even if again and again he/she'll break your heart, why some are still believe in loving her/him.
(for married people)
even if they're wife/husband cheated, why they still forgive and accept her/him again?
2007-10-16 16:49:06 · 13 answers · asked by ivan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've learned to forgive, but not forget. My husband has done some things that as a boyfriend he would have been long gone for. But a marriage is a lifelong committment. I'll say this though, why people stay with a cheater is beyond me. I'd never be able to look at him the same or put my full trust in him and that ruins the relationship.
2007-10-16 16:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the saying 'To err is human, to forgive is divine'. I'm not saying you should be a 'whipping post' for someone, but each person can only do what is right for them. I can never justify his cheating, but I also could not leave him when I tried to do so; my heart would not allow me to go. Why? Guess the sincere remorse he felt, the care & concern and tenderness he showed me; the look in his eyes and on his face when he realized what he created by his 'one-night stand'. The fool and idiot he professed to be. I was like many others saying I would never stay if this happened and truly thought I would not and the only reason I did is because I heard the utter wailings, tears and sobs coming from his very soul; that could not be faked and knew he did love me so much and his heart was breaking along with mine. You'd have to know him; he has always been a kind, truthful, caring, tender, affectionate and loving person. Think it all caught him by surprise also. He knew what he was doing when he did it, I know that - yet I believe him when he says he will never, ever hurt me again. No matter what anyone else thinks, I know that we were meant to travel through this life together; we have held each other up through so much in the past and this was the hardest thing to get through but we survived it winners, not bitter enemies but still gloriously in love with each other. Why still love him? Guess, just because I do.
2007-10-17 00:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a good question! I got my heart broken by my first love, but for some reason when I think back I only remember the good times & the sweet things he did - not the bad. However, I will not ever let anyone in my heart that way again I guess to protect myself from more pain. I am married and I love my husband, but nothing he could do would ever hurt me the way my first love did. I guess it's self preservation & maybe the grass is always greener on the other side kinda thing.
2007-10-16 23:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it is something you feel deep within your soul. That no matter what wrong may take place you always find space and compassion to forgive. It is not the need for this person but the desire to love them unconditionally and whole. Life is too short for some and you may not wake in the morning do you want to know the last thing was anger or a deep feeling of love which can never be replaced.
2007-10-17 01:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by mc52132000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime people make me mistakes. You learn to forgive and forget. As for people who know that they are cheating (Sometimes it's accidents due to another person kissing) then they are still loved by their other because it's hard to quit loving someone once you've fallen. To just stop and never love them again is a crazy idea and hurts more than being hurt in the first place.
2007-10-16 23:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Britt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes from within. And it is truely from the heart and soul. As a wife I have been though somethings with my husband and if it wasnt for constant prayer I dont think we would make it. Its hard to trust after trust have been broken but its hard to leave when love is so strong. But for me forgiveness is part of life and its not the person we accept its what they have done and trying to move pass it.
2007-10-17 00:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by poohbeark19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a good question. I am with the love of my life right now but it has been the most painful relationship I have ever been in. We are not married. At least I am not. It has also been the happiest relationship I've ever had because I love him like I've loved no other. It's so hard to make a break from someone you love so much and yet something in the back of your mind tells you to run, run very fast. I have forgiven many things and ask myself everyday why? Love is blind...plain and simple!!!!
2007-10-16 23:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Heaven 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because some people just refuse to give up hope of change, luckily for me, my patience paid off and the tyrant I lived with is now my very loving husband.
2007-10-17 13:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because love is blind, and sometimes makes you blind to the things that they do wrong. Also, sometimes true love is when you accept the fact that you love a person, even if they're not perfect or they don't love you back.
2007-10-16 23:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love truly is blind.I know my ex-girlfriend probably won't come back,but if she does more than likely I will only remember the good times and take her back. because I still love her with all my heart just something I can't help.
2007-10-17 00:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Big B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋