what to do if two people want to marry withuot parents consent and they are both of marriagable age??

Question

how should one ensure that your parents or other gaurdians dont get to know o your marriage and that no notice is sent to your home??

Answer 1

If both the parties are Hindu by religion, of marriageable age i.e. bride 18years & groom 21 years, then they can marry in any Arya Samaj Mandir, get a marriage certificate for this marriage & get this marriage registered by the Marriage Registrar under section 8 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. No notice is sent for such marriage or its registration under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. In case the parties live & get married in Delhi they require only one witness for this marriage who should be a gazetted officer, who will not only attest their age certificate/proof but also appear as a witness for their marriage registration. In other states two independent adult witnesses are required for this purpose. After all these formalities of marriage declare it to the parents & let them give blessings & arrange for marriage reception. No need getting married under the Special Marriage Act,1954 where a copy of the one month notice to any marriage is sent to both the parents on the permanent address of the parties, although they cannot rise any objection to such marriage if all the necessary conditions about the age, marital status, mental status & relationship between then within the prohibited degree doesn't exist, but the maximum what they can do is create scene in the court room of the marriage officer on the day of marriage for which they can be handed over to the police for creating all such nuisance by the marriage officer.

Answer 2

Would your parents or his parents have any objections? Sounds like they would. Eventually they will find out, so it is best to prepare in a good way.

Ask your best friend and/or closest person who gives you good advice something. Ask them if your parents might be right, listen with an open mind and heart. Think about it. If it still does not matter to you, and you are both still in love, then marry anyway. I only suggest the above so you will be able to answer your parents honestly that you took their feelings into consideration, but were also an adult and in love.

They eventually will find out. As long as you act like you seriously considered there feelings and thoughts first, then acted like a grown adult next, they really can say nothing.

Also, when you fill out all the marriage forms, give a different address so when they mail you some documents, your parents wont get it. Perhaps rent a post office box?

Best wishes.

Answer 3

It's not anyone's business but your own if you are over age. You don't need parental permission at all. However, life can be difficult if your parents or any other family and friends don't approve of your partner, so do your best to figure out what the issue is and if possible, resolve it. They may have completely legitimate reasons. My in-laws had it against me for ages thinking I was a gold digger. They are wealthy, so it was a reasonable concern. Considering the tinsy flats we were living in, they ought to have gotten over it sooner. Actually, they didn't start speaking to me until I got pregnant, four and a half years into our relationship. None of us like my sister's boyfriend as he is rude and arrogant, but we're all polite. We don't like Mum's partner either, but we're polite. If all else fails you use the oldest of all techniques, and avoid whoever gives you trouble.

Answer 4

Secret marriages are so cliche and overdone. If you both live at home; why not try for matching secret puppies instead? When your families pitch a fit over the new animals. Agree to get rid of them, only if they let you wed. If this doesn't work; then keep accumulating animals, care products, and toys until they give in.
Seriously though ... why do they object? Do they have legitimate and rational concerns and objections?

Answer 5

If both are at marriageable age, they can opt for a registered marriage in the sub registrars office in the locality. They need two witnesses. They can also arrange a simple marriage function in the local temple, church or public place. However, in both cases it is not a good idea to keep the information secret from the parents and relatives because they are bound to know about it sooner or later.

Answer 6

you dont need anybodys permission to get married. your parents dont have to be present during your marriage. if you marry as per hindu customs no notice is given to your parents.

if you decide to get married behind you parents back be sure that if anything goes wrong you have the resources to deal with problems all alone in future.

Answer 7

Sooner or later you're bound to be found out. You might be as well be upfront now rather than live a lie. Re-consider your thoughts of keeping a secret and spare yourself tons of problems and heart aches awaiting down the road.

Answer 8

If u want to do something just do it....don't worry about what will your parents or other people think about it...n it's really very difficult to hide a marriage so if you think like that you're wrong already in the beginnig...
At your place i would talk to my parets n try to explain them how much it's important to me this thing...after all they're human being...i think they'll understand you...otherwise you just do what you want

Answer 9

if u don't get married by parents consent be sure any thing happens there will not be there to support the boy or girl can be up to other tricks

Answer 10

Ex-change of ur rings make u get married and ur parents doesnt come to know that u have got married ...........
Get married in the Register office and live apart even that also doesn`t make to know ur parents that u have married