He has never did anything wrong to me...never. Is it that I just don't trust men?
2007-10-16 16:37:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe because you arent really close.. you should spend time with your husband and tell him about this... he might get a little angry but slowly he will gain your trust... right?
:D
2007-10-16 16:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by dandlylion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again another woman writes in to complain about her husband, why is it always the man who is the one who is the bad guy and who gets stepped on by his wife? Its no wonder men are backing away from marriage, with that aside, heres my personal opinion of what is going on with you. As I see it this isnt a trust issue at all, it is a self esteem issue that you have living within yourself, its not that you dont trust men its all about you not trusting yourself! You have some hangups that will one day make it to where your husband gets fed up with you and finds himself a new honey that is confident and sure of herself, you see, men find that attractive, men love a woman who is sure of herself and in turn has faith and trust with her man. So let go of these doughts that you have hammering away at your brain, because like I said, its not about men its all about you. Once you love yourself and trust yourself everything else will just kinda fall in place. Good Luck To U !
2007-10-16 23:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were in a previous relationship that trust was broken. You may feel as though your husband is going to break your trust.
From my experience I have learnt to trust again it makes a relationship a better, happier and healthier place. Just give it ago and see.
If you still cant trust him, you need to seek professional help.
Good luck with it all.
2007-10-16 23:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Island Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the samething with my husband. For me it was MY problem ... I had lost someone close to me (a man I was going to marry passed away, I met my now husband 3 years later) and I thought if I don't let him in, he cannot hurt me. He asked me one day about things that had been going on, this is was just after we were married, I told him how I felt and what I was going thru in my heart and mind. I loved him, still do, but was scared of the unknown parts of life ...
It was an eye opening time for me, I now not only trust him, but I love him more. I know that sounds cheesy, but its true. We have been happily married 3 years and together 4.
2007-10-17 00:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by PSYCHO DAISY MAE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have done something to not trust him. I used to turst me husband up until about a month ago when we started to get phone calls and I would answer and she would say sorry wrong number and then when we got the phone bill the number was on there alot and now I check it online so there has to be a reason is he being sneckey about something
2007-10-16 23:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Melinda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heavens sake, give yourself a break & trust the man! Why burden yourself w/worrying & mistrust when you don't even have to or have any reson to. I know MORE men who are trust worthy than not! You've been watching too much TV or reading too many magazines. Cut yourself a break & your husband too & don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you!!! Think positive unless you have reason to believe otherwise. Sure makes for a much happier life...
2007-10-16 23:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be some reason that you don't trust men....perhaps it has something to do with your father, old boyfriend, or an ex husband.....You just don't trust men for no reason....you should see a therapist to get to the root of your problem with trusting....
2007-10-16 23:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because at some point you feel insecure with yourself that's why you always feel that you can't trust your husband to be loyal to you. You always feel that you are not good enough for your husband (or for anybody else). The secret to this one is being honest. Tell your husband about it and try to work it out. After all, he is your husband right?
2007-10-16 23:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by KCÜ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love does not require trust.
That is only in movies and on Oprah. Love requires love. That's it.
IMO...Trust is not something given, it is something earned. Not by one or two great actions, but by many, many small actions. Once you stop thinking "do/should I trust him" then you do trust him.
Remember not to hold him any higher than yourself, for he probably feel the same way about you.
2007-10-17 00:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be with someone you don't trust? You must have trusted him at one time to marry him... Sounds like more of your problem, not his. If his conscience is clean, he sleeps soundly at night. As for you, you keep thinking and thinking.... Books about this topic might help you overcome this problem. Definitely not healthy!
2007-10-16 23:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha Jones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going thru the same thing with my bf... i think its cuz some one has hurt me in the past and i just dont think all guys are capable of being faithful or something.
I just told my bf when it gets more into the relationship and he comes thru with a bit more promises and stuff il start to trust him
2007-10-16 23:40:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋