him do it then he'll take everything and you'll end up with nothing. You should get a good lawyer and make sure you get at least half of what's rightfully yours. You might have to be sneaky just like he is to teach him you won't take his mind games.
Don't give up!
2007-10-16 16:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont run, dont let him win. You should stay and fight do whatever you have to. File a restraining order and have all of your family do the same. If he keeps calling call the police department (not 911) and tell them you are getting harrasing phone calls, do whatever you can but dont run. good luck!!
2007-10-16 16:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and fight, the cops should be forced to watch over your house like an garden angel.
2007-10-16 16:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your soon to be ex wants you to tuck your tail and run. Fight for what is yours. He has proven that he can fight dirty. Let him. Document his threats and actions and use it against him. At some point, this bully will be beaten at his own game.
2007-10-16 16:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your appropriate chum isn't your appropriate chum doing what he did.i think of your appropriate chum has thoughts on your quickly to be husband friendi if i've got been her i could get the marriage annulled if the marriage became into very final or if no longer do no longer marry the guy.this situation is basically going to get better
2016-10-09 09:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should both sit down and as hard as it might be talk to him (be calm) and ask him why he is doing this. he will always be a huge problem in your life if you only focus on the negative. see what's botherig him, talk to him and try to be civil with eachother.
2007-10-16 16:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by copy^cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋